We are being evicted, some advice please...... the date has arrived......

vandanfc

Hi

Have read your thread, but not posted before, but just wanted to send you some hugs to try and make up for your !!!!!!!!! day. You will get through this all somehow as you are a strong person. At the moment it may not feel like it,, but having read your posts on here and other threads you are strong and you will get through this.

Hugs.

Vanda

carrottopsuk

((((((hugs for you))))))

It's bad enough losing your home but your cats too. I'm so sorry.

beanielou

carrottopsuk wrote: »

((((((hugs for you))))))

It's bad enough losing your home but your cats too. I'm so sorry.

Me as well

in_debt_again_but_dealing_with_it

I'm a lurker and silent supporter too - just wanted to pass on a huge hug to you and your family. As an cat lover I know how hard today must have been and no consolation that you did the only thing you could and fingers crossed they will be still there when you are settled. Take care and try and find a little "me" time in your busy schedule - even a magazine in the loo may help .
love and hugs
IDA
xx

poorbabe

((((Blue_Monkey and family))))

I've not got anything to add that hasn't already been said. I just wish you and your family all the best during this difficult time.

Triker

blue_monkey wrote: »

Today - feeling

I had to take 2 cats to the shelter today. I laid in bed for hours last night trying to work out whether I should tell the kids or whether I should just say they had not come home and take them on the quiet. In the end I figured I would tell them the truth and just deal with the fall out so they could say goodbye to them and hoped they would understand.

My son took it the worst as he does not understand. I locked the cats in this morning and explained to my son why - and when I turned my back he very quietly turned it to open and pushed Jess out - I caught her half way out the flap and had to drag her back in again. When I went to put them in the car he ran out to the car, threw himself on top of the cat box saying 'please don't take Jess, please don't take Jess, I love her'. I had to take a very deep breath and explain again that we would not be able to take her to a new house and a new family would love to look after her.

I drove up there OK and got them from the car, as soon as I opened the door of the reception room I just burst time tears and I was still crying when I left an hour later. The lady there was lovely but I felt an absolute !!!!!, that I was just dumping them, worse because I had to make a choice on who I left here and who I took for rehoming. I was still crying when I got into the car and was driving home. My son has mentioned the cats a few times tonight and I have told him that when we find a new house we can go back and see if we can have them back. This opton is possible s the shelter told me today, but I guess it depends on how long it takes to get housed and whether there is a cap on how many cats we can have there.

Today has been the hardest so far and it really bought to me just how much further we have to go.

And tonight I feel an utter !!!!! and I feel empty inside, I feel exhausted and tired and totally drained. I have got 3 cats around the house sniffing in all corners, clearly trying to find the other cats. The 'baby' (this is the one I also tried to get to the shelter but they would not take her as she is quite timid) is crying and trying to get the other cats to play with her and 'cuddle' her like Eddie did and they won't so she is looking a litlte lost. They all clearly know that something is missing fro the house but how do you explain to cats.

My heart is breaking. I guess this signals the start of everything now and how much life is going to change for us in the next few months. 3 months tomorrow until the court date. I thought I was ready for everything, now I don't know if I am and I don't know if I am strong enough to get through this and hold everything together for the sake of the children. I thought I was fine today until it came to walking in the door with the cats. I wished I could have waited - put off the inevitable - but it was inevitable wasn't it.

I guess this is the start of things to come.

Right at this moment I hate my bloody mother and I can;t wait to get out!!

Sorry for moaning, just feeling very I know have had a few PMs and I have read them but feeling a little emotional at the moment and just trying to keep my head elsewhere and doing other stuff but if you are reading this I promise I'll get back to you in a few days time when I am feeling much better and I've got my head together. Sorry. xxx

I have my son's appointment with the Child Developement Unit tomorrow as well.

I got the DLA forms in so that is another job out of the way.

Aww sweetie, I'm soo sorry it's come to this, I wish there was something I could say or do that would make the situation easier to bear, I'm in Yorkshire, if I was nearer I'd have your cat and 'babysit' her until you were settled again.

Lost for words about your anguish xxxx

chevalier

I am so sorry about the cats, that is REALLY hard. Defo got a bit emotional there myself

Ref the house that is disabled only, erm please don't take offence but does you son qualify? Ie if he is getting statemented and you are applying for DLA.

Really sorry if this offends
chev

blue_monkey_2

Hi everyone,

Thanks for listening to me have a moan yesterday, I feel a little better today but feel a bit emotional still, I think it is the whole realisation thing - court is 3 weeks today (not months as I said up there). I think I have found somewhere wonderful to take the cat, I am waiting to hear back from someone else who is on holiday, to see if they are interested but if not there is a place in East Sussex that takes in scared cats as long term boarders: http://celiahammond.org/index.php?module=pagemaster&PAGE_user_op=view_page&PAGE_id=6&MMN_position=15:15 So I will give these people a try, it's a bit of a trek to get her there but Ricky would be so at home there with the other cats and having a warm shed to sleep in and maybe I'll be allowed to sponser her to stay there which will make me feel a whole lot better (it says they have long term residents you can sponser) - so we shall see. It has helped me feel a little better about the whole thing.

Chev, no, no offense taken, we did think about it but there is a hoist in one of the rooms and that has been adapted for someone who is in a wheelchair. I did think about it as there was nothing else really - however much we really need somewhere to live it does not feel right to be taking a house that is adapted for someone who does not have use of their legs/arms/etc... and needs this much assistance. Hopefully someone who needs that will apply and leave their house empty - who knows.

Something interesting though, my friend works for a local housing association, now she asked how things were going and I said 'there is nothing so I guess we are braced to get ready for the hostel' and she smiled at me and said 'don't worry, there will be something, it really won't come to that'. Now in the past she has just nodded and said 'yes, that happens sometimes, these things take time' so it has set a little niggle of optimism going in that maybe she knows something but cannot say, maybe they have been asked to get something ready that is not yet available (aparently, it can take time to get some places ready). So, I had a bad day, I still feel a tad ill, headache, tired, etc... but I think this is because I have had a few long and stressful days. I seem to spend all my time looking at cat homes - fingers crossed I have found the right one for Ricky if I don't have any luck with this other lady.

Thank you all so much for your hugs and good luck messages, I did read them but was trying to keep my mind elsewhere last night.

MummyHol

Big hugs for you BM.

Wol2

Hi BM

Been lurking for a bit. Have sent you email.

Sending you big hugs, strength and positive thoughts at this time.

Much love
Wol2
xxx