We are being evicted, some advice please...... the date has arrived......

blue_monkey_2

Hi everyone,

Yes, feel fine to be honest, I think the initial part was more stressful - denial mybe, keeping it from the kids, they now know and I think it has made things a lot easier. Yes, would be good to meet up, take the kdis to the park for a picnic, we could meet at Fairlands Valley Park if anyone is interested and the weather is good enough - a park would be easier than keeping Ryan confined to be honest!!

I actually feel good about packing up now (not good so much, but OK about it, nice to have a declutter maybe) got a letter today though from tax Credits - got 2 in the earlier par of this year saying they wanted 3k from me, they got my figures wrong, but now they are asking for £651 back as an overpayment. Not sure where they get their figures from as they were all the same as when i called them and they gave me the refund!! Lucky I put some in the kids accounts (that is what it was for after all) so I have all of it. I am tempted to tell them to take it from next years payments though, I never understand how they work everything out!!

SC yes, the only way is up. To be honest, the worst part has been my husband, he has been moaning on and on about a hostel and also about going somewhere he does not 'want to go' which is the only place these 3 bed houses have come up. Last week I had enough and said tough, YOU have choices, you can either find anther job that will pay you an extra 40k pa, go and find somewhere to live on your own or put up with it as we are not in the position to be choosy! He seems to have stopped moaning about it since then, LOL, i should have said something earlier!! And even told his brother 'we'll do what we have to do as we cannot afford anything else'. I was shocked!!

blue_monkey_2

Thanks poorbabe, be sure to!! I don't drink at all so please feel free to have some for me

In_Search_Of_Me

Just popping in to send a hug...it sunds as if you are sorting and hopefully soon you'll know where youre going...huge hugs for you. I'm sure some days it feels like walking through treacle....youre right though there are going to be loads of people in the same position as you...thinking positively at lest you'll have gone thrugh it and be able to help those "behind" you at what must seem overwhelming at times.

Careful_with_that_Axe

blue_monkey
I haven't been able to get you out of my mind today. I am PM'ing you - sorry it's out of the blue. Hope I can help.

ampersand

Careful_with_that_Axe wrote: »

blue_monkey
I haven't been able to get you out of my mind today. I am PM'ing you - sorry it's out of the blue. Hope I can help.

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I won't be alone in agreeing with you on that cwta.

bm - all my instinct BESEECHES you to attend Court.

Let the Judge see you, ask you questions. You could ask some yourself - please do have a Legal Advisor/Shelter rep./Homeless Dept official, or similar, present.
mot's experience was not unique, although I appreciate Ryan changes the equation for you.
While glad you have had one helpful woman in the Homeless Department, I think you'll find any decision/allocation does not rest with her alone.
mot also had several kind and helpful, but ultimately powerless/ineffectual officials - even the pro-active trumpeting of her M.P. proved to be toothless and empty.
I'll be delighted to be shot down and proven wrong in this, your own very deserving case, but as you yourself say, the situation/need for home provision is worsening and this will continue.
My apologies if this seems both doom-laden and ill-timed.

suexxx

My daughters friend came round yesterday (she's 19)had her little girl with her(6mths old) she just popped in to tell about the 3 bedroom house she'd been offered by the council.she could see the look on my face,i was,nt happy !
I'm 40,single with 4 kids,i share my bedroom with my 11yr old daughter,we are crambed in like sardines,my house is private rental £725 amonth(council would not entertain me ! and do you know why ? because i was working full time at the time ! and could they say"afford to privately rent!"
This is why i'm in such a bad way now,because of the rent ive had to find each month(i'm left with nearly nothing)
The systems not right,my daughters friend has never worked in her life ! i'm sorry but i think teenage mothers such as her should be given a room in a home for young single mothers ,not a 3 bedroom house !

