Weekly Flylady Thread 24 March 2025

Honey_Bear

Good call on the LPAs Valli.  I did ours some years ago, and we also have Advance Directives in place should we become incapacitated.  I hadn't heard of the End of Life Planner so I'll get on to that too.

What I'm also currently doing is taking photographs of all the things that mean something, whether they're valuable or of huge sentimenal importance to the family like my grandfather's books which would otherwise end up in a charity shop and go for nothing, and I'm going to get the photos printed.  Each photograph will be on a page of A4 with a description of the item, the £££ value if that's relevant, and why it's important; the final section is who it should go to and why.  Clearing personal property after someone has died is tough physically but I aim to make the mentally taxing side as easy as possible on whoever has to do it, and to ensure that people know they were important to me.  I'd much rather do it now and not have to think about it again than panic if I came up against a diagnosis later in life.  It saddened me when my best friend died in 1988 that I didn't have anything of hers to remember her by, and I don't want that to happen to anyone that means anything to me.

Today I have done all the dailies, made Belovéd's packed lunch for tomorrow (there's no Green Room where they're rehearsing), forgot to make one for myself and we're out of bread (doh!) and made a huge ratatouille which is in the slow cooker and blobbing away, and a double recipe of mushroom stroganoff.  My aim is to put a whole load of lovely food in the freezer so I don't have to think about cooking when things get hectic, which they already are, but they're going to get a lot busier and I'm already knackered.  We both are, actually.

What I haven't had the time or energy to deal with is my wretched email account problem but there are only so many hours in a day and I've told everyone there's a problem so that's as much as I can do at the moment.

eltee2

eltee2 said:

Morning all - usuals, bedroom and a 🐸 for me today

✔️Open windows
✔️Bedding to WM
✔️20 min walk
✔️CS volunteering
✔️WM & line dry
✔️DW
Clean mirrors & windows
✔️Empty bin
Vacuum headboard & matress
✔️Remake bed
✔️S&S kitchen & bathroom
Declutter & clean a 🐸 cupboard in kitchen
Vacuum everywhere

El

Didn't quite finish, done some garden pottering instead 🏡👩‍🌾

weenancyinAmerica

@Valli - is there a chance that the bank could provide you with the statements further back? Should be in their computer.

Valli

weenancyinAmerica said:

@Valli - is there a chance that the bank could provide you with the statements further back? Should be in their computer.

yes, but, as I mentioned, there will be a cost.  I no longer have paper statements; mine are downloaded into a file in my laptop.  

Jazee

Morning all.  

Valli - do you have online access to the account? Is so, you may be able to print statements directly from there without having to pay.

Mostly admin today as it's payday.

Have a great day everyone.

Valli

my sister has the bank account - and access as she’s been making payments on mums behalf for some time now.  Mum was attending a day centre and sis paid invoices.  I was ‘otherwise occupied’ at the time you may recall.  we also are her attorneys. And, actually, next of kin.  She’ll have to look into it but at least she has as much info as I can give her.  I might go again this weekend to look for paperwork, but it’s draining.  The other thing is dad is wanting to get rid of stuff as it reminds him of mum, so I make sure stuff isn’t thrown without checking.  .  

Just put a wash on.  


Im visiting the new baby then mum later. 

eltee2

Morning all

We're out later, so today will be tidying, S&S,  airing & remaking bed and the vacuuming.

Agree with Valli regarding arranging Power of Attorney.    I hadn't heard of it until my sister was in a coma for 6 weeks before she died.   We had to cope with that as well as trying to sort her finances as BiL didn't have POA, it was awful seeing him not knowing what to do.

Me & OH arranged ours a few months later and when mum was diagnosed with early stage Alzheimers, they advised me to get POA as soon as possible which we did a year ago but haven't actually got round to formally notifying her bank, GP etc.    I'm staying with mum next week and we have a long list of things to do.

Apologies, I went off on one.  It's stressful even with POA

Sending hugs to valli

jimali

Sending hugs to valli and anyone else who needs one.

So far this morning:
- put away 2 loads dry laundry
- put load 1 washing on
- put load 1 washing on airer to dry
- put load 2 washing on
- took and sent photos of stock to local craft shop to potentially stock my stuff - exciting!
- replied to another craft fair about a table at their event

So not much done yet I feel like I've been up for hours ?!
Might do a bit more later, want to dust etc our bedroom today but DH not up yet

Fayolle

Morning all,
Big hugs all round. Another yes to getting your life sorted and everything recorded.  Next on my list is to put down some thoughts about my funeral (we went to one last week which has again prompted me), as that will be one less stress for whoever has to sort it out. I find it a practical thought, but DH doesn’t want to think about it.
Yesterday was definitely a no fly zone here, totally self indulgent day with me and the sewing machine.  The builders have finished plastering and not here today, so this morning I have been wiping and dusting surfaces (plaster dust everywhere), and vacuuming.  So downstairs has been cleaned which is a job off the list. Off out shortly for a quick lunch with friends. My next job is decorating so that the builders can come back and lay the floor, but I need dried out plaster first. Hopefully that is the weekend sorted for jobs. And a sneaky visit to the allotment between coats as the weather is supposed to be ok.

ionafan

In the middle of a phonecall this evening to an old schoolfriend, I suddenly realised that I hadn't done my daily round and taken anything out of Grandfather's school trunk today.  I grabbed a handful of loose photos and discovered
- 2 envelopes full from DS1's wedding (but they include lots of duplicates)
- 1 envelope full from DS2's wedding (ditto duplicates), plus the invitation, order of service, and menu for the meal
- more pictures of DGS1 as a small baby - very cute!
- my eldest goddaughter's graduation photo, plus one taken at about the same time with all three of her godparents 
- a lovely photo of a dear friend who died a few years ago, in typical pose behind multiple tea and coffee pots (she used to raise a lot of money for good causes by cooking meals in her home for anything up to 24 people at a time )
- pictures of two elderly German friends shaking hands with scarecrows at a local festival (as you do )

I've labelled the envelopes and put them in the appropriate piles by date, to be culled when I eventually get round to sorting that year.

Also in the same handful: a unopened pack of adhesive "Magic Dots" to be added to the CS pile.  A small fer-ling but better than nowt.  And I have tidied the kitchen and wiped the work surfaces.