Leaving the workplace to 'work' at home

ravylesley

We should always try to do what we find is best for ourselves and not for others.People who criticise are usually jealous bitter people who would love to give up work and become a domestic goddess themselves but finances wont permit.Revel in your domesticity its nice to see someone contented with their lot in life

Lesleyxx

Rossy2692

I would love to be a SAHM but alas we cannot afford for me to do this but then again I feel that I would have to do SOMETHING as I have worked for that long! I would love to do it though, maybe when DD15 has grown and flown the nest and DH has retired to the spare room for hours on end playing his guitars, I may then realize my dream!!!

Good on you anyway and like so many others have said 'It's nobodys business but your own' Congratulations and all the best!!

Michaela

DianaMattos

Wow ladies, what an encouraging response! Thank you!

And Shelley84 - you are correct in your thinking but as I said still very early days....

I am so looking forward to learning lots of new homemaking skills when I stop work - too tired keeping up with basic housework at the moment!

Fruball

Firstly congratulations !!!

Secondly - being a FT SAHM is far harder work than any office job I have ever had but also the most rewarding We don't have much cash to splash around but my children have the benefit of me being around for them which is worth far more than the latests gadgets/mod cons IMO.

I haven't come accross any negative comments about me being a SAHM - I think most people these days admire it - Or perhaps they just don't say

Enjoy your very special happy event

Yategirl

congratulations

It is as everyone say's... nobody elses business but your's and your dh's... let other people think what they like. There are too many expectations nowadays (and some of this is from the govt) that we *have* to work... if you can afford to live on one income then great! I fully believe that having someone in the home to look after the house/children/garden/dp working IS the right way about it!

I couldn't become a sahm until ds2 was born and you know... it was the best thing I have ever done! I don't have the worries and stresses about how ds's are etc.. none of the stress of making sure that the hw is done etc etc etc...

Good luck and enjoy it!

linzibean

I agree with what people here say - it's your life, live it how you want! I'm currently a housewife - I lost my job last April (from a workplace I hated so wasn't too sad to go! ) I did look for a job, but seeing as OH's wages pay all the bills with a teensy bit left over for the odd treat, we decided I would stay a housewife until I begin my teacher training in September. It's great, especially when the sun is shining, I can get outdoors and start to tidy up the wasteland that is our garden! I can use the extra time I have now to make bread, do better cooking, and also things like sewing and cross stitch that I had no time or willing to do while I was working. IT is nobody's business but your own and your partners, and you know best!

rosy

If I had only one piece of advice, Di, it would be to ignore any negative things people might say and enjoy every minute of it:j

I have had so many less-than-positive comments through the years ( especially when the children got older ) - varying from the openly critical e.g. I'd wasted my education ( I have a good degree but haven't fulfilled my academic potential in paid work) to well meaning but judgemental friends looking up job adverts for me when I'd never said I wanted a job at all.

My mistake wasn't being a housewife, it was listening to all the comments and letting them get to me. What happened was that I started to believe them and wasted so much of my time feeling guilty and somehow worth less than others who were making their way up the career ladder that I never really felt as happy as I should have done, when all the time I was doing what I and my family really wanted ( OH has always been very supportive ).

But over the last year or so ( due to coming on here! ) something has gradually 'clicked' and now I'm determined that I'll never feel another pang of guilt ( why should I? If it's done properly, being a housewife means you work very hard! ) and my mindset is completely different now. I'm in it for the satisfaction and contentment and I feel really fortunate to be able to live like this.

I also wholeheartedy recommend Rhonda-Jean's blog ( thriftlady's link further up the page).

purpleivy

If anyone asks what I do, I tell them that I work 2 days per week in a 6th form college...and if there's even so much as an inquiring look, I add that I spend the other days with my feet up, reading magazines, eating chocolates and watching daytime telly.

Angelraesunshine

Congratulations

Well i was a SAHM and housewife and the DH would prefer me to stay at home but after 6 years of not working other than the odd thing to help out family etc i ahve taken a part time job at my kids school which fits in great, give me lots of time to still be a good OS housewife ( or as good as i am going to be as i hate house work lmao) and i still get to be out of the house and meet other people while i am working for me it is the perfect compromise.

I used to tell people i was a housewife or a stay at home mum and housewife.

thriftlady_2

rosy wrote: »

I also wholeheartedy recommend Rhonda-Jean's blog ( thriftlady's link further up the page).

She's just posted some more wise and inspiring words here.