We are being evicted, some advice please...... the date has arrived......

ampersand

Hello bm - I'm adding my nothingsworth, having just spoken with the lovely(and knowledgeable)wol2 on 'phone.
We are both concerned by your pm's. but relieved to see you've posted elsewhere early-ish afternoon today.
Can well understand you're seeking escape from the imminent Eviction Hearing thread which is your own, here, but your supporters need to see you daily at these times.
We need to know how you are - even if you can't raise the oomph to do more than :hello: .
You are not being judged by us. I cannot be alone in sensing the sheer weariness that pervades your having to explain everything over and over again, being knocked back, trying to keep the balance betwen Ryan's needs and those of the rest of the family.
You are being pulled every which way and feel constantly that some part of you MUST 'give. Yet, Mums, upon whom most of these sorts of Hell fall most heavily, never can... and somehow, miraculously, hold on.

Yes, everything you are going through is another version of all that mot experienced(and continues to experience if considered accurately - still homeless, under a friend's roof, with b/g twins sharing a bed at age 11).
Until she actually turns the key in that promised lock in a few weeks, she will not believe the place is 'hers'......which, of course, it is not. It's a breathing space for a few years.

Forgive me if I haven't picked up on the following - have you heard/had any advice about the Judge and what he/she may say, concerning a Mother who evicts her child?
I realise this is of no material benefit now, but could a transcript be of use later, if this 'extraordinary fact' is highlighted by him/her?
As I'm sure others have said - and you are an intelligent woman who has read many of these Threads - you must have a Legal ear with you to pick up on things, the Legal import of which may not be immediately apparent.

bm, I can do nothing, but ask you to let people like me, who feel helpless when they cannot help lift your immense burdens, know that you are still on board.

Others should know that bm's pms to me have been lovely, witty, full of pluck(a good old-fashioned quality), generous spirit, and a lively warmth. The fact that this is written through what must feel like the opposite, is formidable - but yes, bm -it's worth nothing if you have nowhere to feel safe.
That's why I praise you and appreciate what it costs you to write as you hold your family together.

wol observed that a lot of us are in a not v.g. way atm.
This is very true.
Just keep us up to speed bm - PLEASE!

ampersand

Hello poorbabe(I might have guessed your quiet good self was on this one, too- hope to see you soon.)
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I'm just saying Good Morning bm, before I go to shower(somewhat late).
Throughout the whole of today, thoughts from everybody who is concerned for you, will be colliding and bumping happily together as they all rush towards you, their single focus point.
You are cared about, bm.
Is your OH over his neck injury now? - back at work?
Many here will attest to anything wrong in the back department being a real worry.
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We have just spoken :A - have a GOOD DAY(loathe the expression, but agree with it!)

Careful_with_that_Axe

Just come across this thread and wanted to say that, even though I can't help I can, like others, send you all my most sincere hopes that life turns round for you. I have a feeling you will be frequently in my mind today and in the coming weeks and I'll take every opportunity to send good thoughts your way.
Remember, when what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, ask just how bl**din' strong do they expect you to be!
Hugs
J
x

blue_monkey_2

Hi everyone, and A, thank you - I was a little surprised to get the call so I am sorry if I seemed a little off, we don't usually answer the 'private' ones (we have caller ID) but DD woke me at 5.20 and I had a disturbed night anyway (always happens after watching Lost, LOL!!) so could not get back off to sleep.

Ah, well, hubby is finally back at work, but I did take advantage of him being here to look after Ryan. Loft is now empty, bedrooms more or less empty, and more toys moved from the front room to the bedroom to sort out (could not face this yet). The stock take is now finished, van loaded ready for the storage units. These are things I cannot usually get done as I have to be in the same room Ryan is, so as Hubby was off I took full advantage of him being there (and giving me the ideal chance to get away from his moaning!!). I was exhausted come Saturday morning an Hubby had mentioned moving more stock to the storage units and I said a resolute NO as I did not think I could face lifting another box. I also managed to get a lot of stuff moved from upstairs into the garage so that when we go we have not got to lug it down stairs at the same time. So lots done - of course, Hubby has not packed a single thing so far, when it comes to going it will all be done and he will have the easy job, I don;t think he realises just how much I have done in trying to get everything I can packed, cupboards sorted, etc.... Of course, with him being here I could not spend as much time on the boards as usual it would have looked like I did nothing when I was at home during the day apart from a quick whizz round before DD got home from school *ahem* As if!! :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

But yes, everything is fine, I had a busy week though, Ryan had to go to child developement Unit, cats went to the cat home, kids had 2 birthday parties and hubbys birthday yesterday as well so the last week has just flown!

I did laugh when my friends husband suggested I might still be able to run my business amongst the hassle of everything that is going on!! I then said 'when you moved, how many boxes did you actually pack' to which his silence and then laugh kind of said it all!! You got to love them!!

