Money Moral Dilemma: Should I have to pay for clothing my friend wants me to wear for her 'wedding'?

primrose_penguin

It is really up to you to decide how much you want to be part of the entourage, £100 doesn't sound a huge amount for an outfit, some bridesmaids pay for their own dresses or contribute towards them. Would you be buying yourself a new outfit for the wedding anyway if you were just a guest? You never know if she has a Nigerian background you may get the chance to wear it again if she invites you to other occasions. If you cannot afford it then be honest and tell her but say you would love to go as an ordinary guest.

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ripongrammargirl said:

Not a dilemma at all if you can’t afford it or don’t want to pay for it.
If the friend wants you to be part of this then she should pay for it as it’s not your choice/style of clothing and certainly not anything you would wear again.
in my opinion it’s quite rude to ask a friend/relative to be a major part of a non-Christian/traditional English  wedding but then not pay for the outfit you are required to wear!
Explain you don’t have the cash/want to pay for something you’ll never wear again etc and that you are very happy to be a major player if it doesn’t involve costs to you or you will have to turn it down and attend as a guest. 

Either way you will be part of her day. Enjoy!!

At what point did the poster say they were English or Christian? 

Someone made a good point of buying 2nd hand, that’s the option I’d go with.