Oops! I've fallen off the OS wagon.....

Sunny_Angel

You sound completely overwhelmed with all that you want to achieve. When i get to that point i always find writing a list and then breaking it down into reasonable tasks makes it seem more manageable,
eg You want to get on top off:
Meal planning
Budgeting
Tidying
Cleaning
Spud
Time management ie work, social,
etc
etc

Then i would break down each one if necessary
Ie meal planning, Just do one week to start with instead of a month which is 4 times the size,
Spud, will make concerted effort to do one proper activity per day,

And give yourself a break too, you have just started a job, which will inpact on the time and energy you have to give to the house, dont feel guilty about oH having to help, he helps make the mess and now you are helping by bringing in money too.

I dont know much about insomnia, (thankfully) but i know when i feel in control of things rather than like i am struggling to get anything done, i sleep and just generally feel much better. Then the answers to your other issues will probably seem clearer.

HTh and dosent come across as patroising, it isn't meant to, and as i said it is so hard to imagine you to be feeling this way about OS.:cool:

Bargain_Rzl

Oh Lillibet, I was wondering where you'd disappeared to!

I feel like that all the time (and I don't have a hubby or child to worry about!) You're certainly not the only fallen OS-er around, just look at my post on today's Daily Thread... I'm currently out every night, eating takeaways, spending money like it's going out of fashion etc etc etc.

Certainly don't stop posting on here just because you feel you've got nothing to give. The Daily thread (and occasionally the Flylady thread) are wonderful for providing "kicks up the backside" where required.

Just wanted to give you a hug, and please drop me a PM if I can be of any assistance (I will be a little less busy in the next couple of weeks!)

scuzz

Firstly I'd say don't beat yourself up about this. You're only human.

Maybe ask your mum if she could take DS for a few hours and just give yourself some time to chill out and maybe start a list of what you really want to get sorted as a matter of urgency. Also, if she's so adament on DS having a birthday party, ask for her to help out or take charge in running it.

Do you have any other family near by who could help with DS to give you some time out?

Maybe ask your doctor for some sleeping pills. Be careful though, I suffer from insomnia, so sympathise fully, but when I took pills, I had horrible halucinations.

Please take care of yourself. I've recently been run into the ground through work and an ex, and I was off work sick for three weeks. You must put yourself first for a bit.

Big hugs to you

Boatie_Bird

boo81 wrote: »

Let yourself have a day or 2 completely off, talk with your OH and say you need time to catch up with yourself. Go out on your own, have a lay in, long baths... whatever makes you feel even slightly better.

I'd definitely second this advice. When you were working you wouldn't dream of working day in day our, week in week out without a break to recharge your batteries would you? But when you become a SAHM then that is exactly what you're expected to do.

Give yourself some much deserved me time.

BB
x

Nix143

Absolutely will NOT kick you up the backside, like others have said you were one of the voices I loved to read.

I'm sure the OS stalwarts are coming to hug you back up and give you some advice so the best I can personally do is give you a cyber hug and say its lovely to see you back here again. Taking time out to say hi and ooooow, I'm drowning in stuff is NEVER a waste of time - its one of the cornerstones of this forum I reckon.

xxx

Lillibet_2

Thank you eveyone for your kind kind words & for not comming down on me like a ton of bricks, although I think that approach could be forgiven in my present self-pitying state!
Since my 1st post I have forced myself to : Clear the huge pile of clean laundry in the bedroom (Yay! at least we now have some clean clothes to wear & they are in their proper place!), cleared all the washing up for the 1st time in at least a week & re-washed a load which had been washed & left to fester in the WM for 4 days (yuck!). I've fed Spud & put him down for an early nap & I'm going to do the same, I am just so shattered and I have to work later. I have decided that even though we are in desperate need of a food shop I won't do it tonight but will have an early-ish night instead & brave the food shop on saturday morning, I know it will be busy but I can at least try & establish what we need in the mean time. Oh, and I've rooted around in the freezer & found some quiches for dinner tonight. Tomorrow will have to be another day though.

There isn't much chance of getting my Mum or anyone to look after Spud for a day for me, no-one really lives close enough for it to be pratical, however I might try & get hubby to take him out for the day on Sunday if the weather is good which would give me a few hours if I don't get distracted by the internet or sleep! Mum is already spearheading the party orginization, I only have to do the cake & ballons but at this rate there won't be anything to do as everyone seems to be on holiday!

I will write a list later of everything which is getting to me which I have control over & what I can do about it, just hope I have a peice of paper long enough though. On a good day I can just about almost fit in the bare minimum that needs doing whilst still paying Spud some attention, but how on earth do I find time to catch up especially with the bigger stuff? And does anyone have any idea how I can keep a 2 year old away from powerpoints & unplugging stuff when we can never actually catch him in the act?

Thank you kind old stylers:A

belfastgirl23

This is just a short term blip while you are readjusting to new circumstances so don't be too hard on yourself. To be honest I think you should give yourself a big get out for the next month if you can afford it at all. Take time to breathe. You're pushing yourself too hard and feeling stressed and this won't be helping the insomnia either. The OS end is not that important compared to your health and enjoying your baby. You will get back to it again but in the meantime be kind to yourself.

I tend to slide off the wagon for periods of time too, but I always get back on again

jan59

Can only echo what others have said and say that:

Give yourself some 'me' time
Write out a list of what you think needs to be done
Half it
then half it again
Start from there and work back into it in your own time.

We aren't all OS all the time - cos we are all human!! Thank Goodness!

xx

jan59

Hey, cross -posted!

YOu have been busy!

Have you thought of doing an internet shop? It saves a lot of time, though I appreciate that you can't e.g. choose the veg you want.

boo81

At least he is energy efficient, maybe Spud will be a new eco warrior like swampy 20 years down the line ;-)

Could you try putting furniture against them? Failing that I found this http://www.pluglock.co.uk/