Mooloo's struggle with babies and bills

Savvy_sewing

my few hours at work expanded again.! Ah well. On Friday someone leaving the shop set off the fire alarm by breaking glass, and I had to evacuate the place. Sort it all out. And apologies to the other shop keepers attached to the same alarm system. I think it was a "street person" who left the shop at about that moment, so he probably had taken a few good, as we found emptly hangers on the rails and a dirty coat in the mens section. They do that. come in, change thier bits and leave us their dirty clothes!! Yuk its so annoying. If we dont notice it, then customers could come across it. We had a pair of trousers last year and a Ralph Lorean shirt all covered in blood hanging..Luckily it was me who found them when I was tidying the section!.:rolleyes:
Yesterday I didnt go in until Lunchtime. I went in at 1pm. Did the organising of the various volunteers, had my son and his mate work for me from 3pm till 5.30 to help pay off the second hand Xbox I bought him yesterday.:T I hadnt quite saved the whole amount, but I just used the last of the money from BBJ payments. Money will get tighter from now on, but at the moment, I am not doing too badly. I have spent most of today on Microsoft Money sorting out my budget, cash flow forecasts etc. I am not too good on it yet, but I am learning. Hopefully it will help me keep my spending on track.:D

I had wanted to go to Finmere market today and buy some towels, as I dont seem to have many anymore. But DBF reminded me that I said I was not happy until I had a savings of £1,000 again. So I have stayed at home. Its strange to be at home on a Sunday.I am usually out and about somewhere.
No excuse not to get the washing moving and make a casserole for tea etc today.
Menu plan needs updating next so I better go and do that, then the casserole. Then I can potter about. We are going to watch a band that DBF is interested in, Stiff Little Fingers. or something! Not sure it will be my cup of tea, but last year he came to see Charlie Landsborough with me, and thats not his taste either, so I am out tonight!. Work tomorrow.
The part time, paid assistant (who I thought was on an assistant managers contract), is asking how long his contract will be, as its up for renewal apparantly. Problem is me. They dont know how long I am going to be part time, or if I will be returning full time. The shop is under preforming and so they are going to withdraw the funding for my assistant, apparantly. Yet nobody talks to me about it?
Dont want to leave a job undone, but I am really not sure if I will manage the shop if I loose the extra hands.? Dont have enough volunteers to do the jobs he does. (Mind you he does spend a lot of time outside having a fag!)
Time to do some work. Or I will be rambling on here all day. oops

Savvy_sewing

Afternoon already.
The band last night was quite good, punk rock/rock is not really my scene but my DBF enjoyed it and he knew most of the words, so it was a good night really.
My son lost his wallet this morning, so I had to drive him to school. Least I know he got there. That took me an hour, so I had to rush for my bus for work. The driving has taken its toll on my arm. Then I must have had the worst driver in the world on the bus, and the jolts added to my pain. In the end I left work 2 hours after I got there. I am struggling with the pain. I really am not sure how I am going to cope returning to work full time, if I have bad days etc.
I have to run the shop all day tomorrow. My area manager has said, slow down, and have a cup of tea more often. Deligate I have plenty of volunteers on a Tuesday. (I found that out last tuesday). Lets hope I can!
The school rang and my son has another migrane so he has been sent home. So when he does go, he gets sent home again!!
Occupational health didnt ring me when they were supposed to, so I am waiting by the telephone to hear from them.

Savvy_sewing

Had an interesting call from the Occupational Health person. For once I had a lady that spoke english, who understood my condition and was actually able to give me sound advise. She is writing to BHF to tell them that the previous advisors information was incorrect, that my condition is listed in the disabilites discrimination section, and that they have to get me a suitable chair, she is going to tell them the places to get it, and the costs. From £100 to £1,000 some of them...Gulp. Anyway she is also going to suggest that the changes to my contract are permanant and not temporary as I will never be able to do the manual handling side of the job without damage/repercussions.
At last someone who knows what I am dealing with. She also suggested that I look to change my job, into possibly more of an office one. Not sure what I would do, to be honest thats the problem. I dont have a clue as to what job I could do, back to the CV and all the other things to do as well.
I am just fed up of continually changing my life. I just wish for once things could be simple and I could have a stable and suitable life style!! Oh well. Where do I go next? Anyone got a crystal ball please?

Savvy_Sue

Now mooloo, I was interested to see you say you'd not gone in until 1 pm - I used to work 'school hours' so was supposed to leave at 2.45 pm. Well, you can imagine how well THAT used to work, especially when I was the only admin person in. I didn't want to work more hours, so I moved onto a 4 days pw contract: I now do roughly the same hours as everyone else, but don't work Thursdays. I usually leave when everyone else does, and that works well for me.

So, could you do afternoons regularly? Would that work?

Glad you had someone helpful from OH to talk to. And it's good to hear someone informed say "You won't be able to do your old job again, and you should stay part-time." At least now you and BHF can plan.

I hope it all works out. I know what you mean about the constant change, it's exhausting!

Savvy_sewing

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Now mooloo, I was interested to see you say you'd not gone in until 1 pm - I used to work 'school hours' so was supposed to leave at 2.45 pm. Well, you can imagine how well THAT used to work, especially when I was the only admin person in. I didn't want to work more hours, so I moved onto a 4 days pw contract: I now do roughly the same hours as everyone else, but don't work Thursdays. I usually leave when everyone else does, and that works well for me.

So, could you do afternoons regularly? Would that work?

