Keeping track in 2008

sunshine_shell

Looking after her son his the biggest help you can give at the moment. If she knows he is in a safe place and being looked after then that will help her more than you think.

Mupeteer

Latest news - good and bad - Baby is breathing better and is only getting 18% support from the ventilator. However, she's having seizures and the doctors have said that she will have some brain damage but they are not sure to what extent. She still isn't moving much and still hasn't passed urine so she has a long way to go. The midwife admitted that they did not expect her to make it through last night so she is doing much better than hoped. I'm just praying (really did last night and I'm not exactly religious) that she keeps making progress.

Her mum is still in a bad way. They had to try to stabilise her before transferring her to the other hospital but she should have been moved by now.

Now I really wish I could get my hands on the spineless pig who said he really loved her, begged her to have a baby, then left her when she was 10 weeks pregnant. He only lives 5 minutes away from her too and he hasn't come near since July. It makes me so angry. She shouldn't have to go through any of this on her own. All her family are doing what they can but I know that isn't the same.

Lucy1982_2

Hi Mupeteer.

You will be amazed at what the medical profession can do now. It sounds like your BF's niece is a fighter and a very special little girl. His sister will be ok, one of my ex's mothers had renal failure and still managed a 'normal' life. She worked full time and still enjoyed holidays.

Ok there are some draw backs at the worst case she will be on nightly dialasise (?) and more tablets than she knows what to do with. But she can always go on the transplant list, obviously this will depend on what happens. My ex's Mum still manage holidays, ok the furtherest she could go with France as she needed to be within so many hours of a UK hospital. But things have moved on so much recently and are getting better all the time.

Obiviously these are worst cases and hopefully she will be fine, if you need to chat you are welcome to PM me.

As for her ex, may be the less said about him the better....

locutus2003

I'm so sorry - what a really dreadful time they're having (and you).

I don't really know what to say - but I'll pray too - not terribly religious either really but anything may help.

You're all in my thoughts.

Mupeteer

Thanks Lucy, it's difficult not to think the worst at times like these but I know we all have to try to stay positive to give them the best possible chance.

Thanks for your support and kind words.

Lucy1982_2

Thanks.

It's really hard as you hear the words kidney failure and at that instant the world stops. But it can be managed, although ex's mum had her own machine at home and didn't need to go into hospital every few days.

Just wait and see what they say, but by looking after her son you are making sure she has one least thing to worry about.

Mollymop5

My thoughts are with you Mupeteer.By looking after her son you are giving the most help possible.take care yourself too.

Snaggles

Mupeteer, I am so sorry to hear this, my very best wishes to both mother and baby, and with the rest of the family too.

postingalwaysposting

mupeteer, so sorry ~ hugs to you and prayers for your sister and the little one.

debrag

I've got tears in my eyes while ready this thread I am SO over sensertive me.

My niece near died at birth almost 11 years ago now and last Feb my sister was in hospital for weeks after giving birth the Sept before - post natal depression, colitis, anaemia, not eating etc, what made it worst for her was not being able to pick up her son. My parents would go round hers in the morning get Bailey up and take him down stairs. She & Bailey would stay on the sofa till her OH came back from college, she could do anything. Now she's expecting her 3rd [Hollie Mai] in May, at one point they thought she may not be able to have anymore kids.

You are doing the best thing you can, looking after her son