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Humdinger1

@rtandon27 marvellous as ever! Remind me, HR is on your side at work? I'm not sure how bad my language would have to be to get me banned from here, but if I said what I thought, I'd deffo be skating on thin ice.  Love Humdinger xx 

rtandon27

@Humdinger1 - yes, I do wish that we could rate our postings as once in a while I do want to use language that the filters won't allow - the very-English OH over the years has taught me some very non-PG-13 expressions that would do quite nicely.  I've not actually said much on here about the complications of HR at work.  So TBH I won't be reminding you, rather than saying it afresh!  Ultimately my manager also has HR under their purview BUT head of HR is a long-time colleague and personal friend.  It's all very incestuous when you've been working at our organization for a long time!  I have an extensive network outside of my current organization, having been in the workforce for several decades.  One of my former positions being within the personnel department of a different organization, so there is no shortage of 'educated advise',  so to speak.

rtandon27

Happy work anniversary to me!

14 years at this particular part of the organization and 24+ years in the organization as a whole!

I've not quit yet - the golden handcuffs have me chained - health care benefits and a decent pension in return for putting up with it all!

Cheery_Daff

Don't let it suck the soul out of you RT!

But we'll done on sticking it out for so long 😁

rtandon27

🤣 @Cheery_Daff - that unintentionally made me laugh given today's date - perhaps it is apropos that the soul has already been sucked!

Cheery_Daff

😂😂😂 Oh dear!

rtandon27

Greetings this Samhain, marking the end of the year. As we remember the departed souls we hold dear.

rtandon27

Third day of Hallowmas - November 2nd - All Souls' Day - The Commemoration of All the Faithful Departed.  Back across the pond, it's also celebrated as The Day of the Dead (Día de Muertos).  Today is the day we think about the family who have gone before us and thank them for their kindness & generosity.  Nothing makes up for them not being with us but we feel them close by through the way their deeds have impacted our lives both past and present.  OH has woken up from yet another nap and sweetly put on Coco - who knew that a cute cartoon would be so tearjerking!

The week was not a great one, OH has been having some pretty intense treatments, and on Tuesday collapsed and was sent from the private hospital to an NHS acute ward.  According to his private doctor, he was meant to be kept in at least overnight & on a fluid drip, but was released just before midnight and sent home in a taxi.  I'd been at work and by the time I got home, I had to track down which ward he was in to find out what was going on!  I am not a fan of our public healthcare system to start with, and when I ended up being the carer for the night - all I can say is absolutely negligant.  This means that I ended up taking off time on Weds/Thurs/Fri to accompany him to treatment in case he once again was at the mercy of the NHS - I was not about to let anyone else make decisions on his behalf.

So this weekend's all encompassng list is a bit late as I've been overwhelmed with doing all my usual chores and OH's as well!  I feel like I need a weekend to recover from the weekend!

important tasks...
⏳ do bus pass application
 ❗ clean up of spare laptop sitting at the office, I've not cleaned it up yet!
⏳ new load of paperwork filing ready to be sorted
⏳ my savings need juggling - not started yet

routine tasks...
✅ YNAB juggling
🔆 across the pond banking
✅ grocery order
✅ meal plan
🔆 weekly digital planner
✅ supplements
🔆 Weekly surveys & contests
✅ laundry - last week's laundry folded & put away - 3 loads done - 2 drying - 1 still to be hung up

non-routine tasks...
✅ two lunches and two dinners made & several sinkfuls of dishes and pots washed and put away
✅ house vacuumed
✅ staircase carpet deep cleaned
✅ bathroom scrubbed (woman cleaning, not man cleaning - it took a while)
✅ transportation for 6th & 11th discussed with OH
✅ replied to 7 friends via whatsapp
✅ sorted group chat for non-tech friend
✅ replied to sister - sometimes I wonder if she remember's I'm the older one? - bossy boots!
✅ good friend's cat had to be put down - had a chat to console the sweet soul
✅ pack OH's bag using list - this is every time he has an appt
🔆 steam formal wear  for both of us and hang up in closet
🔆 still on the hunt for ballerina wedges that fit for everyday use!
🔆 clean washing machine once laundry done for the week
🔆 Delay Repay
🔆 EHIC card - is old one valid or do up application
🔱 BFF & I chatted several times & forgot to discuss money each and every time!

