Having to buy car as partner has new job

Penguin_

Quick question, how long have you been together? Only asking as you're not sure on the children's ages.

ceresnet

belfastgirl23 said:

I don’t think there’s anything anyone can say beyond that you need to talk to your partner about this. It sounds to me like you both need some help to have this conversation (maybe counselling), it is sounding like communication is not good. None of us can say the rights and wrongs of anything, only you and your partner can decide that.

As it stands if things are as you describe then I’d be inclined to say once for the record that you won’t have a car and will not be able to collect and/or drive the children, then just let it go. If the children are your partners children and you are unable to collect them then ultimately your partner will have to make other arrangements. Tough but true. Do you think they would engage with the issue once the children have been left stranded or are unable to get to their activities?

Thank-you, I was kinda hoping there was an ansa somewhere. 
There's a new don't train don't play, rule looks like they won't be playing until this is sorted, fingers crossed might be the push that's needed  

Newly_retired

There is a lot more here than meets the eye. The OP has disabilities of some sort (he mentioned PIP and Scope) and lives out in the sticks. Two potential major difficulties, Add to that, having no personal savings or income?...a tricky situation.

Has the partner already started this new job/promotion? They are being very unreasonable to make assumptions that a stay at home dad can just cope without a car unless he has the resources to buy one and afford the running costs. 

OP your partner needs to communicate properly about this situation. You can work this out together but not on your own.
If they are refusing to do talk about it, you have to refuse to make any transport arrangements for the kids.

ceresnet

Penguin_ said:

Quick question, how long have you been together? Only asking as you're not sure on the children's ages.

Hi, along time - I struggle with birthdays, years etc, dad used to remind me b4 he passed.  I try to use moonpig, or FB. Can't seem to login to either at the mo. Friends remind me of theirs

pinkshoes

ceresnet said:

Sorry should have given more info 

Im a stay at home dad,  they both compete at county level 

ceresnet said:

Yep, that's about it 
Conversation had… zero response other than its a promotion & their career 

Well this is all rather straight forward.

Your partner needs to choose what is more important. Her children competing at county level, or her promotion and career.

Could you not move to somewhere less isolated where there are more job opportunities and perhaps nearer the sport that her children do?

tooldle

Do you Enterprise Car Club nearby?