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Sapindus said:Emmia said:My parents charged "rent" when we were back for uni holidays
To pay the "rent" (which wasn't a huge amount) my siblings and I all worked during our university holidays. Normally I had two jobs and worked 7 days a week during the holidays, to save money that would help with uni expenses in term time when I couldn't work.
To be clear I didn't live at home, term time.
I paid rent when I dropped out of my A'levels and went to work full time - I also had to carry on with my A'levels (although it was pointless) until I had a job - no quitting and lying around on the sofa all day, claiming benefits.
You probably think this is harsh, and actually my parents didn't need the "rent"... but the reality, as an adult outside of the family home is that you need to pay your way - so why not at home too?
If you don't want to charge your kids that's fine, but personally I think you set yourself up to be abused as a hotel when they finish uni too, as they won't feel they need to pay, and won't move out as it's "too expensive".3 -
Sapindus said:Emmia said:My parents charged "rent" when we were back for uni holidays
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MeteredOut said:Sapindus said:Emmia said:My parents charged "rent" when we were back for uni holidays
It does sound like one of the weekly Money Moral Dilemmas that make me wonder why someone would ask such a question from complete strangers on t'interweb.1 -
Agree with all of the first page of posts - not that the OP will probably read this.I was not charged to live at home when home from Uni. But I was working 30-50 hours a week in the local supermarket, whilst also driving tractors for my Uncle whenever I was ordered to. I would not charge my son to live here unless he had a full-time job. I think that's greedy. The more help you can give them, the sooner they'l be able to save up for a house and move out!0
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How is it greedy to have an adult son living with you pay their way?
Particularly one who on the face of it isn't saving up for anything.All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.
Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.6 -
ButterCheese said:Agree with all of the first page of posts - not that the OP will probably read this.I was not charged to live at home when home from Uni. But I was working 30-50 hours a week in the local supermarket, whilst also driving tractors for my Uncle whenever I was ordered to. I would not charge my son to live here unless he had a full-time job. I think that's greedy. The more help you can give them, the sooner they'l be able to save up for a house and move out!
At home from Uni: sure, support them. Dropped out, and doing nothing except following the latest online hustle fad (might be harsh, but I'll be surprised if i'm wrong): time for tough love.6 -
MeteredOut said:ButterCheese said:Agree with all of the first page of posts - not that the OP will probably read this.I was not charged to live at home when home from Uni. But I was working 30-50 hours a week in the local supermarket, whilst also driving tractors for my Uncle whenever I was ordered to. I would not charge my son to live here unless he had a full-time job. I think that's greedy. The more help you can give them, the sooner they'l be able to save up for a house and move out!
At home from Uni: sure, support them. Dropped out, and doing nothing except following the latest online hustle fad (might be harsh, but I'll be surprised if i'm wrong): time for tough love.
I agree. I was referencing someone else who said whilst at home they were charged for keep. I would not charge kids if they were at Unit and trying to work in the holidays, but in OPs case, yes definetly. They are doing them no favours by supporting them. Unfortunately it sounds like they have been soft and are now paying for it.0 -
Emmia said:Sapindus said:Emmia said:My parents charged "rent" when we were back for uni holidays
To pay the "rent" (which wasn't a huge amount) my siblings and I all worked during our university holidays. Normally I had two jobs and worked 7 days a week during the holidays, to save money that would help with uni expenses in term time when I couldn't work.
To be clear I didn't live at home, term time.
I paid rent when I dropped out of my A'levels and went to work full time - I also had to carry on with my A'levels (although it was pointless) until I had a job - no quitting and lying around on the sofa all day, claiming benefits.
You probably think this is harsh, and actually my parents didn't need the "rent"... but the reality, as an adult outside of the family home is that you need to pay your way - so why not at home too?
If you don't want to charge your kids that's fine, but personally I think you set yourself up to be abused as a hotel when they finish uni too, as they won't feel they need to pay, and won't move out as it's "too expensive".If you don’t need the rent money, why charge it? Deprive your kids of having some savings to fall back on? Surely it makes more sense, to have them at home but encourage them to use what would be rent money to get into the habit of saving.I'm a Forum Ambassador on the housing, mortgages & student money saving boards. I volunteer to help get your forum questions answered and keep the forum running smoothly. Forum Ambassadors are not moderators and don't read every post. If you spot an illegal or inappropriate post then please report it to forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com (it's not part of my role to deal with this). Any views are mine and not the official line of MoneySavingExpert.com.0 -
With us. My kids receive/d the min student loan due to our household income. We had to step in to pay the rent. They didnt receive enough loan to pay it themselves. Both live/d away from home. If theyd lived at home I wouldnt see the point in charging them given we'd have been saving on not paying their student rent. Our contribution in those circs would have been instead that they used our electric and ate our food.
I dont charge in hols for the reason given above.
My eldest never returned home after his degree.0 -
silvercar said:Emmia said:Sapindus said:Emmia said:My parents charged "rent" when we were back for uni holidays
To pay the "rent" (which wasn't a huge amount) my siblings and I all worked during our university holidays. Normally I had two jobs and worked 7 days a week during the holidays, to save money that would help with uni expenses in term time when I couldn't work.
To be clear I didn't live at home, term time.
I paid rent when I dropped out of my A'levels and went to work full time - I also had to carry on with my A'levels (although it was pointless) until I had a job - no quitting and lying around on the sofa all day, claiming benefits.
You probably think this is harsh, and actually my parents didn't need the "rent"... but the reality, as an adult outside of the family home is that you need to pay your way - so why not at home too?
If you don't want to charge your kids that's fine, but personally I think you set yourself up to be abused as a hotel when they finish uni too, as they won't feel they need to pay, and won't move out as it's "too expensive".If you don’t need the rent money, why charge it? Deprive your kids of having some savings to fall back on? Surely it makes more sense, to have them at home but encourage them to use what would be rent money to get into the habit of saving.
Paying rent encourages them to work, rather than lying on the sofa all day, or getting up at noon.
We don't agree on this point, I think rent is reasonable, you don't.2
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