Glad you had someone helpful from OH to talk to. And it's good to hear someone informed say "You won't be able to do your old job again, and you should stay part-time." At least now you and BHF can plan.

I hope it all works out. I know what you mean about the constant change, it's exhausting!

I think you hit the nail on the head. I am exhausted, mentally as well as physically, my life has been so hectic really. I am now spaced out half the time, just with the enormaty of whats going on, and just not understanding or even knowing what I need to do to stay on an even keel.
I have to work all day today, as there are no other people around and its an area meeting so all the shops in the area, 16 of them, will not have a manager at their helm. (Except me). The normal is that the assistants run the shop on meeting day. But as mine is on holiday, then i am not able to go. Just as well as I dont fancy driving to Newbury today. My arm just would not take it.
I am hoping that next week, I will return to the 16 hours contracted and I will set the alarm on my phone and make me leave. I must try to make arrangements that I have to leave on time, and fit in a few of the visits to CAB etc.
I cant seem to explain my situation correctly to my BF, and I am frustrated with some of the comments that unintentionally are headed my way, not just from him, but from people around me. As I look well, people cant understand the fact that I am not well. Does that make sense.?
Now I have a few chores to do before I go in to work today.

Savvy_sewing

Morning, been up since 6.30. Still not dressed though. Had a busy day at the job yesterday and still came home to nothing done. Getting a little bit fed up of the twins doing hardly anything all day. By the time I got to eat my dinner, which I cooked it was gone 8.30pm. I then still had to do my Tesco food order. It was after 10.30 before I sorted out enough to go to bed.
Had a bad night, not sure if it was the winds, or the pain keeping me awake.
Had report sent to me from the Occupational Health people so now I know what is being said to the Head office about me now.
Got some sewing to do today, and if I can get my act together I want to attck a few more bags and boxes that are still awaiting my attention since we moved in here. Meeting with the school about DS this afternoon. See if we can get to the bottom of his problems.
Had to cancel Physio this week to have the meeting. So am not thrilled, as I will suffer for that.
Trying to look at the grocery challenge thread and try and get my self back on track here. Girls eating far too much junk food and not loosing any weight.

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Surfbabe

Hi mooloo

How about making a list for the girls of things they have to do each day - if they are at home they should be able to work through a simple list even with the babies.

Hope you don;t suffer too much from not having Pyshio this week - which has reminded me I have to ring them re DS !!!

Savvy_Sue

Surfbabe wrote: »

How about making a list for the girls of things they have to do each day - if they are at home they should be able to work through a simple list even with the babies.

That sounds like a very good idea to me. My boys know that when they're home from school I expect to come home to a washing up free zone, but I still have to phone them and remind them because they lose track of time. I sometimes ask for other jobs to be done: laundry, vacuuming, veg for tea etc.
Maybe for the girls a chart of things to aim to do by lunchtime (get up, breakfast, dress baby, dress self, tidy room) and then another for things to do by teatime (have lunch, wash up, prepare meal). Do you all eat together, and if not would that help at all? DS3 is cooking tea as I type ... for a change! DS2 has washed up after school - he forgot last night but has done it early today as he knows he's going out soon.

Savvy_sewing

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

That sounds like a very good idea to me. My boys know that when they're home from school I expect to come home to a washing up free zone, but I still have to phone them and remind them because they lose track of time. I sometimes ask for other jobs to be done: laundry, vacuuming, veg for tea etc.
Maybe for the girls a chart of things to aim to do by lunchtime (get up, breakfast, dress baby, dress self, tidy room) and then another for things to do by teatime (have lunch, wash up, prepare meal). Do you all eat together, and if not would that help at all? DS3 is cooking tea as I type ... for a change! DS2 has washed up after school - he forgot last night but has done it early today as he knows he's going out soon.

Hi, yes i do leave lists for them to do things. (Mostly), and I have telephoned them to remind them that things still need to be done. But I must confess I need to get into a routine of putting it down, as if I just tell them, then they definitely dont do it.!
Yesterday I came home to a bomb site, when they had been told the night before that the landlord was coming for an inspection. So it was a mad whirlwind of activity, one was feeding baby so unable to help, but the other and i had a mad fit. So now it looks reasonable, but every cupboard box and draw is full of what ever I chucked in it. I was in bed by 8.30. Nervouse exhaustion, and the arm was shouting at me, hey thats too much work.!
I have to go to work today again, but I intend to only be there for the 4 hours and then I am slunking off for the rest of the next 24 hours and stopping at the boyfriends. Now twin 2 is no longer with the babies father, I have less worries about him. As Social Services have withdrew funding for me to be a carer then I think I am definitely intitled to try and get some of my old life back. My purse may be just full of moths now, but I am allowed my happiness back?
If there is a problem I am only at the other side of Oxford.
I am going to leave instructions for the paid assistant to run the shop tomorrow, as Ihave already done my contracted 16 hours.
I have asked to be relocated to the Cowley branch of BHF, so I would be able to walk to work, (No jolting on the bus to agravate my neck. The shop has better rest facilities, and has more volunteers that help, so less active side of the work. Has a full time assistant Manager who is actually there.)
My Area Manager is thinking about it, as she sees that it may be a good idea for me, but the Regional Manager might not be so keen, as I am afterall only 16 hours at work.
The difference that I have made in the shop in the last 3 weeks back at work, may help. but there is still so much to organise really that its not preforming as well as I want.
I am as you can see torn between my children and my job, and my boyfriend!! Ah, life.
Which juggling ball will fall next?
I am off now. Running late already. Still not dressed and I have to get the bus in 20 mins. Ugh