Dilemma - dream job in jeopardy due to finances

Mands

"if I lived somewhere with a better climate it would help"

No, it wouldn't. 

I say this with all kindness, but also an overwhelming amount of frustration. And I am aware you will hate this response, and rightly so because there's a hefty dose of tough love incoming. 

The weather, your age, your parents income, your failed relationship, your mortgage rate ... none of these are what is holding you back. 

Your attitude is.

Specifically you have set yourself up to fail. And you have subconsciously done that so that you have a hook on which you can hang every disappointment in your life. It allows you to claim "if only *this* had happened I'd have been happy". Now the pilot opportunity has gone for good you are sorted! Now you can use that for the rest of your life.

You have built a prison cell for yourself and you can't see it. There have been an enormous number of great suggestions in this thread and you have treated them all in one of two ways: either by ignoring them or responding with "yes, but ...". You are not looking for solutions, you are looking for validation that you've been dealt a poor hand. 

Maybe you have, maybe you haven't. But I've known people with a worse start and worse luck come out on top. There's a fantastic quote by Cheryl Strayed that I love: "You don't have a right to the cards you believe you should have been dealt. You have an obligation to play the hell out of the ones you are holding."

I said in my last reply "choose wisely". You aren't. 

sheramber

sky_rat said:

Savvy_Sue said:

sky_rat said:

I just have to accept that Im stuck in a career that makes me miserable and is going down the pan, I've had to put it with it for decades so will just have to continue for several more decades until retirement (and god knows when that will be !)

Have you taken NOTHING away from this thread other than the 'woe is me' attitude you arrived with?

Suppose your DD started in a career but then felt it was a mistake? Suppose her 'dream job' was unattainable - wanted to be a ballet dancer perhaps but you couldn't pay for private drama / dance school? Surely you'd point her towards other ways of living a full life?

I was just responding to Lizzies post about how the integrated route or a flying instructor is not possible either due to the high financial cost. 

I don't know what other career I could change to, so I just have to accept the situation and carry on as I have been,

You don’t know any other career because you have been fixated on being a pilot.


Put as much energy into researching other jobs as you have  been putting into  wanting something that is not attainable. 

kimwp

Tbh, I'm not sure the finances of skydiving would work, if the finances of being a pilot paying back training won't- it looks like they get max £30k a year working long hours and have to pay for jumps for experience, training and equipment out of that.

We all have our dreams and most are not attainable (mine features a house with a 25m swimming pool, a private chef and lots of animals with staff to clean up after them and myself, funded by a job of cuddling babies). So most people have to stow the full dream and find smaller ways of achieving it - a reasonably pleasant job that funds part of the dream for example.

Marcon

sheramber said:

sky_rat said:

Savvy_Sue said:

sky_rat said:

I just have to accept that Im stuck in a career that makes me miserable and is going down the pan, I've had to put it with it for decades so will just have to continue for several more decades until retirement (and god knows when that will be !)

Have you taken NOTHING away from this thread other than the 'woe is me' attitude you arrived with?

Suppose your DD started in a career but then felt it was a mistake? Suppose her 'dream job' was unattainable - wanted to be a ballet dancer perhaps but you couldn't pay for private drama / dance school? Surely you'd point her towards other ways of living a full life?

I was just responding to Lizzies post about how the integrated route or a flying instructor is not possible either due to the high financial cost. 

I don't know what other career I could change to, so I just have to accept the situation and carry on as I have been,

You don’t know any other career because you have been fixated on being a pilot.


Put as much energy into researching other jobs as you have  been putting into  wanting something that is not attainable. 

Looking at some of OP's other posts, there seems to be a lack of flexibility, and a tendency to see things in black and white, which probably isn't helping him to cope with his disappointment (or some of the answers on this thread):

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/6595471/council-tax-single-occupancy-confusion#latest

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/6590864/why-is-swithing-so-risky-and-complicated#latest

OP, have you considered professional help in identifying potential other employment/career opportunities? You're only 49 and it seems a terrible waste of talent to consign yourself to being miserable for another 15 years or so, when you could potentially be much happier and earning enough to enjoy a lot more skydiving jumps.