In a rush.

Moneyonmymind1979

Spoke to my mum today and told her that I don't enjoy parenting. Even though mine are older, I find it hard that I'm working myself to death to provide for them, never spend anything on myself and I'm solely responsible for running them around everywhere. Their dad does nothing except give me maintenance for DD. It was her birthday a couple of weeks ago and he got her nothing because he gives me money. 
I was trying to explain how hard it is finacially to my mum and she snapped that they would need looking after for life and that it never ends. I don't think she looks after me now, but what do I know? 

She's also upset that DD is having driving lessons, she said she is too young. She's 17! She told me to stop paying for them and tell her to wait a couple of years. 
I need to remember not to sound off at her as we don't have a typical mother/daughter relationship. She makes me feel bad for being honest. 

I think I'm just tired today after being awake at 5.30am (sometimes earlier) for the last 16 days. 
DD and my niece have started emptying the cupboard that shall not be named. They have made £120 so far. I should sell some things but I'm finding it difficult. That room of stock represents a nervous breakdown, waking up and being disappointed that I was still here and an acceptance that I had lost my career. There are a lot of bad memories attached to it and letting DD and my niece rummage through it all today was like opening Pandora's box. 

Have a good evening. x

Moneyonmymind1979

Sister's dog wouldn't settle last night. Got to 3am and I'd had enough. I went downstairs with him and I tried to getting him to settle. 5am, I relented and took him out for a 40 minute walk. Surely that's not fair? 
He's also eaten my beautiful shoes that I wear for work. They are years old, but I love them. OH knows I cannot afford to replace them and so he got me a new pair a couple of days ago.
The dog is going home today and I won't be having him again. 
Off to get a shower and have a coffee. 
I'll need a sleep this afternoon as OH is taking me out for tea. His brother has called and got himself and his wife an invite. 
My mum said she would help me with the dog whilst my sister is away, but she hasn't. 

Sarahwithlove

Welcome back. The bf daughter sounds like a right menace and I'm surprised you've put up with it for this long. 

I have to sort of agree with your mum, I know you see it as providing for your kids but if they get given everything they won't ever become independent and it will be your kids living with you until 40. I got a job at 16, my parents paid for my first block of driving lessons for my 17th birthday and i paid for the rest. Could you do 50-50 on lessons, so if they pay half you pay other. They then gave me a sum of money for my 18th towards a car. I paid for my own insurance on DD which although more expensive helped me learn value of earning an income and paying for expenses. If your kids can't get jobs as I know it is hard at their age, could you get them on selling more of the eBay stuff to earn money towards driving lessons. 

Moneyonmymind1979

@Sarahwithlove DD has a little job in a pub and earns around £100 a week. She is fed up at the minute as she feels she is doing all the work. I told her to tell the landlord and she has. He asked her not to leave.  She's more like me than I know. I used to see an injustice at work and then just resign, hence my CV is pages and pages long. 

Sister's dog has gone home now. She told me he was sat there fed up all night. He would be when he was treated like a king at mine. I slept in today until 8am. I feel great for it. 

Finally been paid from one of our suppliers and so I have money in the bank now to pay for summer until I am back at work. I feel relieved. 

Foolishly I set up a Loqbook account. For those of you who do not know, it is an account where you deposit money every month and it is supposed to improve you credit score. It hasn't and so I have withdrawn the money. It didn't cost me anything and I managed to save up £900. Not sure what to do with that yet. 

OH's DD rang last night. She was out in the town and we were in bed. She rang OH to discuss her complex love life and ask him for advice. Normally, he would have got out of bed and had a big discussion, but last night he checked she was OK and then said 'Can we discuss this tomorrow? '

Some of the issues she raises with him give me the ick. I'd never share some of the things he knows with my parents. I think there should be some boundaries. I'm not a prude but intimate details should be private. 

He told me the other day that there was a time when his DD didn't like me. A while ago we were out having a meal with my childen and his and he passed around pictures of an event that he had invited me to but we didn't get to go. In the picture his ex girlfriend was there and as he passed it around I said 'Is that x?' He said yes and DD asked to see the picture. She sat and looked at it for a while and then said.

 'I remember her, I remember you all over her in the kitchen, kissing her all over. I think she brought the fun side out of you.'

I felt utterly humiliated, saw my backside and ended it with him. He cried apparently and she said she was upset that I'd made him cry and it made her not like me as a result. In my mind she caused it. She's not a child by the way. She was 16 at the time. 

Enjoy your Sunday. x

Sarahwithlove

Does your DD get to keep the full £100 a week she earns? Because that's a lot for just spending money. 

Wow, does she supposedly like you now? It sounds like your bf let's her get away with alot. 

Moneyonmymind1979

She spends £50 and puts £50 in a savings pot. I don't want her ending up like me x

Sarahwithlove

That's great she is saving it, is that for a car once she's passed her test? 

prowla

Well, you seem to be doing OK for yourself, albeit lurching from one partner to the next and inheriting their baggage to add to the load!

One caveat: maybe new partner's daughter thinks you're muscling in on her family home and inheritance?

dawnybabes

Welcome back, missed you 😊

Moneyonmymind1979

@prowla- Possibly. I'm just not used to somebody being so deliberately cruel. If we go out then I pay half and so I'm hardly a kept woman. She's had nothing but kindness from me and my family.

 Just had lunch with all the family and she sat there and didn't speak to anybody. OH said he was going to complete her CV tonight and she snapped that she is seeing her boyfriend, not applying for jobs. 

@dawnybabes- Thank you. 

Off to Newlife Charity Shop tomorrow in Staffordshire. If you haven't been then you must go. All brand new with labels cut out.