Money Moral Dilemma: Should I pay to have the bike my ex-husband got our son serviced?

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  • Cambsmum
    Cambsmum Posts: 15 Forumite
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    The bike was a Christmas present. It belongs to your son! It is up to him what happens to it.
  • cjulien
    cjulien Posts: 12 Forumite
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    This sounds less like a dilemma and more symptomatic of an ex you should feel proud you have extricated yourself from.  These type of issues are possibly nothing to do with money and all about control.  The bike was a gift.  You do not take back gifts.  Did he also go around the house taking stuff his family gave him and you as joint gifts when you broke up?  I bet he did.   Just feel proud you are not together.
  • Agent57
    Agent57 Posts: 62 Forumite
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    What on earth...?

    No is the answer.

    How old is your son?

    Teach him to take more care of his bike and one of his parents should be teaching him basic bike maintenance skills.
    Or he could get a paper round and pay for his own bike repairs.

    If your son does not want his bike then he can sell it himself and keep the money or you could help him sell it.

    This really is an odd question.
  • TiJY
    TiJY Posts: 2 Newbie
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    Either it was a pretty high spec bike or he lied in the first place about a second hand bike costing £180. Can you really trust him to put the money into an account for your son? And how would your son access this account afterwards? Who would have control of it? Your son owns the bike. It was a gift to him. He is the one who needs asking what he wants doing with the bike. And he needs to learn some repair and maintenance skills himself. Your ex needs to take a long walk off a short pier (a favourite expression of my late mother's:)) So absolutely NO to you paying out anything further and NO to your ex getting the bike back. 
  • hairywalrus
    hairywalrus Posts: 15 Forumite
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    Agent57 said:
    This really is an odd question.
    Precisely this.
  • Missy15
    Missy15 Posts: 14 Forumite
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    Why are you even asking such a silly question?service a bike that was second hand in the first place, that has been damaged badly twice and subsequently repaired?
    If your son has outgrown the bike, and his father wants to genuinely try & sell it and put  any cash in boys account,  and your son is happy  to let it go,  by all means let  dad do the hard work of trying to sell it.
    But don't service it for him. Total waste of your money.
  • SStitanic
    SStitanic Posts: 38 Forumite
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    no and don’t let your ex bully you about anything else either
  • fabulous_at_any_age
    fabulous_at_any_age Posts: 5 Forumite
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    No. If he wants to sell it then it's upto him to do it. Regardless of if he wants to put the money into savings for your son. 
  • gloriouslyhappy
    gloriouslyhappy Posts: 597 Forumite
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    No wonder he’s an ex. 
  • lurch003
    lurch003 Posts: 32 Forumite
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    No, just no. The bike was a gift. YOU'VE maintained it. If your son agrees it can be sold, and gets the proceeds then ok but the audacity of asking you to service it?!! Hell no !
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