medical follow-ups...
🔆 OH will have a treatment on Monday but is feeling recovered enough to not be accompanied
🔱 ❗my dermatologist referral - have docs names - now need to book appt - insurance has authorized! - sigh - have to have this done in the city as decent onces in my area are scarce as hen's teeth!!!!!
⏳🔆 follow-up on OT recommendations for work assessment - this can wait a bit, while the Cerberus is focussed on other things!
⏳ follow-up on private eye specialist for myself

epic list of garden things...
🔱 harvest last of the chilies - the are gorgeously ripe - and somehow the plant is still alive!!!
🔱 need to transplant two chili plants & bring indoors
⏳ ❗autumn pruning needs to be done
⏳ start getting quotes for new felt for flat roof & summer house & shed (needs doing in autumn) - on hold
⏳ 4 bags cotswold stone - trip to W!ckes postponed - on hold
⏳ transplant remaining baby trees into their new pots - on hold 
⏳ trim down and rehome butterfly bush - on hold
⏳ new trellis needs to go up for the climbing rose in the front - OH has acquired the hardware! - on hold
⏳ finish taming climbing jasmine & add more supports for it to grown on - on hold

social calendar...
🎃👻 Oct 31 - possible work social & 14 year work anniversary - spent it with OH at treatment
💝 Nov 1 - family occaision & party in Melton Mowbray - hopefully OH will be well enough to go - it's his family sadly we had to send our regrets - OH was not well enough to go
🖤 Nov 6 - family funeral - 2 hours away - may stay overnight - I may be doing this one on my own - need to figure out transport with taxis at both ends - may be cheaper to hire a car & driver for the day and not stay overnight
💝 Nov 11 - another occasion this time closer to home but more formal - friends coming in from London as well - we can't actually miss this one so life will be planned to accomodate! - one friend bailed but another one will be joining - I'm quite pleased as she is a good friend of OH & just gets him - he could use a good natter with her!
⏳ korean street food - on hold until 

Meal Plan...
Last Week

✅🌿🍝🥬🥓🧀 Monday - Veggie Day - Basil Pesto Pasta with shredded brussels & lardons & cheese takeaway

✅🐟🍤🥬🥔 Tuesday - Fish Day - Sea Bass Fillets & tempura prawns & baby pak choi & microwave herby potatoes & a pie for OH
✅🍗🥦🧀 Wednesday - Chicken Day - Herby Chicken & cheats Cauli Cheese leftovers

✅🥧🥕🥒🍅🍄 Thursday - Meat Day - Freezer Meal - Sheppards Pie with side veg

✅🍔🥔🥕🥒🍅 Friday - Fakeaway Day - Pork Burgers & croquettes & veg box veg (buns from freezer) [possible dinner out at halloween party] quick meals from freezer leftovers
✅ 🍞🫕🌭🥟🥕🥒🍅 Saturday - Easy Peasy Day - Lunch - Bao Buns - houmous - pita - Dinner - Keilbasa & Periogi with side mixed veg Fish & Pak Choi & mushrooms

✅ 🍄🥚🥗🍖🥬🎃Sunday - Roast Day - Brunch - mushroom & eggs & asparagus - Dinner - Beef Rib & assorted veg & potato squash
This Week

✅ 🥦🍝🥓🧀🥬 Monday - Veggie Day - Cauli & pasta bacon cheese bake & baby chard

🐟🦐🥬🥔Tuesday - Fish Day - Sea Bass Fillets & prawns & brussels & microwave herby potatoes
🔥🌭🥔Wednesday - Chicken Day Meat Day - Bonfire night - sausages on rolls with crispy onion & baked potato

🩶 Thursday - Meat Day - Eat Out - Funeral Day so will be fed lunch at wake & dinner takeaway

🍝🥕🍄Friday - Fakeaway Day - Cannelloni & carrots & mushrooms
🥖🦃🥞🥒🧅Saturday - Easy Peasy Day - Lunch - Bao Buns  - Dinner - Pulled Turkey & chinese pancakes & hoisin sauce & cucumber & spring onions
🍖🥕🍠🍅🥔Sunday - Roast Day - Brunch - mushroom & eggs & asparagus - Dinner - Pork Shoulder Roast & veg & roasties

BF - Tues - bulk make McFake muffins for Freezer
Lunches - Tues/Wed/Fri - pies for OH - Tues/Fri - fried rice & ragu for me
Week after
🥬🧀🫓 Monday - Veggie Day - Saag Paneer & Parathas (or takeaway - my medical appt
Tuesday - occasion food
Wednesday - hotel food
Thursday - freezer food
Friday - freezer food

Cherryfudge

What a week you've both had. It does get to the point, sometimes, of grabbing sleep when you can and having a bag of stuff to see you through who-knows-how-long of hospital time. I do hope Monday's treatment goes as well as possible and isn't too harsh.

Good to hear the insurance is going to pay for your dermatologist.

Merlin's_Beard

I hope you do get a break at some point!