please help me :(

monkey22_2

Hi Patchy,

Just wanted to send you a big:grouphug: .

I'm glad you're seeing the GP tomorrow - you'll feel better getting things off your chest.
How is your OH dealing with (hope you don't mind me asking)
are you supporting each other or are you bottling things up?

patchy987

thanks guys, i hope doc is understanding, he was when i first had my breakdown, i will let you all know what he says. as for hubby, he is worried but also trying to be strong for me as he knows how depressed i am and hates to see me this way. in his eyes i am more important than the debts . he works very long hours though, 2 jobs totalling 75 hours each week to keep a roof over our heads as i cannot work through depression and cannot claim any benefits.

bank_of_slate

You ARE more important than the debts!
I know you can't see the wood for the trees at the moment but you ARE!!!!!!
Hang in there hunny and keep posting, we are all here to help you through this
...Linda xx

Jules2000_2

Hi Patchy

I'm happier reading your posts today, I was a bit worried about you last night!

:grouphug:4u!

Hope everything goes well at the Doctors'.

Best wishes
Jules

patchy987

well just got back from docs, i broke down crying there and doc has increased my medication, i just feel like im existing rather than living, i have still not got any answers about the IVA so it looks as if everything will come crashing down around us and we will lose everything. life just doesnt seem worth the bother anymore.

patchy987

sorry if all i seem to do is moan, i know you guys have better things to do than listen to me so ill go away now. thanks for all your help.

locutus2003

Patchy

Hey there! Glad you went to see the Dr and that he's increased your meds. I'm on Prozac (but have been on Seroxat in various quantities in the past) and have need increases as time has gone on.

You haven't been moaning AT ALL - and don't think that you have. You are clearly in trouble and you have friends here who want to help you. Sorry - I've been out this morning and have only just got back in. First thing I did? Had a look to see how you'd got on. You're amongst friends here - please don't give up.

I really don't know enough facts about IVAs and things to be of any practical help - but there are people who do who post on here. As I've said to you before though, NOTHING is impossible to resolve. You are not alone - we can all get through this for you - we just need to find out how and the best way we can help. Just remember, no-one can take what you haven't got.

Please come back on and let us know you're OK and let's see what we can do to help. If anyone knows about IVAs I hope that they'll post here and tell you what they know - I'm really sorry I know nothing.

And believe me, I have nothing better to do in my life than to make sure that someone who I care about (even if I've never met them) is OK. People have looked after me in the past in cyberspace and it has made a HUGE difference to how I feel about things in general.

Please let me know how you are. I'm in and out today - but I'll check back on here regularly and have a good think about what you can do.

Take care - I hope you're out with the dog again!

xxxxxxxxx

locutus2003

Patchy

I've just checked back in. Let me know how you're doing hun.

xx

outrageous_monkey

Hiya Patchy!

((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))

Glad you went to the doctors and that he has upped your meds, maybe in a few days things wont look so bleak.

Great to see you posting and dont think you are moaning.....I dont think you give yourself enough credit, look at you, your posting on here trying to sort it all out.

I wish I had all the answers re IVA's to.........have you thought about putting it all down on paper and sending it to the IVA people signed for delievery??

Come back, dont leave us like this...............someone with more information on IVA'a will come and help, everyone is dead friendly on here........infact its the friendliest board on MSE.....in my opinion:T

chevalier

Would it help if you sent a copy of your bank statements (with your account number crossed out), to show them the error? Ie they could then see the dates etc and see that they have made a mistake. And send it recorded delivery so you know they have received it.

I am clutching at straws here I know but just a thought
chev