Jealous of my boss-Help

MrsTinks

Please stop trying to keep up with the Joneses You don't need to compare yourself with your boss, be it hair, clothes or handbags. You are NOT her - you are you! Be proud to be an individual and start looking criticaly at those handbags and see which might fetch you a little something on ebay! Pay off the debts and then enjoy having a half decent disposable income.

As for looking good... Primark! I always get comments on how I look and although I did splurge the other week on a pair of trousers from River Island (£35) then I buy a large majority of my clothes from Primark. Match it with some nice shoes and so on and no-one will ever know that the super sexy skirt only set you back £10... And my current favourite top was a whopping £6 from there too...
I grant you that once in a while I splurge a little - like the £35 top that I got from Bravissimo. But I needed a new posh top and this is black so goes with everything!

The way I do it is by being strict - I can only have something if it is less than 10% of my left over disposable income after paying my bills... and even then I'm a tight moo

floss2

moneymaker2 wrote: »

......Might find out about that job tomorrow too!!

Let us know how you got on.....

And don't foget, the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence

Maryjane_4

My boyfriend sounds similar to your husband. I'll ask him if he thinks i should buy something and he says yes. Doesnt even think about the fact that i am trying to pay off debt.
He is good when i try to get cash out of him though. He will ask me what for and if i really need it.
We have decided to make our valentines pressies this year and i think they will mean a million more times as much to us that something purchased from a shop.

kittiej

Once your children have grown up your boss may only just be starting her family ( if she decides it's the accessory of the day lol ).

Don't be hoodwinked into thinking she has loads of disposable income cos she doesn't - she just spent it on a pair of shoes.

I'm wondering how you know she has this spare cash anyway? She might just be bragging.

Question is does she save as well as spend, and is she really happy?

Enjoy Blackpool xx

[Deleted User]

Hmm, i kind a feel like i'm your boss...
I'm in my 20s. I have a house, a new car, i'm about to get married and go on a Caribbean honeymoon. I have a lot of the latest gadgets, big screen TV, Wii, Ipod etc.. Only debt is my mortgage and car payments.

Sometimes people earn more than you and have less outgoings. Big woop, get over it. My future bro-in-law has a house twice the size of mine, better car, bigger TV, better holidays... sure, I'm envious of his material possessions, but I choose to see this as an attainable position I can get myself in within a few years - If I chose. He's going to delay starting a family whilst me and my OH want kids as soon as we're married.

Starting looking at what you do have, not what you don't

cymrugirl

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]There's always going to be someone who has what you regard as a better lifestyle than you. But I always go back to this will rogers quote: "Too many people spend money they haven't earned, to buy things they don't want, to impress people they don't like." So when I think I want something just because someone else has it, I think of this and it always brings me back to reality. I appreciate what I have right now and so should you. A husband and two kids, employed with a roof over your head is a pretty good life to me moneymaker2

And money doesn't buy style...just look at paris hilton!


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Needcash_3

Maz3374 wrote: »

right lady!!! She has no kids! You have 2 kids!............

Need i say more?! I bet she wishes she was you!

Be grateful for what you've got, keep working away at your plan, and aspire to be something for you. not someone else! you will never be like her by virtue of the fact that you have 2 great kids.

Plus who says she has that much disposable income? She's probably got some debt but isn't open about it.

Enjoy your friendship with this woman, but please don't aspire to be her, as i doubt she really has it all and you might start freaking her out if you keep copying her.

£500 on a handbag!!! (I do have a radley but it was a present) and how many purses does one person need!

Edit: re the job, nice of you to say she oes a good job. You keep plugging away at your job, pump her for info, offer to help and prime yourself for the day she leaves (2-3 years maybe?) and you can snaffle the job for yourself by the time you are ready for it!

I probably look like your boss on the outside ..... but I have no kids .... and have shared my 'demons' in another thread. 'Stuff' can never compensate for a loving family.

chevalier

moneymaker2 wrote: »

Actually thinking about it now that I have said that. Maybe in some way or another my recent spending has been to do with no getting the job and then having to re-apply. Maybe my head thinks this is what got her the job and I must do the same. Am I convincing anyone else yet?

Lx

In a word no:D Sorry
chev

TAG

Hi ya moneymaker2,

Just wanted to tell you about someone I used to know. We went to school together. I married at 18 and had 3 children by the time I was 23. Owned a house, had it repossesed, was eventually rehomed on the worst estate in the town by the council. We had nothing. Lived hand to mouth for a number of years. In debt to the tune of nearly £40k. Then gradually things improved slowly but sadly to late for my marriage. The pressures of it all took their toll and I just couldn't see a way for it to end.

During this time she on the other hand succeeded in making a good career for herself. Got married, got divorced, owned a house had quite a bit of money. Then took up with the boss of the company she was working for. Big flash cars, regular dinner parties, designer wardrobe, foreign holidays. And she would quite openly, I realise now, stick the knife in with regard to what she had and I didn't. But, they ended up owing ten's of thousand's of pounds. She ended up at one point on IS, single mum, rented house etc. Could still be for all I know. I don't have anything to do with her now.

Then something happened and it turned out that all along she had been immensley (sp?) jealous of me. Despite her expensive lifestyle I had what she didn't. A husband and three lovely kids. Yet all I could see I had was an existence and a damned hard one at that.

I'm not saying that your situation with boss is anything like mine was. But it just goes to show you that things are not always what they seem.