Teenagers bedroom

LuciferTDark

You could try what I did. Give him 24hrs to clean up, than 24hrs later go in & clean everything out & black bag it all & leave it outside in the garden. Try to plan this so he then has 24hrs before the dustmen arrive to retrieve anything he actually wants. Worked a treat for me & no more bombsite bedrooms in my house.

mary43

When my kids were teenagers one was really messy..........I could only guess what might be festering under his bed. I shut the door and let him get on with it..........it was his space and if he wanted to sit and listen to music while in a pig sty so be it. Once he got his own place..........talk about houseproud !!! He changed completely. His younger brother was always much tidier when he was younger and still is (theyre both in their 30's) but he is a great hoarder (unlike the other one) although its a sort of 'organised chaos'.....his flat is his as far he sees it.It's clean, he's very good at that and his clutter is all part of 'him' really. Thats how he is.
The two teenagers I have in foster care are also opposited.............one is really messy.........CD's on the floor along with ps2 games etc. Clothes in a heap.......whats clean and whats not I've no idea. He's 17 now and old enough to sort things like that for himself. He'll bring his washing down in a huge heap knowing full well my machine isn't the same size as those at the laundrette and I've told him if he wants all of them doing then he must go off to the laundrette himself. He soon calms down and picks out the most vital things he wants and I put the rest through later. When he got a girlfriend I thought things would change but they haven't...........he's still messy and shes the only one who can get him to do anything by telling him she won't come around until he sorts it out. He does and its lasts a couple of days.
The other lad is very tidy but having said that he is still in frequent contact with his family and most of his 'stuff' is still there.

I think teenagers seem to be a law unto themselves with bedrooms.....girls are often no better than boys but they get through it in the end. Just keep the door shut and try not to think about it.

Oh.......I do make him pay a 'fine' if I find plates/mugs/glasses in his room for more than a day...............50p an item and its taken off his pocket money.

daisymaisy123

I have 3 sons and like Lucifer I did the black bag thing with my oldest,had been telling him for days to clean up and gave him until tomorrow to do it and anything on the floor would be binned and I did just that.
Everything from ps2 to cd's dvds Walkman,games,clothes,shoes,all got bagged and put on the top of my drive for the rubbish men .
I think that is the quickest I have ever seen him move ever.
He came to see me a few months after moving in with his girlfriend and kissed me on the cheek and said mum I am so so sorry for being such a pain when I was younger but it is only now I look back and think you must have been a saint not to strangle us when we all 3 of us played up.
I thought them all to cook and iron etc when they went to secondary school as I didn't want them to be useless husbands like my own brothers are.
Wouldn't swap my boys for all the tea in china though.

Hardup_Hester

I had 2 tidy kids & 2 messy ones, I did not go into any of their rooms, so I didn't know or care what the rooms were like.

whatatwit

My daughter is fairly untidy, and as a previous poster said, no point in withholding pocket money as Grandparents arrive and hand over a tenner.
If I say anything when my mum is here, she says......you were once a teenager..... in that annoying voice....."Yes, I know and your point is?"

Getting homework done is another battle.

dawn64

Smpathy to you,,just wait till he goes out,,remove all the stuff he wants,,p.c,,games ,,c.d etc,,t,v,,you know the stuff,,and leave all the mess behind ,,after about a week he will get fed up and start to realise what he has been doing,,it worked for me.Good luck ok.

aimme13

I have tried ignoring the problem but when the clothes arent washed its my wardrobe she raids!!!! thats when the shouting matches really start:-)

barbie_babe

When i was younger my mum used to put everything from the floor on to the bed. so i couldnt go to bed untill it was all sorted out. This really worked for me as i would never dream of dumping it all back on the floor as i knew i would have been in big trouble.so the stuff got sorted out.
A few times i have got to my wits end telling my kids to tidy up and i have done the same to them and it has worked.

taplady

barbie_babe wrote: »

When i was younger my mum used to put everything from the floor on to the bed. so i couldnt go to bed untill it was all sorted out. This really worked for me as i would never dream of dumping it all back on the floor as i knew i would have been in big trouble.so the stuff got sorted out.
A few times i have got to my wits end telling my kids to tidy up and i have done the same to them and it has worked.

I have done this too! didn't work too well as he just moved it all back on the floor!:rolleyes:

Mice_Elf

Don't have this yet with my daughter, she's only 2, but when we were younger & our rooms got in a state, we'd come home to find a bin bag and the hoover in the middle of the floor. If one wasn't used, the other would be and anything on the floor went in the bag and in the bin.


(Actually, the bin bag was just put in the bin while we were watching & then removed later (when we weren't watching) so that any important stuff / clothes weren't actually thrown away, but we didn't get them back for a while. We *thought* that it was all thrown away...... Worked a treat for us.. )