Teenagers bedroom

beachbeth

moanymoany wrote: »

I have great sympathy with the parents who send their adolescent children to boarding school in the Outer Hebrides. They can be very hard to live with and they can have a profound effect on ones sanity.

Too true. I was hoping my daughter would go to uni in John O Groats or Lands End (we live in the Midlands) but instead she attends a uni half an hour away and, even though she shares a house with other students, regularly commutes instead.:cool:

lofty_cherrytree

beachbeth wrote: »

Well, I have a 20 year old daughter who is just the same as all the above. Her room is disgusting! Dirty plates, glasses and mugs, dirty clothes and absolutely nothing is ever put away! New things she has bought or been given remain in the bags lying on her floor and important things such as passport, credit cards etc can be found amongst the pile too. She also waits until I reach the day when the linen basket is empty and I am up to date with the washing and then fills it up with the debris from her bedroom floor! Some of it is clean stuff that she just can't be bothered to put away.

When we carry on at her to clean up she always has a reason why she can't do it now and promises to do it later/tomorrow and then doesn't. The only way we can get her to do it is to absolutely blow up at her and have a blazing row followed by the threat that we will go in there with a bin bag and throw anything away that is lying on the floor!

Me too, mine is 17!! I never had as much "stuff" when I was a teenager though, but did my own laundry and ironing. She always promises but never does it!

Primrose

Well I can tell you what worked for my brother and I when we were kids. My mother threatened that everything in our bedrooms not stored tidily would be thrown out onto the lawn. Of course we ignored her until we returned from school one day to find clothes and stuff all tossed out on the lawn in the damp drizzle. Next time she told us to clear up our bedrooms and promised retribution, we knew she wasn't joking! And we had to wash the clothes ourselves - no washing machine in those days!

tooties

Good afternoon everybody,
just read the whole thread and after spending the last hour and a half ironing the ungrateful mucky little darlings clothes i have decided to..................
make them responsible for their own washing, drying and ironing of their clothes!!!!!!!!
after all my three darling sons are 20 in august, 19 in august and 18 in november so i think i have been far too soft with them,
if they want to live in environmental health hazards then they can and im going to sit them down tonight and tell them that unless dirty clothes are brought to the washing machine daily then they can be responsible for it themselves.

just hope they cave in before i do
thanks for all your replies
tooties

LisbonLaura

Sharra wrote: »

I wondered if anyone has suggestions about my 13 yo son's bedroom - it is a disgrace!

If anyone has managed to crack this problem I'd be really grateful for some suggestions.
Thanks

My father was capable of cracking his thick leather strap (although he rarely did). The loving threat was enough to keep his 3 daughters inline!

Cruel? No way, just practical, saves precious breath nagging, allows a child to develop self-discipline, & left us more quality dad time.
He was the best....(sigh)

We were given plenty of rope, so there was no need for a sore backside.

But now we have a brave new world where every child behaves itself, so love & chastise is a forbidden mantra. Crazy.

What do you do now? - Lord knows.
Sorry, but it sounds like you got the early programming wrong; but then most parents seem frazzled & under siege these days, so please don't take it personally. ..... & Good Luck!

EDIT:-Re above post:- You got it right Tooties, but start at age 3 next lifetime

mikki2d

If it isn't dangerous or illegal, don't fret about it!

Set your own household rules. Mine are that clothes not in the wash basket will not be washed, it is ok to eat and drink in your room but not with my crockery (if you want to do it, buy your own!), kitchen closes at 7.00pm and if you have not had a meal by then you are on your own, I don't do breakfast but you don't get lunch money unless you have one cos cereal and toast are within everyone's capabilities, cd's and dvd's not in cases are taken hostage and held until the ransom of washing the car is paid! Works a treat.

abbecer

My boys are still only little so I haven't really had to suffer this yet. However I think I will be really strict with them. They already have to scrape their plates and put them in the sink and they are only two and five. Eldest tidies his own bed in a morning.

When they are older if they can't be bothered to tidy their dirty clothes away I won't wash them. I would expect them to be able to use the washing machine by that age anyway. Same would apply with ironing. Other than that I would just close the door of their bedroom and pretend the mess wasn't there.

Rebecca x

Loretta

Sharra wrote: »

I wondered if anyone has suggestions about my 13 yo son's bedroom - it is a disgrace!
I know thats the case with most teenagers (I was pretty bad) but even when I bite the bullet and force him to tidy it, it is trashed again the next day. He doesn't seem to care about the mess at all.
It's not so much I mind it being a bit messy (it is his space after all), I just get very upset when I see brand new cds, books etc being trampled on, and clean clothes strewn all over the floor. I also worry that if there was a fire or a power cut he wouldn't get out of his room without tripping over something.


If anyone has managed to crack this problem I'd be really grateful for some suggestions.
Thanks

Believe me - no one has ever cracked this problem,

You have 2 choices you either nag and yell and moan all the time

Or

You shut the door and ignore it

Neither of these work but they are the only options

Lyndsay_21

i was awful as a teenager my room was a hell hole and i had to share it with my little sister but did i care nooo it was gross!!! i am dreading DD being the same she wont even tidy it up now at 5 let alone when she's 15

Pipkin

I can't tell you how much good it has done my heart reading this thread!

Not because you all have problems, because I wouldn't wish these things on anyone, but because I have them too and now realise I'm not alone.

Not so much my DS, but my DD's room is blooming awful..It stinks, she does nothing to keep it even reasonably tidy despite repeated nagging..she doesn't take care of her things.. cd's, dvd's, make up, bedding, curtains all get wrecked and all I get is a *so what* kind of look..

If I tidy it up (and I do) the literally hours later it can be back to being the same way again .

I really do despair quite seriously at times.

I'm off to tidy it up today purely because she goes back to school tomorrow, and her stinky room makes her smell not so fresh, and I like to her to at least have a fighting chance of being clean for school.

Any tips/encouragment/commiserations welcomed with open arms!!