The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

polaroid

so true, how many times have you come downstairs and thought "i didnt eat that....did i??". i actually find when i drink it suppresses my appetite but the next day when i am feeling all lathargic all i want are carbs, like bread or pasta or pizza. like you say bismarck, probably the body trying to soak it all up...god the things we do to ourselves...this is a real eye opener for me....i ve never let myself think too much about the damage before. i am 28 i wonder what damage i have actually done..:eek:

Bismarck

the best thing is you're seeing this from an early age...the AA Meetings I went to I was regularly one of the youngest...usually I was the youngest....that led me to think that there are a heck of lot of people like me doing what I was doing and not realising....the earlier you can tackle this the better and it gives you more time to heal yourself in all ways. despite the way I felt sometimes, my body was not designed to deal with what I put it through.....denial changed nothing.

jo1972

I'm the opposite as far as eating is concerned. As soon as I've had my first mouthful of beer, I will not eat anything. I fill up on drink and have no appetite whatsoever, it doesn't matter how hungry I was before i started drinking. I used to spend an hour or 2 in the kitchen making a complicated meal for the family, I'd be drinking as I'm doing it, I would never eat any of it, wouldn't even get a plate out for myself. I would wake up feeling carp and not be able to eat anything in the morning, I'd have a blow out lunch then not eat again till lunch time the next day. I was literally getting my calories from drink I think.

But, now I've stopped drinking, my god, do you think I can stop eating :eek: :eek: I've had an evening meal every day for the last month! I've eaten breakfast for the last 2 days for the first time in years and by lunch I'm ravenous!! In fact, getting hungry now!!

polaroid

Bismarck, i am finding your posts really helpful, you have obviously given this a hell of a lot of thought and reflection. you are very inspiring. can i just ask you, did you start going to AA once you had stopped drinking and was it something that you were made to do or did you just start going of your own back?

polaroid

jo1972 - you are making me hungry! had breakfast hours ago! normally i would just be getting up now!!! thanks again to everyone for posting. i want to beat this

jo1972

polaroid wrote: »

i want to beat this

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eselt

Hi All- well done everyone:T :T :T

I was just thinking about the weight thing- I didn't lose any either and when I mentioned it to my alc CPN he said that a lot of people who drink a lot firstly don't eat properly full stop, but also are permanently dehydrated which means you are carrying less weight in fluids-so you are 'artificially' lower in weight- when you rehydrate you can put on up to 10Ilbs in fluids alone as your body readjusts. I must admit I used to struggle to eat when I was drinking, I either felt hungover or hated that 'full' feeling that loads of solid food gives because I was only used to feeling full of alcohol. Mind you I can't believe how eating properly maes you feel-more positive, mentally stronger, more energetic- and we need all the help we can get to beat this so bring on the fruit, veg and chocolate I say!!

Beachbeth- I forgot to say in earlier posts how lucky your daughter must be to have such a great 21st organised for her, it sounded fab (did you get to go in the limo??? Always wanted to do that....). Sorry your mum didn't manage to behave...but the positive is, at least everyone isn't talking about your bad drunken behaviour this morning and you didn't let your daughter down- well done for being so philosophical about it:T :T :T

Have a great weekend everyone- I might set up a thread to suggest a 'MSE Star Awards' competition, putting Jo and Bis forward as 'Best Support Nominees':T . Good luck everyone .

Bismarck

polaroid wrote: »

Bismarck, i am finding your posts really helpful, you have obviously given this a hell of a lot of thought and reflection. you are very inspiring. can i just ask you, did you start going to AA once you had stopped drinking and was it something that you were made to do or did you just start going of your own back?

timescale :

in a complete and utter mess....didn't know how to get out.....had plenty of warning signs.....last drink on a Sunday night in June 07...initially denied it...confessed and we concluded I had to do something...agreed to go to AA a few days later - next local meeting ( and did the 3 or so days until then dry by myself) and it kind of opened a lot of doors in my mind....the tears set in when I realised how far it had gone and the penny dropped that there were people like me...who lived locally and who you'd never guess....then I realised that I had a choice and picked myself up and started walking back to where I should have been.

I'm still on that road and it's not all been fun and laughter but it's the right road and that will suit me fine.

So counselling sessions 1 (6 months earlier to do with stress), AA meetings about 15 spread over 6 months, Doctor visits 0, Hospital visits 0. Medical record : OK so far as I know although dropping a few pounds would be good. Mrs Bis has just brought me a carrot, freshly peeled......:rolleyes:.

I'm glad to be alive.

beachbeth

I did get to go in the limo, Eselt. We had ordered two so there was room for everyone. It was a surprise for my daughter's birthday and she loved it! Glad my mum went home at that point and didn't come with us! (She's in her 70's and isn't really into going to pubs and clubs!)

Just another illustration of how alcohol causes nothing but trouble:

Daughter's boyfriend was so out of his face that he thought it was funny to pinch another lad's backside, who was also out of his face. He got hit twice by this lad who didn't want another bloke doing that! On the way home in the taxi he also thought it would be a good idea to try and jump out of the taxi window. My daughter and friends managed to pull him back but then he managed to do it and fell out. I don't think they were going that fast because he wasn't badly hurt or anything. It just shows what effect drinking can have on us. He could kill himself one day, he's just an idiot when drunk!

polaroid

thanks for your post and for been so honest bismarck,you seem so together now.
just got back from a lovely day out. went for a pub lunch and i managed to resist the usual 2 or 3 (well it is bank hol) large glasses of wine i would have normally had. Had a J20 and 2 cokes - i felt very hyper and my teeth feel funny. am home now and really really fancy a beer, have found one lurking all nice and cold at the back of my fridge. my mind is playing nasty games with me. .."one cant hurt"..."its bank holiday sunday"....."it would be lovely to sit in the garden on this lovely evening" ..."its impossible to have more than 1 as i literally dont have anymore"....etc etc. i've just made a coffee. i ll let you know how i get on! xx:eek: