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rtandon27

Just came across the loveliest quote!

I like the idea of embracing what’s happening, rather than resisting it, because I feel like when you do, everything opens up. - DIANNE KEATON 

Greying_Pilgrim

She sure was a lovely lady - the fact that so many stars have immediately moved to write all good things about her, speaks volumes.  

Greying X

Cherryfudge

rtandon27 said:

 we had friends from the church pop in unexpectedly just as I arrived home from almost 13 hours out of the house from work & a long commute - the house was an utter tip & all I wanted was to have dinner and a good long sleep - I figured, oh well, no notice = no excuses, so I told them upfront how we were only just coping - they did what they had come to do which was 'pray over us' as they are a touch evangelical - it was lovely and heartwarming but I can tell you I did not offer them tea/coffee and had zero snacks in the house as well so was the worst host!  I'm sure that will get round the church pdq but oh well, it's not like anyone is living our experience so they can judge as they see fit!

If it gets around the church at all, it should only mean people either ring before coming or bring something for you. Life isn't about being 'hostess with the mostest', and why should you be the ones giving out when you have this to cope with? They turned up to support you, not for you to feed them.

I hope tomorrow's appointment is straightforward and not too exhausting x

Watty1

i so agree with @Cherryfudge     It is rare I will turn up with nothing, maybe a cake, biscuits, chocolate, a pot of soup.  Everyone I know is busy, they don't have time to be the "host with the most", frankly I'm grateful if they can manage a pot of tea and over the moon if a bottle of something is produced (even though I often decline).

You have enough to cope with and what I hope, in the true Church spirit, is it goes around that you are struggling and that they think of things they can do that will support you and be practical.  Prayers are special but you also need a packet of chocolate biscuits or a meal you can bung in the oven and not think about on a busy day

Wishing you well for today x

Greying_Pilgrim

I agree with Watty - prayers are special, but practical help is a blessing too.  Do the congregation have a formal or informal car schemes for example, which could perhaps extend to getting OH to an appointment or two?  

Sending hugs and good wishes.  Greying X

KajiKita

Have nothing practical to add, but standing quietly here in the background, admiring your grace, warm heartedness and generosity to your OH at this time.

I hope you get some down time now and again?

Seconding GP's suggestion of asking church community for lifts to appointments for OH.

KK 

beanielou

Or is there a community transport scheme that that you can access for a small fee? 

Hope today goes as well as it can. 🤗

Merlin's_Beard

I definitely agree with the above! Communities are there to lean on as well as give into, and I can't imagine a church not wanting to rally around one of their own in the circumstances.

badmemory

I'm surprised the hospital hasn't suggested one.