Mooloo's struggle with babies and bills

Surfbabe

Oh Mooloo make sure you have "me" time - at the end of the day a worn out Mooloo is no use to anyone - make them lists and make them stick to them. You have to think of your health and well being - after all you only get one shot at them.

hope today is better and you have a good weekend.

Savvy_sewing

Surfbabe wrote: »

Oh Mooloo make sure you have "me" time - at the end of the day a worn out Mooloo is no use to anyone - make them lists and make them stick to them. You have to think of your health and well being - after all you only get one shot at them.

hope today is better and you have a good weekend.

Just popped on computer at BF's house. He is taking his daughter to Ice Skating. Managed to leave work about an hour after contracted time. Things were going well when I left.
Came straight to BF's. He cooked tea for me, Luxury, we went to local pub and had a few drinks.
today we have been to Swindon looking at clothes for his dads wedding. But I didnt see anything I really liked that he liked. so a no spend day. Just caught up with twin1 on the MSN, all is fine at home so i can relax. Feels strange having the freedom to have the me time. Walked the dog before we went to Swindon. Just before the rain came. Still have the dog. Still not sorted that out. I keep putting it off. Very naughty of me I know. Must get my act together there. But he seems so happy here and I get to see him at least twice a week. :T

Savvy_sewing

Think I may have to change the name of this thread to struggle with 15year old son. ! I asked him to come straight home from school today, and its now 7.15 and no sign of him. As he lost his mobile phone several months back, I have no idea where he is. I am worried sick, and getting angry. He finishes school at 3. It doesnt take 4 hours to get home thats for sure.
I managed to get out of work on time today, Hurray, but I felt as though I had wasted my day as the assistant had taken all the wrong readings on Saturday, and I had spent all 4 hours at work sorting out the paperwork mess that he had left me!.
My other assistant has not been in touch, I have heard she has been rehoused in a 3 bedroomed house, (what she wanted in the end, but to have a fire is a bit of a drastic way of getting it!!) but she has not been intouch directly and I have no idea of her return to work.
The bills are starting to roll in for here, and I am watching them like a hawk now that Social Services have withdrawn their funding on BBJ.
A solicitor is trying to sort out Twin2's council housing benefit problems but at the moment she has to pay back £3 a week. as she owes £1,700 odd that will be about 11 years then!!!
Written to Clarke Willmott again to explain that I still have not earned enough money to pay tax back to them, as what I earned I would not have paid tax on, even if I had been a tax payer this year. !! My wages department have said that they would have had to pay me tax back if I was a tax payer!. So lets see whats next to come from Clarke Willmott.
My area manager is due to visit me at work tomorrow to see how I am getting on on my so called reduced hours. Thats a bit of a laugh isnt it. (reduced hours I mean).
Time for me to do a storecupboard stock take, so that I can see where I have gone wrong with the food spending. I seem to be spending more not less on food at the moment. At least I have since I moved in here anyway.
My landlord came for a recky of the place on Thursday evening, and I had done a cupboard opening fling. Now I need to open the cupboards and start to actually sort them out. But tonight its the food cupboards first. Although at the moment I feel like just going to bed. I am knackered.
Missed MSE on tv on Sunday, gather Hypno was on it. Dam. Missed her. Oh well, when will the repeats be?

Keeping_Motivated

Hi Mooloo I've just caught up with your thread, I hope all is now well with your son and he is back home safe and I hope you've sent him up to his room with a flea in his ear for leaving you to worry like that... Kids eh... Does he get spending money? If he does I think I would be withholding it until there is enough for a cheap mobile so that there is no excuse for him not letting you know where he is.

Good luck with the meeting at work tomorrow.

I hope you are managing to delegate some of your jobs at home to the twins as its obvious you need the help with a house full of people/babies, a bigger house and a problem with your arm its a lot to manage on your own..

Take care

Savvy_sewing

Keeping_Motivated wrote: »

Hi Mooloo I've just caught up with your thread, I hope all is now well with your son and he is back home safe and I hope you've sent him up to his room with a flea in his ear for leaving you to worry like that... Kids eh... Does he get spending money? If he does I think I would be withholding it until there is enough for a cheap mobile so that there is no excuse for him not letting you know where he is.

Good luck with the meeting at work tomorrow.

I hope you are managing to delegate some of your jobs at home to the twins as its obvious you need the help with a house full of people/babies, a bigger house and a problem with your arm its a lot to manage on your own..

