What can i feed the fussiest eater in the world?

Fruball

puddy wrote: »

thanks, but he wont change or get used to it, i used to do this when we started living together, but all he would do is push the food round his plate, leave it all, waste a load of what i'd cook and go out and get some chips or kfc

we cant afford it and its not good for him, so to some degree i have to tailor things to him a bit

however, i have got him eating quinoa, bulgar wheat, cous cous, some soya mince dishes, a nut roast the other day (although it was too moist - he likes his food cremated)

Thats a brilliant start Maybe you can start sneaking grated things into the dishes he already likes, then once he continues to enjoy them, confess

Might work

puddy

ive done this before and learnt the hard way, he was very untrusting for a long time of what i cooked and it caused severe ructions. he's not stupid, he is a 49 year old man, not a child! he can tell what is in things, its not an aversion, he simply doesnt like certain tastes, although i consider the obsession with 'sell bys' a 'problem', he wont listen to advice about things still being edible as long as they look and smell ok, as far as he's concened its about whats in black and white on the label and if its too near to the date, its in the bin.

so, no i wont be hiding things in food anymore!

Fruball

Oh dear! At least he is eating certain healthy foods, so I guess all you can do is stick with those. Its better than tinned pies etc.

Good luck with everything

puddy

whilst im cooking things he will eat, i can be sure of a) the budget and b) the nutrients in the food, theres no way i can let him loose in the kitchen, he already sneaks in chocolate, alcohol and snacks which i find from time to time and bin

lostinrates

puddy wrote: »

, he already sneaks in chocolate, alcohol and snacks which i find from time to time and bin

But he's a 49 year old man, not a child...your words! If he wants them...surely its his choice.


I'm always awed by women who will cook several different meals for partners and children. Genuinely awed. I couldn't and wouldn't do it. I'm mindful I marrie a guy with varied tastes and who loves food and cooking, but there are things he and I don't share a taste for. He can't stand baked pasta dishes....so I wouldn't make those for him, I don't much like Japenese/Thai food, so he eats that on nights we aren't together.

God luck finding stuff you both like. I love lamb , with mashed celeriac and chick peas on the top, spiced and tweaked differently...I make a Moroccan inspired Shepard's pie this way, and Persian one too. Perhaps you could try this, maybe put the chickpeas with the minced lab and slice the celeriac on the top.

puddy

lostinrates wrote: »

But he's a 49 year old man, not a child...your words! If he wants them...surely its his choice.


I'm always awed by women who will cook several different meals for partners and children. Genuinely awed. I couldn't and wouldn't do it. I'm mindful I marrie a guy with varied tastes and who loves food and cooking, but there are things he and I don't share a taste for. He can't stand baked pasta dishes....so I wouldn't make those for him, I don't much like Japenese/Thai food, so he eats that on nights we aren't together.

God luck finding stuff you both like. I love lamb , with mashed celeriac and chick peas on the top, spiced and tweaked differently...I make a Moroccan inspired Shepard's pie this way, and Persian one too. Perhaps you could try this, maybe put the chickpeas with the minced lab and slice the celeriac on the top.

well you know how it is, i've got to treat him like a child occassionally! anyway, i dont want stuff like that in the house because i need to loose weight too.

i dont cook seperate meals, hence this thread, i want to find stuff that he would like. i eat nearly anything. he would like that lamb dish, we both would actually

meritaten

hun - If he goes out and buys takeaways - then get yourself a copy of 'The Takeaway Secret' its brilliant! you can adapt the recipes so they are healthier and he wont notice! but I think what you have is a junk food junkie! they love the taste and wont believe its bad for them! your healthier meals will be discarded as tasteless because they are addicted to the salt, msg, etc.
at least he likes stews! you can incorporate many many things into stew without him realising! grains such as lentils, barley or rice. any veg you like - just chop it small at first - or even pasta! start with a few tiny pasta shapes and work up!
I applaud your patience with this guy - My own OH was used to a diet high in salt, fat and carbohydrates - but I gradually weaned him off that and he eats most things now - and really loves fish, salads etc - but he really loves the red meat things! steak is allowed once a week and then I let him pig out on chips etc! or he can have beef in beer and if he wants it then he gets beef in beer pie. with puff pastry topping! once a week there is no harm done and he gets his treat!

sarah*a

puddy wrote: »

see above, we cant afford for him to eat what he would cook. he is also overweight with diabetes and shouldnt eat the sort of things that he would buy and cook. he knows how to cook the very limited things that he would eat but we cant afford for us to eat separately

puddy wrote: »

i have just told him that we are having chicken in some form or another (i might bash the breast flat as they are so small and pan fry it with a flour coating) and celeriac chips. he said that he too will end up losing weight because everything will be inedible and are celeriac chips an established food or have i just 'made them up'.

Well - tell him good! He needs to and you are just ensuring he is here with you for as long as possible (although I couldn't put up with it you must have the patience of an angel :A) My OH thinks he's fussy but it's only with stuff he has to cook himself - so it isn't fussiness it's lasiness - if I cook it he'll eat it (except fish )

puddy wrote: »

although i consider the obsession with 'sell bys' a 'problem', he wont listen to advice about things still being edible as long as they look and smell ok, as far as he's concened its about whats in black and white on the label and if its too near to the date, its in the bin.

Could you decant things into plastic tubs and put your own 'sell by label' on it?

puddy

yes, its so annoying, without really trying he has managed to lose weight whilst we have been together and i have put it on (although ive lost that now, still some way to go)

and yet he seems to never stop eating. straight after dinner he'll be up getting some bread. then he'll be out in the store room sneaking some chocolate left over from christmas which is out of my eyesight so im not tempted. then later, he'll get cheese and biscuits. i watched him last night eat HALF an entire pack of cheddars, with HALF a pack of jacobs cream crackers and lots of stilton. he has this most nights, yet doesnt put more weight on. how frustrating for me. my weight is coming of in half lbs :mad:

puddy

meritaten wrote: »

hun - If he goes out and buys takeaways - then get yourself a copy of 'The Takeaway Secret' its brilliant! you can adapt the recipes so they are healthier and he wont notice! but I think what you have is a junk food junkie! they love the taste and wont believe its bad for them! your healthier meals will be discarded as tasteless because they are addicted to the salt, msg, etc.
at least he likes stews! you can incorporate many many things into stew without him realising! grains such as lentils, barley or rice. any veg you like - just chop it small at first - or even pasta! start with a few tiny pasta shapes and work up!
I applaud your patience with this guy - My own OH was used to a diet high in salt, fat and carbohydrates - but I gradually weaned him off that and he eats most things now - and really loves fish, salads etc - but he really loves the red meat things! steak is allowed once a week and then I let him pig out on chips etc! or he can have beef in beer and if he wants it then he gets beef in beer pie. with puff pastry topping! once a week there is no harm done and he gets his treat!

well, he has this thing about eggs. if he sees someone cooking anything on the telly or if im cooking the first thing he will say is 'urgh - is it EGGS???- even if its clearly a tomato or sausage. however, he will eat things with eggs in them if he convinces himself its not really eggs. for example, he is convinced (and we have had arguments about this rather embarrasingly) that an egg custard tart is different to a custard tart. that egg fried rice (which he would eat every night if possible) doesnt contain real chunks of egg and that to coat something in breadcrumbs does not require beaten egg, that a pie doesnt have an egg wash and that cakes dont have eggs in them

so last night, i went on and on about kfc and how to get their breadcrumb coating to stick will require beaten egg and lots of it (i dont care if this is true or not), he turned a funny colour