Oops! I've fallen off the OS wagon.....

dronid

Glad to hear you’re doing better – and sorry to hear about the PMS. You should consider that, despite your PMS, you’ve accomplished all you have over the last year. Which I think is amazing! You should congratulate yourself on being able to keep it together as long as you have without diagnosis! :T :T

Do watch the happy pills. If you get any adverse reactions or don’t feel ‘right’ talk to your doctor straight away. I had some friends on Prozac and a couple said they ended up feeling quite ‘disconnected’ from themselves. Possibly investigate St John’s Wort which is herbal and very good for depression. My partner took it before he got his lightbox and only switched because he’s asthmatic and it can affect the medication.:mad:

Hope all goes well over the birthdays and do continue to chat online. One thing that often is a sign of depression is ceasing to communicate as normal and cutting yourself off.

Still you’ve done astonishingly well.:T :T :T :T :T

Rachel021967

Take it easy the next few days and ask for some help in looking after the kids and with the housework. Anti-depressants can take your body a few days to get used to them. They may initial make you drowsy or apathetic but this should only be a short phase. Good luck and take it easy.

kiwichick

Hi Lillibet,

I've not been posting in ages also and have totally fallen by the wayside in all things OS and MSE. To the extent that we have had to eat into a chunk of our saving and postpone the extension we were planning.

Much the same as you I sufferered with PND which has turned into full blown depressive disorder - not fun. I have gone from a full time mum who does not work in any capacity to a full time mum who is on the board of the preschool, the village hall committee and chairman of the PTA at the kids school. I have also started a gardening business with my best friend, we currently work 2 days a week. Its EXHAUSTING!!

I've fallen into the trap of spending without really thinking, buying rather than baking and generally letting things slide. Things got so bad that I've spent the last 2 days religeously reading posts and threads on MSE and have now increased the overdraft (thankyou Nationwide), used savings to pay off the credit card, changed the home phone supplier to someone 1/2 the price, sorted my car insurance (remembering to go through quidco and thus nabbing £100 cashback) and provided nPower with meter reading for gas and leccy (sodding estimated bills are horrible things arent they?). I have also started grocery shopping online again, saving on those bits I "treat" us with and nabbing extra points to boot.

I spent last night baking and although now exhausted I do feel I have started to turn the corner with all of this. My relationship with the kids isnt what it should be but is improving. My relationship with my husband aint great and TBH I cant see that one improving but hey ho.

I know its a long rant and maybe not entirely relevant. I just wanted you to know you are not alone in feeling this way. Baby steps is the best advice I can give. That and being honest with yourself and your other half in admitting how you feel and what help you need.

Am thinking of you.
x x x

fizzel81

big style

since may i guess ive become lazy, my shopping budgets have been out the window, ive been cooking less, eating more takeaways and filling the boys up with junk, ive been replaceing things that have not needed it (i did freecycle them i just wanted rid of things i had when with the ex)

i need to get myself motivated again, im still stuck in the army house which is becomeing incredably frustraiting and am waiting for a court date for a reprocession order on the house as they want it back, its come to this as the council wont help me

since ive slipped ive noticed a huge change in the way the boys behave which is making life harder than it should so if nothing else i need to sort myself for them

how can i get myself motivated again and sorry for the ramble

orchid-96

I'm new to all this but I bet there will be loads of others on here to give you tips, just wanted to say don't beat yourself up too much, you obviously have loads of stuff going on..

Why not try to get back on track slowly with small steps, rather than thinking you have to do it all in one go..I too need to sort out what I am feeding my young ones as I am having a hard time with my little twins and am just exhausted most days so am not feeding them as healthily as I should (which is my new years resolution)

Good luck to you and hope you have a great 2008..

Lyndsay_21

:hello: i have fallen by the wayside too when it comes to OS i think since i havent had a hob just the oven that hasn't helped.

rosieben

Sorry to hear you have so much to cope with, fizzel, I'm not surprised you fell off the os wagon; dont be too hard on yourself for it.

take one step at a time; decide what your priority is - maybe sort the food aspect out, the kids will probably be better for not eating junk food, and you will feel better having taken a positive step.

Hope you get some positive news re housing soon, but in the meantime concentrate on taking care of yourself and the littlies.:)

kunekune

Like the others, I think you need to be kinder to yourself. You have had a really difficult year - little Owen is still a baby really, and you had to handle all this probably with not enough sleep as well. Bet the army house isn't too warm either. Don't blame yourself for how the children are, either - there are lots of other reasons why they might be difficult at the moment, including their ages, LOL.

If you want to feel like you're getting somewhere, perhaps try a bit of comfort cooking but don't worry too much about being os all the way. Maybe you could make a big pot of vegetable soup and some fruit crumble, it's a nice tea, all home made without much effort, and you'll get warm from the inside too! If you like home made bread, just use a ready made pack!

apple_mint

Just to second what everyone else is saying Fizzel, take it one step at a time and try not to beat yourself up. Write yourself a list of what you'd like to make / do / change and tackle each one as and when you feel able.

When you are under pressure it seems easier to do the take-away / ready meal options - I think we've all been there at some time.

I tend to organise myself by lists ... make yoghurt / bake muffins / put wash load in / iron 2 days worth of work clothes etc etc. It feels so good to cross them off this list. I have been know to do a job, realise it isn't on the list - add it to the list and then cross it off! At the end of the day, I carry over unfinished tasks to the next day. I even add in little leisure things to give myself some 'me time'.

My biggest motivator is to give myself some browsing time on here. It 'jees' me up to get on with something.

Penelope_Penguin

Fizzel, you sound really down - not like the bubbly person I remember. Have you had a chat with your GP or health visitor? He or she may be able to recommend something for you.

Take care, Penny. x