Take care

My Son finally came in at 8.10 last night. I read the riot act. I rang his father and asked him to please talk to him as perhaps he would be able to get through to him? Not sure that he did though.
I dont give him spending money as such, but he had £20 yesterday morning to buy his bus pass, which left him with £5 for the rest of the weeks odds and sods. I had just spent £169 buying him an Xbox 360 that he has been going on about since November. I struggled to save for that. I have told him that that has been convescated until he behaves better.
His mobile is apparantly in Towcester at his mates (about 45 miles away,) he left it at their house by mistake about 6 weeks ago when he stayed with them. I have asked him to collect it, I have asked his elder sister to pick it up and stick it in the post? Still no joy. I dont want to pay for another one as I am always conscious of waste and recycling etc etc so as there is a perfectly good one, it just needs someone to get it back to him, I dont want to buy another one. But I do see your point.
I was up early this morning, couldnt sleep last night. So much on my mind.
Meeting at work hopefully will be pretty informal, but will have a major baring on the future for me with BHF. I have asked to change to the nearer branch here in Cowley, as that would save me the cost of a bus ride everyday, and also the physical jolting that goes along with the bus ride, that somedays nearly finishes me off before I get to work!
I have been delegating jobs, but I dont see much of them getting done. I am blue in my face. I have even printed off todo lists for the girls to remind them what I asked. But its not working so far.
We willjust have to keep on plodding I suppose.
I have Physio today, so the rest of the evening will more than likely be a right off.
I managed to get some fabric to make some curtains for my bedroom, when I was out at the weekend. Now all I need is the arm to be on its best so I can sew them!. Hope to atleast cut them out tonight.
Time to think about going off to work very soon. Take care everyone.

Keeping_Motivated

Hi Mooloo

Totally understand and agree about not wanting to replace the phone when there is a perfectly good one 'somewhere'. Maybe you could use the xbox as a tool to spur him on to get the phone back. No xbox until her organises the phone and its in his hand maybe?

Not sure what you could use as a 'tool' with the twins to get their jobs done? Maybe no help with the grandchildren if no help round the house? Maybe make them pay for a cleaner out of their benefits, that might shock them?

It sounds so frustrating for you with your arm when you have so much you have/want to do and it all depends on the pain or doing to damage to your arm. What happened Mooloo to your arm?

KM x

Savvy_Sue

The only way I've found of getting jobs done is not to do them myself if I've asked someone else to do them. And if I can, stopping them doing something they want to do until the job is done. So DS3 doesn't get a lift to cricket unless he's done some washing up. He doesn't get to watch what he wants to watch on TV unless he's done what I've asked.

And I do hope you're not doing everyone's laundry? Mine have to start doing their own when they get into the 6th form, and their bedrooms are definitely their own affair! :rotfl:

Savvy_sewing

I wish I knew what was going on with the kids sometimes. They do know that I have trouble with my arm, and its been the reason why I was off work for nearly 5 months so its not something new. I suppose becuase when I was fit enough, if I got frustrated I gave in and did things myself in the end. I seem to rant and rave, cajole, and all the other emotions and bribes imaginable, but then I forget which bribe I made and they get away with things I realise I should not have let them.
I dont do bedrooms normally these days. But I have to actually stand over them while they do them, if I want anything done. BF said I give in too easily. I dont deliberately. Its my scattyness, I foreget to check that things have been done, so I suppose they are so used to me being lax that they think eventually I will forget and they will get away with it for another day. I am trying though.
I tend to load the washing machine as I pass, but ask the family to hang it out, as thats a job I need both hands for but I often come home to find that its not done. It is so frustrating. I even ring home when I am out to remindthem. Started now ringing to remind them, then ringing again and checking. I even ask them to ring me back when they have done jobs. But its still not working properly? Persivere I suppose. One day I will get there. Mean while frustrations still ahead I suppose.

I suppose, as such there is nothing wrong with my arm? Its the nerves that are in my neck, they are being squeezed through narrowing passages in my vertibrate. So technically its my neck thats the problem. But the pain is all dwn my left arm. I am unable to lift my arm completely, although it is better than it was 6 months ago, since having physiotherapy. The pain is worsened if I use my arm. The muscles etc tense to protect and that will aggrevate things. I have restricted movement in my neck, and turning my head from side to side is limited. I am unable to lift even a half full kettle without problems, and I find that I want to do so much, but cant. Apparantly with Chronic Pain, its a case of trying to limit it, and pain manage rather than being able to cure things. At least thats what I am being told at the moment. Change my lifestyle is the only way to ease things. Which is of course easier said than done with a job and a family.
As I am predominantly left handed I find things particularly difficult to swap to the right. (except I already wrote with my right after a old fashioned schooling where I got the ruler across the knuckles if I used my left hand. The sign of the devil dont you know? ). Enough about me and my problems.

Keeping_Motivated

Ewww getting the ruler across the knuckles for writing with the left hand thats awful :eek:

Just on my way out but will catch up later. Have a good day

KM x

Savvy_sewing

Keeping_Motivated wrote: »

Ewww getting the ruler across the knuckles for writing with the left hand thats awful :eek:

Just on my way out but will catch up later. Have a good day

KM x

Growing up in a convent upbringing, 1st ly in africa in the 1960's. Then in the uk in the 70's, although it was only the really old nuns that still thought that way by then. But the damage was done. So I write with my right, and do everything else with my left. Or did...
Have a good day. I have the day off for a change. Social Worker coming to see Twin2 today, and then I hope to go and see BF this evening, If I get to go early enough I hope to go on a walk with the dog.

My son hung out the washing for me this morning, after much of a wrankle and I just looked out of the window and its all on the floor!!! The lines broken. Blast and double blast. The whirly gig has died a death. Just what I need when there is so much washing to catch up on. Really was trying to save the planet and not tumble dry.
As its a washingmachine/dryer combined it isnt very efficient.
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