We are being evicted, some advice please...... the date has arrived......

mumoftwins

Hi BM,

When your Mum gets the Order of Possession, you will be given a date to leave the house - with me it was Court 17/9 date for eviction 2/10 however I managed to postpone the eviction date til 6/11 (need to check back in Eviction Notice Seved notes - towards the beginning to find out how I did it) and it was only the night before at 5pm that I was told by the council where we were going to be housed temporarily!!! If you have time please read the start of my ENS thread it will give a list of the series of events in which I went through in order to get housed in temp accom.

Please feel free to pm me or ring to ask any questions, I know I am still going through it BUT I do have time to help you too.

Lots of love and please don't worry too much - ask me and I will help somehow xx

blue_monkey_2

Hi MoT,

I did not want to bother you and this is why everyone has taken you to their hearts, you are still thinking of pother people and helping them. You deserve so much more than what has happened. I wish I could wave a magic wand for you - you have way much more to deal with than me but thank you for posting those dates, just sets my mind at rest a little really. I started getting a shufty on today with the packing though. Tonight I have an exciting evening of sticking bras and pants on hangers so I can do stocktake at the same time!!

I'll drop a PM over later after the kids are in bed and when I've tidied up an eaten. DD has been at a kids party this afternoon, I ended up huddled in a corner trying to sort my friends tax bill and money problems!! LOL!! so much for a break. She did however offer me space in her garage for storage is I needed it which was good of her. Sometimes it is nice that friends offer you silly things like this to make you realise you are not on your own.

I am going to ring Social Services on Monday and speak to them too, I spend half the time worrying I am imaging things with my son but now I have the confirmation from the CDU who have discussed him 'in a group meeting and have confirmed he does need to be seen' makes me feel I am not imagining things, but it might help with getting a one bed flat instead of a hostel so he is not bouncing off the walls instead of sleeping. He is fine if he is in his won room but if there is someone else in with him he will not sleep until he drops where he is and then the lack of sleep just turns him into an absolute monster - more of a monster than usual!!

Thanks sweetie. xx

Gemmzie

Hi BM,

I'm going to give you the same advice that I gave to MOT - look into a deposit bond scheme through Crisis or Shelter. It's instead of RIA and a deposit.

Hope that helps

blue_monkey_2

Hi Gemmzie,

Thank you for posting, yes, I am going to speak to Social Services about this on Monday when I call.

The problem I have is that my son is quite destructive - not intentionally - and it would mean the bond is lost if we did not have the time to set it right, and with him needing almost constant care and with hubby working then we don't have time to do it. I need to find out if the SS have something else that works the same or what they do in these cases, whether the LL has some insurance if there is a medical condition, I don't know what to do.

Thanks for mentioning it, it is on my list of things to ask SS on Monday.

PS. I realise this makes me sound like a terrible mother but I have to give my son almost constant care and lock or hide everything away. I am only human and cannot physically be with him every waking minute (just going to the loo is a worry) and I need to address this with SS on Monday.

JayneC

Hi B M I've just read your thread and wish you all the best.

It's been said previously about the points, but it's really irrellevent they're just for a normal application. When you are made homeless and in priority need you 'jump' the waiting list and have to be housed. It doesn't matter about any other need/points you had, that will be assessed at the time as the council HAVE TO offer you somewhere suitable.
It's absolutely rubbish (I work with kids leaving care and the council here make them wait until the day they are homeless before they will act), the council's try and make you believe that you should rent privately but don't accept that. you clearly are in need of social housing and you should stand your ground, don't be pressured in the private sector as you should definately be housed by the council (although as you are aware you may have to go into temporary housing first.)

Also, just for info, I work for Social Services and we really have no sway with the Housing Dept at all, in fact we avoid them if at all possible!!!!

I was also made homeless several years ago and had to go live on one of the worst estates in town so my heart goes out. Things did get better though, even tho i'd never have believed it at the time!

I'll try and keep an eye on your thread, Good Luck XX

blue_monkey_2

Dear Jayne, thanks for taking the time to post and explaining everything, that is most appreciated. I have been trying to think positive but am having a down day right this minute, every spare moment is just thining about 'stuff'.

Thanks for explaining about Social Services, I wanted to speak to them about Social Grant or Loan (is this what it is called) for the rent deposit if I needed it, but I was not sure how it worked. My children are my absolute life, I have tried so hard with them and with all this happening I am just left feeling bad. I have to speak to them about things in general, I've not bothered before but lots of people have told me to as I'll get more support with my son, especially now I have had confirmation that they feel they do need to assess him. I think there is more stigma with the SS and contacting them makes me feel like a failure tbh, but I thin just having someone to speak to at the end of the telephone is going to be a help.

I am so pleased that things got better for you, just nice to hear that being at the bottom does not mean you have to stay there. I am so pleased things worked out for you. I am hoping Ill be able to say the same next year

beanielou

AFAIK social fund loan is only for peeps on Income Support

JayneC

HI BM

Pleased it helped a bit.

Re a rent deposit, some councils will offer you one to get into the private sector but TBH I would politely decline as you need Social Housing for affordable rent and issues with your son, etc. The local authority have a duty to provide you with suitable accommodation if you are homeless (unintentionally) and in priority need (as you are with children). They just make you wait until the very last minute (in the hope you'll give up and find yourself somewhere else I assume).

In my case we went to court and got the order, took it to them and they gave us a house that day ( although it was in a terrible state and on a really notorious estate) even tho the court gave them 56 days to find somewhere.
We were in a terrible state financially then and TBH it was a relief to not have to worry about mortgage payments (OH had lost hs job and we were on benefits, but housing benefit would only pay half the interest on our origional mortgage, we'd remorgaged and the actual mortgage was more than double the origional!! We lost the house and HB paid our full rent on council house, which ironically would have almost covered out mortgage repayments. oh well...)

We came out the other side tho

Take care, it'll work out.

Jaynex XX

blue_monkey_2

beanielou wrote: »

AFAIK social fund loan is only for peeps on Income Support

Ah, thanks, sorry I don't really know anything, that is why I was going to call them. That is that out then. Never mind.

blue_monkey_2

Thanks Jayne. you have a smiley face now and reading your post I can imagine that it was a HUGE weight off your shoulders. I think that you have to make the decision that is right sometimes, even if it does not feel like it at the time.

Thanks also for the advice on the rent thing. I think they want to make sure we are genuine as my LL is my mum - I can understand that, I hate the 'not knowing' bit and not being able to plan. I am just concentrating on today and tomorrow and trying to get as much as I can done. I really thought I was going to get enough points and everything would be la de dah and that next week a letter would come through - LOL and then I woke up but I am going to let them know of the court date as soon as the letter comes through.

I am dreading it, maybe you can tell me, what happens in the court room, I am dreading it as it will be mum and sister against me (will hubby HAVE to attend if he is named too) and will we be able to take the children in. I thought he could wait outside with them but I am guessing I would have to take my son if it was a morning appointment as I would not guarentee being able to get him from school. Can you tell me any more of what happens. My sister is so nasty and I am dreading that she is going to get in there and just rip me to pieces, what is the judge going to think? I am so embarrassed, I have been avoiding all the neighbours as I can't bear anyone to ask me anything and I have told the EA not to mention anything to the children for fear of worrying them, I probably sound neurotic LOL. I am just finding the whole thing of being evicted by my mother so humiliating.