The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

jo1972

Hiya Bismarck, pleased you're back

Hope you had a good time?

xx

Bismarck

jo1972 wrote: »

Didn't go to the wedding reception last night, it's kind of ironic - if you remember I didn't want to go because it either means abstaining and being stuck in a party watching everyone get drunk and the only person I would know is OH or saying s0d it, drink like a fish, get drunk and not care that I know no-one else but OH. Well, OH went out on Friday night, got completely bladdered, didn't get home till 6am Sat morning and couldn't get out of bed till 4.30pm and said there is absolutely no way he could go to the party Oh it made my day - felt sorry for OH suffering from alcohol posioning, and he is very stupid considering he's only just found out he's got too much iron in his liver and binge drinking is very dangerous :eek:

pleased about your party story...kind of feared for you but it turned out OK in the end....your OH really does need to watch it though!

Bismarck

mollypolly wrote: »

I am here Jo.:hello: :hello:
How are you doing?

LOL about your OH.Hope he has recovered from Friday.What on earth do you say when he rolls in at that time of the morning.I woud be fuming.I think that would make me drink all night waiting up for him.

Are you just having the two tonight.
I am on eleven weeks today.Really can,t beleve it.I never thought I would get this far.I feel fab but it would be so easy to slide.I was thinking today maybe I could just have one glass of wine but I dont want to spoil this and I really think one just woudn't be enough.So its on with the Becks 0%.

Good luck to you and everyone else on here trying to give up/cut down.Hope you all wake up tomorrow 'un-hung-overed';)

Love Mollypolly:happylove xxxx

excellent....

don't risk the one drink!

if what you're doing is working, don't adjust it....one drink could lead to hundreds! you're winning the battles and it should be getting easier! I'm really pleased for you!

Bismarck

jo1972 wrote: »

I always feel on a right downer after AA meetings, as much as I can understand and sympathise with everyone there, I find it hard enough dealing with my own thoughts let alone everyone else. This thread is amazing though in this respect, cos you can read, think then respond in your own time rather than having a dozen people staring at you!

It took me a while to get the blood test done, had the form which sat in my car for over a month, but I did go and got good news.

We are all here for you shoppy, please keep posting, I quite often want to bypass this thread but I won't allow myself to, I am a work in progress and will get there eventually, however long it takes....

xx

I'll second that...we're all a work in progress...had a truly eventful few days away with several reasons/excuses for a drink that almost had me laughing out loud and shouting like a berserk visionary "you're a trigger aren't you? go away...I'm not falling for it....you promise me a feeling of peace but it's an empty feeling that gives over control...go away!"

I won the battles but I was prepared for them as they were coming on the horizon....and there were situations during the week when being sober was distinctly handy....camping is so much easier when you have a clear head! even when you're trying to deal with gusts that near 50 mph on an exposed Welsh coastline campsite...my triggers were telling me that this was the perfect scenario for some of those nice strong rustic ales.....when all I really needed was a hot drink....

Bismarck

shopaholictiedtheknot wrote: »

I will keep posting, I am determined to do it this time, I am so worried about my health and my relationship with my OH Mollypolly :T eleven weeks - well done!!

would your OH read this thread? I suspect it must be hard watching and feeling and not knowing what to do to help...

I found AA very good for the insights that it would give you into behavioural issues....I took what I liked/needed and disregarded the zealous parts that got anywhere near religion....defining myself and my marriage as the (higher) power to sort this works far better for me and if that's sacrilege then tough!

I refused to go down any steps route and never had a a sponsor as all I needed was to understand the reasons or at least work out my defences to the triggers....

I'd personally recommend AA but advise an open mind before you go...once you can relate to others and see that it's not just you that have had all these mad thoughts.

Before I went, I had this perception that people who went to meetings were all drunk...I was pleasantly surprised how wrong I was... Istill go back occassionally to touch base and show everyone I'm OK...I mentioned that I pass on some of their advice to you guys instead of being a regular meeting type person....

best go...stuff to do!

barshamhillbilly

Well I survived the day - and didn't even have the Champers!
A well and truly AFD :j:j

An 'interesting' day all round with ex wife and ex in laws, new wife new family and tensions as expected. Anyway - if I can survive that without a drink - what the hell do I keep doing it for ?

Anyway - Day 3 for me and head held high

Best Wishes
BHB

Bismarck

barshamhillbilly wrote: »

Well I survived the day - and didn't even have the Champers!
A well and truly AFD :j:j

An 'interesting' day all round with ex wife and ex in laws, new wife new family and tensions as expected. Anyway - if I can survive that without a drink - what the hell do I keep doing it for ?

Anyway - Day 3 for me and head held high

Best Wishes
BHB

that's a great achievement! given the circumstances, it's awesome...well done!

jo1972

barshamhillbilly wrote: »

Well I survived the day - and didn't even have the Champers!
A well and truly AFD :j:j

An 'interesting' day all round with ex wife and ex in laws, new wife new family and tensions as expected. Anyway - if I can survive that without a drink - what the hell do I keep doing it for ?

Anyway - Day 3 for me and head held high

Best Wishes
BHB

My god Andy, that is pretty fantastic - well done

Lovely day for a wedding, hope it all went good and not to much tension.

Bismarck, good to have you back with your words of wisdom

eselt

Blimey BSB- well done for getting through that without a hitch- it was trying to survive family gatherings like that that used to make me want to grab for the dutch courage in the first place- still find those kind of social events really anxious and stressful.

Bismark, Jo, Molly congrats to you all too- love the stuff about triggers Bismark, thats so true!!

Shoppy- how are you? Hope no news is good news.

Oh well off to a family BBQ fully fired up with your advice and prepared well in advance with reasons to refuse- am taking all your great tips with me (antibiotics, driving etc)

Hope everyone has a great day

shopaholictiedtheknot

Hi folks,
Well done BHB :T so great that you did it!!

I unfortunately have to report that I didn't make it through day six:o OH and I went to the war museum and then we went to Yo sushi for dinner and I had two glasses of wine, then back home and had 2 cans of cider and half a bottle of wine:eek:

I am however back on the wagon today (although having cravings) but I don't feel too angry with myself as I did manage to stop before drinking the whole bottle. I am feeling positive that I can control the amount I drink now but I am still aiming for teetotalness !!

Hope everyone else is ok today