being bullied by my 15yr old

belfastgirl23

going2die_rich wrote: »

If she can't get him to lift a finger in the house, whats the chances of her being able to convince/get him to go to parenting classes???

Parenting classes are for parents I don't think kids are there....or at least not the ones I've heard about...

PS I think Angua2s advice is really sound as well

going2die_rich

belfastgirl23 wrote: »

Parenting classes are for parents I don't think kids are there....or at least not the ones I've heard about...

PS I think Angua2s advice is really sound as well

I think it's a bit beyond the "use the 3 strikes rule" or the "naughty step". Parenting classes just aren't going to work for someone his age and for someone with no sense of respect.

Kicking him out is the only viable option...

weegie.geek

going2die_rich wrote: »

Are you some sort of idiot? Mentally challanged or something?

How's the psychology class going? Not so good? Ah well. And it's "challenged", you idiot.

Stephen_Leak

We have a literal "hard core" of kids like this at the school, at which I work. The only difference is that they haven't been permanently excluded. We actually can't exclude them, as we have hit the LEA's quota but if and when they ever turn up, we follow them on the CCTV. When we record then actually committing a crime, like criminal damage, we then prosecute them. Eventually, this offloads them to the local Young Offenders Instutition. At least this protects the education of the overwhelming majority of our kids from their disruptive influence. The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the one.

Therefore, and I don't expect any thanks for this, I'd throw him out. Nothing else is likely to make any difference now, and it is possible that this won't either.

belfastgirl23

Just to add that if I hadn't heard directly from parents of troubled teenagers that parenting classes have helped them i wouldn't have suggested it here

Determined, i think it's worth a try getting some support around this. If all else fails then eventually you may have to think about asking him to leave but it sounds to me like this isn't the option you want to take just yet.

Good luck in any case.

sleepymy

Did he receive any sort of head injury in the accident?

mrcow

He seems to have completely lost all sense of loyalty and perspective, picking on the one person who actually gives a stuff.

It's stories like this that make me wish we had the American style boot camps to help sort these kids priorities out! (Don't suppose you can afford to send him off to the States can you? )

Two questions ref his behaviour though:

1. Do you think that there may be drugs involved? It's not something that you've mentioned, but it could explain some of his behaviour and his disappearances/reappearances.

2. When he disappears.....what is he living off? Do you give him money.....or is he getting it some other way?

Loretta

When he was permanently excluded from school surely someone follows him up, they don't just show him the door at this age and that is the end of it. Is that when social services became involved?

I think sometimes it all becomes routine, they see a social worker and things just jog along. I think you and your daughter are in a very dangerous position and need help urgently and so does your son. You need to look for some advice from links given on here including the police domestic violence unit and let his social worker know that this is now very urgent

What an awful situation to be in and dealing with it on your own

Stephb1986_2

weegie.geek wrote: »

For £26k you could get a cheaper car, and get the !!!!!! kneecapped.

Seriously though, the fact that you're saying a car's worth more than you says a lot about your self esteem. I'm sure you're worth more than a car. Please don't stand for it. Get the police involved, for your own sake. If he's like this with family, what's he like with other women? Other people in general, but especially women...

Ive still got plenty of money to get that done lol

I will get my revenge in a few months time when he least expects its me. He gives my mum attitude but wouldnt hit her and the same with his girlfriend he just thinks he can get away with it to me he's very mistaken! He thinks he knows everything a real nick cotton but this time its gone too far.

Im ok apart from the bruises its lucky my OH hasnt seen me

Stephb xx

smk77

Stephb1986, you are 21 years old and talking about getting revenge on your 24 year old brother? This kind of talk is hardly going to be fair on your mum who is probably sick of his attitude as it is. Why are you trying to make things worse for her?

You can afford a 26k car at your age and you still have "plenty of money". I suggest that you re-address your priorities and spend some of that money getting as far away from this psycho as possible.