Money Moral Dilemma: Should my husband ask if he can use his loyalty app on other people's shopping?

Shell1989

Your husband may be getting the points associated with the persons shopping, but the other persons shopping bill will be lowered by using your husbands loyalty card. And the savings on their bill far outweighs the value of the points your husband is getting. It’s win win - but in the other persons favour - so let your husband go ahead if he wants to.

keithyno.1

I'm inclined to agree with the writer of this week's dilemma. I wouldn't necessarily describe it as 'mortifyingly rude' but such behaviour would certainly be very intrusive.

When you make a purchase in a supermarket or any other shop it's a business transaction between you and the shop owner and complete strangers have no right trying to get involved with it for their own ends, however innocent it may seem on the face of it.

If somebody tried a trick like that on with me in a supermarket I'd politely tell them where to go. If you're so desperate for points on a loyalty card you'd approach complete strangers for them you're a bit sad and lacking in social manners in my opinion.

cantbelieveit23

Not rude but I might feel embarrassed to ask.
Morally?  OK if you would offer to do the equivalent for others.

ripongrammargirl

If I am in a supermarket and someone in front of me does not have a loyalty card, I always ask if I can have the points. I have never been refused or had any bad comments about asking this. The answer is either yes or no; nobody will be hurt! 

I have even offered loyalty points I have accrued  such as for clothing etc if I have an excess and can’t use. People are always grateful for any discount. Just ask, it’s easy to do and why waste points that would otherwise go unclaimed? 

badmemory

I have to say that I do get irritated if people are spending hard earned cash buying something that if they only had a clubcard would give them a significant discount.  The points are nothing it is some of those clubcard deals.

Eccentrica_Gallumbits

I don't think it would be "mortifyingly rude" for him to ask - but it is a bit cheeky, and personally I wouldn't want to be intruded upon by someone being cheeky in that way. I wouldn't ask for other people's points myself, and I would feel embarrassed if my partner were to do that when they were with me, too.

When I'm shopping, I like to get in, do my shop and get out again as quickly as I can - it's a functional activity, not a leisure pursuit, for me, so I don't want to be detained while I'm getting on with it!

Having said that, in the past I have several times offered other people the chance to get loyalty points on my shopping if I don't have a loyalty card for that supermarket or have forgotten it. But that's me offering them something for nothing, not them asking something from me for nothing, and I think the two are entirely different. 

GrandmaJane007

Just responding to post about not being in T & C’s. We were in Tesco at self checkout and the Tesco employee on the section asked if she could use our card for someone else to get them the discounts. We now actively look to help other people out if they have forgotten/don’t have a loyalty card. 

whydoineedone

No I’d be embarrassed to. But why doesn’t the other shopper get a Clubcard? So what if Tesco knows what you are buying! Don’t get it! I save loads on mine. 

WallStreetWolf

I work on the checkouts at Tesco, and in the store I work, we are actively encouraged to politely ask the customer without a Clubcard, if they would like to use another customer’s Clubcard, so that might get some money off their shopping; the vast majority of customers say yes please, occasionally they will say no. If they are agreeable to using another customer’s Clubcard, I then ask the customer behind if they have one, and would they be OK if we used it for the customer I am serving; never yet had any any customer say, “No!!” There usually follows much bonhomie! Wouldn’t say that this exactly a moral dilemma, but to avoid any awkwardness, I’d leave it to the checkout staff to initiate the conversation about using another person’s Clubcard.

flaneurs_lobster

Didn't Tesco once have a promotion with 'school vouchers', could be exchanged by the local Primary for slates & chalk or somesuch?

My local Tesco had a child installed at each checkout who would ask if the vouchers might be gifted.