In pursuit of happiness...for real this time! Donner_kebab's debt diary!

Keeping_Motivated

boredofbeingathome wrote: »

Or better still, take it off him and shut the door:rotfl: :rotfl:

Love it :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

donner_kebab

Keeping_Motivated wrote: »

My god Donner what did you have to go through with that twot..You must feel stronger now for getting out of that and having control of your life again.

KM x

Yes, he turned me from a happy go lucky young woman into a complete nervous wreck with no family or friends...it was awful. He ran up huge debts and then became a drug addict too which made matters worse...addicted to pot big style. I wanted him to go but he used to refuse to leave and give me a good hiding in the process...in front of Emily too. Luckily for me, and this sounds crazy using the word lucky but that is how I feel, he assaulted me and locked me out of the house in my dressing gown one morning before I went to work and I had my mobile in the pocket so I called the police and had him taken away. Whilst they were charging him, I went to town and brought some locks and worked out how to change the locks so he couldn't get back in...I should have been in hospital but I refused as knew this was my only chance at getting him out of my house as he had always refused to leave...the fun and games didn't stop there though...but eventually he went away but it took nearly a year of hell...but I am stronger now and it has shaped me as a person and I am lucky that me and Emily are safe now. She is the only thing that kept me going, thining that if she ended up with a guy like this I would see it as my fault and would never forgive myself.

donner_kebab

You lot are insane and I love you all!!! I need to take some lessons from all of you I think!!!

Keeping_Motivated

donner_kebab wrote: »

Yes, he turned me from a happy go lucky young woman into a complete nervous wreck with no family or friends...it was awful. He ran up huge debts and then became a drug addict too which made matters worse...addicted to pot big style. I wanted him to go but he used to refuse to leave and give me a good hiding in the process...in front of Emily too. Luckily for me, and this sounds crazy using the word lucky but that is how I feel, he assaulted me and locked me out of the house in my dressing gown one morning before I went to work and I had my mobile in the pocket so I called the police and had him taken away. Whilst they were charging him, I went to town and brought some locks and worked out how to change the locks so he couldn't get back in...I should have been in hospital but I refused as knew this was my only chance at getting him out of my house as he had always refused to leave...the fun and games didn't stop there though...but eventually he went away but it took nearly a year of hell...but I am stronger now and it has shaped me as a person and I am lucky that me and Emily are safe now. She is the only thing that kept me going, thining that if she ended up with a guy like this I would see it as my fault and would never forgive myself.

Awe I'm so sorry you both had to go through that :mad: What a complete bully no wonder he didn't want your family in the picture he didn't want you have any strength at all and that included your family. Is Emily over it?

donner_kebab

Keeping_Motivated wrote: »

Awe I'm so sorry you both had to go through that :mad: What a complete bully no wonder he didn't want your family in the picture he didn't want you have any strength at all and that included your family. Is Emily over it?

My dad and my brother were fuming when I told them...they wanted to go after him but I said no as just wanted it all to be over. Emily has been amazing...she was so happy when he went and is fantastically well adjusted considering everything she has seen. She just wanted him gone so was over the moon! It probably explains how come she is so grown up, she has seen so much and we get along like sisters...I am really lucky considering!

Keeping_Motivated

donner_kebab wrote: »

You lot are insane and I love you all!!! I need to take some lessons from all of you I think!!!

Hey please don't think I always get it right its sometimes easier to give advise to others and its easier when you can see a situation from the outside. We do what we feel is right for us at the time but all I know is that confidence is borne out of the things we do and the way you are going with all the positive things you are doing you will be oozing with confidence and then you will decide if he is really than man for you.

And as you say you can't wait for a couple of years ahead debt wise well also DD will be of an age where your life won't be quite as controlled socially as you may be able to leave her for a few hours in the evening etc. Not that I am wishing your lovely DDs life away.

KM x

boredofbeingathome

donner_kebab wrote: »

Yes, he turned me from a happy go lucky young woman into a complete nervous wreck with no family or friends...it was awful. He ran up huge debts and then became a drug addict too which made matters worse...addicted to pot big style. I wanted him to go but he used to refuse to leave and give me a good hiding in the process...in front of Emily too. Luckily for me, and this sounds crazy using the word lucky but that is how I feel, he assaulted me and locked me out of the house in my dressing gown one morning before I went to work and I had my mobile in the pocket so I called the police and had him taken away. Whilst they were charging him, I went to town and brought some locks and worked out how to change the locks so he couldn't get back in...I should have been in hospital but I refused as knew this was my only chance at getting him out of my house as he had always refused to leave...the fun and games didn't stop there though...but eventually he went away but it took nearly a year of hell...but I am stronger now and it has shaped me as a person and I am lucky that me and Emily are safe now. She is the only thing that kept me going, thining that if she ended up with a guy like this I would see it as my fault and would never forgive myself.

The bloody !!!!!!. You are one tough lady for coming through all that.
My sister was the same, he was a complete !!!!!!, but she never lost any of us..we wouldn't let it happen.
But 18 years later it has all worked out, she met and married a wonderful bloke, had another son ( she had one with him at 16) and now they have a business, she is in a job she loves and a four bedroomed semi.
Life isn't perfect for her, but she never gave up.
(((((hugs)))) BOBXX

donner_kebab

I feel myself getting stronger as each day goes past which is really good and a nice feeling to have. It will be crazy when Emily is older and I can begin to have a life again. Will be lovely to be able to go out and have hobbies and socialise and not have to worry about money etc!

boredofbeingathome

That never happens with kids, the find some way to get money off you.....

donner_kebab

boredofbeingathome wrote: »

The bloody !!!!!!. You are one tough lady for coming through all that.
My sister was the same, he was a complete !!!!!!, but she never lost any of us..we wouldn't let it happen.
But 18 years later it has all worked out, she met and married a wonderful bloke, had another son ( she had one with him at 16) and now they have a business, she is in a job she loves and a four bedroomed semi.
Life isn't perfect for her, but she never gave up.
(((((hugs)))) BOBXX

That's really lovely...proof that there can be a happy ending :T Well done on her for not giving up :T