Forgot Our Wedding Anniversary

nearlyrich

Our seventh wedding anniversary is on Wednesday, we always buy cards but not usually presents unless we spot something useful or unusual that the other will really like. I sometimes get flowers but maybe not this year as all my vases are still full from my birthday last week. We usually go out somewhere special for dinner and I have a promise that on our 10th he will take me back to New Orleans where we tied the knot.

mjenn5

The most important thing is that you make each other feel special as often as you can.

That doesn't have to mean cards or flowers.

Run her a sented bath, put out some nice candles, pour her a glass of wine and tell her you love her. Hopefully she will do something similar for you.

Yes I am a romantic at heart.

kingshir

Hi Damman

I've been married for 31 years and in the early days we did celebrate but once we had children the anniversary date itself didn't seem that important anymore - we were still together, still in love and we had kids to love and be loved by too. We went away for our 25th but only to avoid having the party that everyone else thought we should have (and we both hate parties) so we went to Manchester and watched the Inaugural Rugby League Final (which was great:)). So please yourselves, do whatever suits you and your wife. As far as I'm concerned there is too much pressure in life already - to conform, keep up with the Jones/celebraties etc.
Have a great time whatever you do (or don't do as the case may be
I'm female btw just in case anyone thinks only men are unromantic

LillieFlower

Hubby and I will be celebrating our 2nd wedding anniversary next month (we were 21 and 22 when we married), and we see it as a hugely important thing for us, much more so than birthdays and stuff. The way I see it, you only have to survive for a year to get to your next birthday, but surviving a year of marriage takes work.

When we got married, we bought a big candle and had our names and wedding date put on it, and we plan to burn it a bit on each anniversary to celebrate making it through another year together. I know it sounds sentimental, but so many marriages don't last these days and it makes us more determined to make sure we're in it for the long haul (we're aiming for 60 years like my grandparents!).

Congratulations on your anniversary, and making your marriage work! It really is something to celebrate!

mjenn5

Aww thats nice and true.

I am female almost up to our 14th Aniversary and have 5 children.

I am a romantic but you don't have to spend money on throw away cards and flowers to make each other feel special.

If anybody wants a big gesture like the burning candle you could buy a tree, plant it in your garden and watch it grow as your years pass (some out there will be saying pass the bucket).

Lillibet_2

We both forgot our (second) wedding anniversary this year, even to the point that 2 days later I found the unopened cards relatives had sent us behind an ornament still waiting to be opened! It's being married everyday that's important to us, not the date it happened on. We tell each other how much we love the other about 4+ times a day everyday, we don't need special pointers to do so. We do celebrate the anniversary of our first date in a small way each year, it is much more important to us that we are together & feel committed to each other than celebrating our formal commitment to each other.
My first husband never forgot our anniversary, always bought me a gift he couldn't afford & took me somewhere nice. Unfortuantely he forgot our wedding vows & slept with someone else. Made all the anniversarys seem rather inconsquential in comparisan.

jellyhead

we've been married nearly 4 years and we do still celebrate it, but not in an especially romantic way because we're always away with family, we got married during a school holiday, almost hallowe'en and all of us all like to go away for the half term and spend hallowe'en in a theme park, honeymoon was disneyland paris, we went back last year, other years we've stayed in a caravan or travel lodge near other theme parks. often one or both sets of parents and various siblings, nephews etc. will be with us so we can go out as a couple, we return the favour for my sisters birthday the next day. the anniversary is important to us but we don't always get cards or gifts, we're just nice to each other must admit we don't give a stuff about valentines day, wedding anniversary is more special though.

dammam your mistake was getting married at a forgettable time - you should have done it on her birthday :rotfl:

Sujamjen

Lillibet wrote:

We both forgot our (second) wedding anniversary this year, even to the point that 2 days later I found the unopened cards relatives had sent us behind an ornament still waiting to be opened! It's being married everyday that's important to us, not the date it happened on. We tell each other how much we love the other about 4+ times a day everyday, we don't need special pointers to do so. We do celebrate the anniversary of our first date in a small way each year, it is much more important to us that we are together & feel committed to each other than celebrating our formal commitment to each other.
My first husband never forgot our anniversary, always bought me a gift he couldn't afford & took me somewhere nice. Unfortuantely he forgot our wedding vows & slept with someone else. Made all the anniversarys seem rather inconsquential in comparisan.

Lillibet, I couldn't agree more with your posting. Me and my hubby are like you and yours :j I think everyday kindness and consideration more important than 'once a year' blow outs - but that's just my opinion of course :cool:
Happy anniversary to everyone who got married, engaged, met for the first time, etc etc this week :beer:

bonvonnie

we've been married for 3 years a couple of weeks back, and havent really had a chance to celebrate, esp with two kids under 2.5years old.

we do try and make the effort and get a babysitter and go out for the night, but we dont bother with the cards or flowers or gifts.

Dammam

Phew, I'm glad the posts changed a little - thought I was going to get lynched for a while
We ended up with a nice bottle of wine and an Indian (didn't catch his name).

Maybe I'll wait until people know me a little better before I try to inject my strange sense of humour into the forum again.
Nice to see the many different ways people celebrate being together. Vive La Difference, if you'll excuse the French.