Forgot Our Wedding Anniversary

crutches

i remember every anniversary...first kiss,first look,first ***,proposal,wedding etc.and we chat about it.dh hassaid he loves me 5 times sinceweve been together but words andcardsare not important, he SHOWS me everyday.
this yr is 10 yrs marriage,15 yrs together.no £ to celebrate(8 kids to support!) but we'll have a family day out.

s@sha

It's our 13th wedding anniversary next month, and we will be exchanging cards & probably going out for a nice meal together...nothing too exciting this year as I will be 8 months pregnant, so a nice quiet meal will be about my limit!

I think it's important to make an effort to remember the special dates in your own life, such as wedding anniversaries and birthdays, though I don't think what you actually do is important..it's just making time to remember that the date is special, and to do something nice for each other. But it is just as important to do nice things for each other throughout the year, otherwise there's no point in making a big gesture on the 'special' day. We've always done something for our anniversary, but we never bother with Valentine's day because that date is just not special to us personally, so we don't feel the need to mark it.

jellyhead

me neither. we don't always buy anniversary cards or gifts either, but we do go out, even if it's somewhere with the children. for birthdays etc. we all prefer a day out to an actual gift although my soppy husband likes to give gifts too. we got married exactly a year after getting together so there's no need to have an anniversary of first date, first kiss etc

i suppose remembering the actual anniversary isn't too important as long as we both know that we're glad we're married

dammam i thought your first post was amusing, but maybe i'm just strange

Loadsabob

Dammam wrote:

Maybe I'll wait until people know me a little better before I try to inject my strange sense of humour into the forum again.

Your humour made me smile from your first post. Sounded very tongue in cheek. Glad you had a nice evening!

I texted my partner Happy 5 1/2 years a few weeks back. We don't celebrate half ones, it just makes me smile if I remember. He texted back that he'd forgotten, but Happy Anniversary. Then I realised it was the anniversary of moving into my flat...I was five days early for the First date one! Ah well...he wasn't offended! Said it was an easy mistake, new flat...new boyfriend...!

MissSunshine

Wasn't sure about the 10mins, as i've already posted, but did smile at you both forgetting.

My very forgetful cousin, by his own admission, did what Jellyhead suggested, he got married on his birthday last year, wouldn't be surprised if he still forgets this year :rotfl:

Gingham_Ribbon

I'm on your side, Dammam! My husband and I have only been married for 2 years and been together 4, but we have forgotten EVERY special date. EVERY single time. The anniversary of when we met and our wedding anniversary. It always gets to after the event and one of us says 'oh, guess what date it was on Tuesday...'

We are still totally smitten but immersed in day to day stuff. And we don't celebrate valentine's day either. It's not that we don't want to celebrate our relationship, it's just that we don't need a day on the calender to do it.

We try to celebrate each other at least once a week by having 'date night'. Sounds a bit corny but we don't have a wealth of babysitters/money so we make one night a bit more special to make sure we really connect. Even if it's just cooking a special meal, eating by candlelight and watching a film together. Way better than waiting for the calender to tell us we should!

IvanOpinion

I have an automatic reminder that keeps me informed of important dates ... its known as DW who never lets me forget when her birthday and our anniversary is ... she usually starts the countdown by saying ... 'its only 364 days to my birthday you know' ... so I have plenty of time to prepare and be ready ... panic only sets in when she says 'its our anniversary tomorrow' and I suddenly realise that my 'automatic reply to DW' system has been fully engaged for the last umpteen weeks (well it is her fault for assuming I was actually listening).

Ivan

jellyhead

i have an email thing, i forget which website it comes from though. i put in all the birthdays, etc. and i get email a week in advance, then every day to keep reminding me lol!

homersimpson_3

i think it's true that will all stresses & commitments of modern and family living people do seem to forget about anniversaries whether wedding or birthdays. however, wedding anniversaries can make you focus on just being a couple and not on work or the kids. they can be used to reinforce the bonds between people helping them to remember why they got married and stayed together thus helping them to recapture some of the earlier 'magic'. celebrating them is a matter of personal choice. whilst going to euro disney is great (been there) all couples need 'us' time -away from kids.
celebrating doesn't have to cost alot- breakfast in bed with rose; picnic by river; go paddling together in sea; cheap meal; cheap outing. always buy a thing to remember day (anything really small will do- that's the day we went to........). homer

bethscott1970

We've never bothered with anniversaries or valentines day, why should showing someone how much you love them be restricted to one day? To be honest we were filling in a form a few weeks back and neither of us could remember the date of our wedding. Each to their own though, my first husband had to get a card (and a present) every year and even insisted we got married on the 2nd of February at 2pm so noone would ever forget. We don't have to "re-capture the magic" as it has never gone.