Forgot Our Wedding Anniversary

Dammam

My wife just phoned to remind me that it's our 7th Anniversary today (what's that, papier mache?). Fortunately, I knew damn well that she hadn't remembered either and managed to get he to confess that her mother reminded her.
Does anyone really bother with wedding anniversaries, or is it just the big ones (10yrs, multiples of 5 thereafter etc) that should be celebrated?

I'm planning on being a cheapskate and not buying flowers, cards etc. I may, however, speak to her for 10 minutes (time permitting).

Whether she'll read this and still want to speak to me is another matter.

Jet

Do you want to celebrate being married for 7 years or do you want to just forget it? What does that tell you?

If you have lots of time during the year when you make time to do nice things for and with each other, then I don't think it's a big deal not doing something on your anniversary.

Saying you might spare your wife 10 mins to talk to her does not suggest that you're seeing her as someone special to you.

Faith_2

Dammam wrote:

My wife just phoned to remind me that it's our 7th Anniversary today (what's that, papier mache?). Fortunately, I knew damn well that she hadn't remembered either and managed to get he to confess that her mother reminded her.
Does anyone really bother with wedding anniversaries, or is it just the big ones (10yrs, multiples of 5 thereafter etc) that should be celebrated?

I'm planning on being a cheapskate and not buying flowers, cards etc. I may, however, speak to her for 10 minutes (time permitting).

Whether she'll read this and still want to speak to me is another matter.

Is it my imagination or is there some resentment hidden in your message, under the attempted sarcasm?

It seems that neither your wife nor your remembered your anniversary so it can't mean so much to either of you, can it? And does it matter?

And are you pretenting to be a "hard man" by refusing to buy flowers, cards etc. Are you trying to prove something?

Your post made me think of Valentine's day where lovers are supposed to spend an enormous of money on their partners in an attempt to prove they love them! Wedding anniversaries are the same. You may buy your partner the most expensive/ impressive presents but if you are a complete ******* for the rest of the year it's meaninless really!

(no offence intended by the ****)

Smudge32

YES! Buy her something nice.
YES! Be nice to her.
YES! Make a bloody effort.

Imagine life without her. If you reckon it will be worse, then do the above.
It you seriously think you're better off without her then get a divorce. 2 miserable people suddenly become 2 happy people and the worlds a better place.

P.S. Here's an idea. Why don't you take that Satellite Navigation thing back that you just bought, keep half the money, buy a map and use the other half to make your wife feel special again.

MissSunshine

At least you both forgot, or you would've been in the doghouse

As for bothering with anniversaries it depends what the date and the committment you made means to you both.

I've been wed to Mr Sunshine for 5 years, we're not the soppy type, but to me every wedding anniversary is important. Every year we've bought each other a card, as do our close rels and we go out for dinner, gives us a chance to chat just to each other, remember the day we married, and have a few shandies w/o our lo's :beer:

Although you don't have to spend money to show how much she means to you, you could cook her dinner, but something in the "speak for 10mins" comment gives me the impression that you won't actually see her today?? If not do something when you do

Dammam

Sorry folks - it was meant to be taken in a humorous vein. We both forgot and to be honest, we both forget almost every year - what with the kids, work etc it goes straight out of both of our heads. We've had a good few months after struggling with debts and with so many good things going on, this got forgotten. Neither of us feel it's a problem, and to be honest, I do buy gifts when money permits (I DO resent the buying of cards though - stupid prices!) and not just because of what date it is - surely it's better to think of someone consistently over the year and not just make a special effort for birthdays, anniversarys, mothers day etc?
It's her birthday next week and we'll be in Paris taking the youngest to Disney, which will be a nice treat in itself (for all of us, granted).

The only serious point of my post was, are anniversaries THAT important to people anymore? After all, it's just the date you were married, not when you met or when you fell in love etc.

p.s the 10 minutes talking was tongue in cheek too - I'm normally only allowed to listen :-)

rchddap1

My parents would celebrate every single wedding aniversary. Usually it would be large bunch of lovely roses, with a nice meal out (depending upon how flushed Dad felt at the time).

honey

Hi Dammam,

DH and I are celebrating our 5th anniversary this year and I do think they are pretty special and should be marked in some way. I know a lot of couples who don't bother though.

BUT I understand your point about prices of cards etc. (always someone trying to cash in)

We won't be doing anything major - I've bought him a small pressie that I know he really wants and we'll probably get a takeaway and have an early night;) (DS & DD permitting!)

Have a fantastic time in Paris and hey.... you've still got time to make a papier mache money box or similar?!!! OOOoo nope, I've just read that 7th is wool or copper

Dammam

honey wrote:

Hi Dammam,

DH and I are celebrating our 5th anniversary this year and I do think they are pretty special and should be marked in some way. I know a lot of couples who don't bother though.

BUT I understand your point about prices of cards etc. (always someone trying to cash in)

We won't be doing anything major - I've bought him a small pressie that I know he really wants and we'll probably get a takeaway and have an early night;) (DS & DD permitting!)

Have a fantastic time in Paris and hey.... you've still got time to make a papier mache money box or similar?!!! OOOoo nope, I've just read that 7th is wool or copper

Best I look for a metal sheep on the way home then :rotfl:

honey

LOL you've cracked it! :rotfl:

tammy_3

NO NO NO You must celebrate!!! :eek:

Its once a year for Gods sake not every week, both of you should take time off and remember why you married eachother and find that love and passion again. DOnt be an old fogey and say presents dont matter and anniversaries dont matter.......its an expression of love.

Its my third anniversary next month and we will as usual celebrate- If one cannot celebrate love and marriage what else is life about? I think life is about love and romance