I have cut out the coffee I was drinking to try and make me feel a little better, I went and bought some fruit teas, quite nice, but resorted to hot blackcurrant now and I feel much better, not sure if it is just because things are settling (kind of) or because I have been trying to dump the bread I eat. Jacket potatoes are more filling for the same points J!! One spoonful of strong grated cheese on a 225g potato, more satisfying that any sandwich and just 3 1/2 points. Yesterday I got through having just 11 1/2 points for the day - but as I had crammed my face with party food when the kids went to the party that makes up the the measly 18 daily points I am allowed but definately swapping my lunchtime sandwich for a jacket potato as I felt better after eating it.

As for everything else. I have sent a letter to the judge as I am not going to court, there is no need for me to as I am not contesting the eviction. I called the court and asked if I could do this, he asked why we were not contesting it, I explained and he said 'your case is a little different then so you can send a letter and the date will be given in your absence'. I gather from the forms that this is not a 'usual' case and that people are usually evicted for rent arrears and the hearing is to establish whether the tenant can stay. I think the courts are going to be seeing a who lot of people like me in te future!! So, I have sent a letter telling the court that basically the council will house us but not until the court evicts us, I explained we are low income and have a some with medical problems, I also explained that my mother could not sell the house while we are living there and that it is up for sale and that rent is up to date so no arrears are owed. It is hard, I still think about things and while I still feel (half) angry at my mum, there has to be a reason for her selling it and I do think she wants to leave work as the new caretaker is quite nasty to her - I think this is why she is selling, so she cannot afford to leave work. Fair enough. I just wish she would be honest, but I think that if she is then the school migt sack her. I am not sure, but I do think this is why and she does need the money. They way I now see it, if it was going to happen now then it could have hadppned in 1, 4, 8 years time - at least this way we will have a secure tenancy and Ryan will be settled. I do think that in a years time tere will be even less in the way of local authority housing nd maybe this has come at the right time. The future of housing scares me, but that is for another board.

And YES! Hubby finally back at work. He slipped a disk in his neck (apparently!!) and so could not really do anything since last Tuesday, I never realised how much under my feet he was, LOL. It was nice to have him here but even nicer for him to be ack at work this morning.

Love to you all and thank you for thinking of me, I am just fine and feeling much much better. Had been having a lot of headaches as well, might be using the PC as I have not used it so much while Hubby was off. :eek: Oh no!!!! Will have to see, the headaches have been going though, could be the lack of coffee though!!

Just a little PS though.... You might wonder why I am still going on about stock take and wonder why it took so long - it is because I have around 25,000 items in stock, most are different items, different styles, colours and sizes (I sell lingerie!). LOL!! Very surprised, happy for it to be in storage now but have to get that info over onto spreadsheets so I can sort the website out for when i can start working once again. I was finding it everywhere and website orders are still coming in daily, but bouncing an email back to say 'sorry, we are closed, etc... but good to know we are still in demand!!

blue_monkey_2

OK, just to add so it does not get lost in my long post above. I have now called the homeless department. I wondered when I should, I was told 28 days, but if the court give us 14 days to get out (in our absence) then e have 4 weeks on Wednesday so I called the Homeless Department on Friday. I had steeled myself for a fight for giving reasons, etc... but the person is the same wowan in the housing department I initially spoke to so I did not have to explain enything, just had to send the court date papers (not aked for before BTW!) and that was it. I was a bit deflated as I had worked myself up for an argument over it all. Just feel confused, but at least I guess she knew the ins and outs of it all and know why we are going to them. So, the homeless department have been notified, now we have to wait for a date from the court, but we do know that we will probably get somewhere in the last week before we are evicted, I think that is pretty much the done thing from what I can gather. So that was OK too.

silvercar

Good to hear from you, seems that crunch time is approaching, the only way is up!

I wouldn't dwell on your family's thought processes. No doubt when it is all over, they will claim that they did this for your own good, to see you housed by the council with a long term tenure, and that was their aim! They will feel that they have helped you!

jillie1974

have just caught your thread now bm and i hope everything goes ok. i know you have posted on MOT's thread so im here to offer support as well

vivatifosi

Hi blue,

I'm off over Easter, so if there's anything I can help with, be it moving boxes, meeting for a cuppa and a chat or whatever, send me a PM this week and I'll be there.

MummyHol

Hi BM

The homeless dept are generally much more sympathetic. I hope the packing up isn't stressing you out too much. I'm not too far away if you need to get away from it all for a few hours.

Pm me if you need to chat xxx

poorbabe

silvercar wrote: »

Good to hear from you, seems that crunch time is approaching, the only way is up!

I wouldn't dwell on your family's thought processes. No doubt when it is all over, they will claim that they did this for your own good, to see you housed by the council with a long term tenure, and that was their aim! They will feel that they have helped you!

I remembered thinking something similar when BM posted re her mother, but thought I was being 'off the wall' as per usual. BM, you and MoT especially have reminded me (again) how strong people can be when the situation requires it, even though they might feel they are falling apart.

I'll toast your eventual success this evening with a portion of my St Paddy's Day Guiness :T