I'm sorry but it makes me sick especially when i hear about people in yr situation

hope things work out for you x

blue_monkey_2

Thank you everyone, Axe, you have earned your wings, thank you, I PM'd you. :A

A, I guess we are a little different to Julia, I have some letters here from the council that they sent my MP Getting the date for eviction is just a formality to be honest, there isn't any arguments over us needing somewhere now (we have hidden nothing, have shown them what we have and what we earn, have written proof we have looked private and otherwise) so I am just waiting for a date. I really don't have anyone to look after Ryan so i cannot go and the court appreciate this. Even when we went in to see the MP they were running around the room and swivelling the chairs around (to close to the table so it was bang, bang, bang) the MP however was great and just said 'they are fine, leave them be' because he has special interest in children like Ryan - a court however isn't the right place to take them - DD wil be fine but Ryan will scream the place down if I try and keep him on my knee or still as he hates the close contact. But the court have been fine, the council are waiting for a date - purely so they know how long they have to find us somewhere and from the letters they have told the MP that they are 'keeping us waiting' to see if something comes up around here that is nearer the school and more suitable for Ryan, if nothing comes up and we are a week from eviction date them it will be temporary accomodation - which they are tying to avoid. I have copies of the letters here which he sent me so I guess this is why I feel more 'settled' with the situation. We also have a letter saying we can have a 3 bed, but I'd be happy with a 2 bed if it had a dining room I could turn into a bedroom for DD - I feel I am in no position to be choosy and hopefully it is a stopgap and we can pick ourselves up again in the future.

Sue, I totally agree with you, someone came around the other day, single, no kids, earns more than my hubby yet 'he has it all worked out' and is going onto the council/HA list. Why? He can afford to save a deposit and the like, he can go into lodgings or a bedsit but 'he does not want that'. Well,sorry, beggers can't be choosers and all that as far as I can see and I have spent most of my life in lodgings, the only thing stopping us going now is the rules that letting agents and insurance companies are now imposing on potential tenants. I don't understand how some people seem to get more than others, are you on the list and have a points allowance? If they do choiced based lettings in your area there might be a chance you get 'lucky'. But this is what I was saying to my hubby. All these old single people in 3 bed houses, he should get a drug habit, go kill one of them, go to prison (maybe!!), I'll then get that 3 bed house as we will be 'vunerable' and in more need. LOL!! Would not be so bad if it was not true!! But yes, I can totally understand - at least get yourself on the register so if they have a bidding system you can try if nothing else.

PS. In all of this though, I, if I am honest, having a child with 'mental health' problems seems to be the overall thing in keeping us in this area and a house the size to accomodate him. Before he was diagnosed we was only entitled to a 2 bed - I was told this - since his diagnosis we are entitled to a 3 bed. If we did not have him then I really don't think they would be that bothered and we would have to fight more - maybe I would not be fighting so hard - but the minute he got his diagnosis the whole game changed and they have stated n the letter to the MP they want to find him something for his needs. I have 2 councillers and 1 MP who I am in contact with, they are the ones who can ask more questions of course as they fob me off but they send the MP more detailed letters - all of which he copies and forwards to e. He is still getting them now, got one a few days back, so he is still asking questions. He has been great but maybe this is because of his interest in 'special needs eduction', I am not sure, but Ryan's diagnosis did seem to change everything.

MummyHol

suexxx wrote: »

i think teenage mothers such as her should be given a room in a home for young single mothers ,not a 3 bedroom house !

I'm sorry but it makes me sick especially when i hear about people in yr situation

Couldn't agree with you more, suexxx. Im living in the teen mum central (also known as Stevenage) and my street is filled with teenage couples with at least 2 kids each that've all been given nice houses that they've trashed so their mates can all come round to smoke weed, get hammered and ride their ****ing mopeds up and down at 3am. It makes me so angry when i remember how difficult it was for us to get this flat (we were in a hostel before that but not deemed 'homeless'!!!) and how hard people have to fight to get housed when they honestly don't have anywhere else to turn.

BM- definately up for a trip to Fairlands over easter- if theres a rain free day, lol xx

ampersand

Thankyou for the expanded information bm - I 'm sorry you've had to type so much yet again.
I'll accept your interpretation and have all fingers crisscrossed for you that all will come to pass as you say.
Certainly, your MP does seem to exemplify substance over style.
Will be watching and waiting..........

Wol2

Hi BM

Really pleased to see you posting again and so positive.

Keeping my fingers crossed that everything works out for you over the next few weeks. PM me if you need a hand with moving!!!

Much love
Wol2
xxx