Pulling my frugal pants on.

beanielou

Blimey, your drinks were expensive. 

ladybird1106

The last few days have been hard , as been reliving the last few days of dad’s life (passed this time last year) and the subsequent weeks of finding out about my half sibling betrayal. The house is an ongoing issue with the dreadful online solicitors. Budgeting, housework and ability to think straight have gone out the window. 

Today I decided that other than trying to remember dad in a more positive light , I need to not give the other stuff headspace and I will deal with it next week. 

OH and I have decided that as of October ( won’t be able to visit the plot after work) we will be looking at decluttering and getting the house ready to sell. Not sure when we will sell but we have an awful amount of stuff. I’m going to look at things and ask myself 2 things do I love this and do I love it enough to pay someone to move it for me. This is a huge step for OH as he hates change but also is a it might come in handy person. I think it will be best to go room by room to start off with. Probably start with the bathroom as that hopefully won’t take more than a couple of days. A good declutter, redo the sealant, sort out the marked grout, new toilet seat and look at fixing the plug hole on the sink should be enough. Then it’s a case of listing stuff on whatever site we decide on, car boot if it doesn’t sell, charity shop if it still doesn’t sell or if none of the above apply straight in the bin. Might start this before then as it might take my mind off other stuff. 

Right time to motivate myself 
love 🐞

KajiKita

That sounds very sensible, and indeed wise

Hopefully if you keep asking the 'do you love it' questions of OH when going through stuff / his stuff he will gradually find it easier to let things go.  

It sounds like you are both thinking it would be the right thing to leave where you are and that things need to happen (decluttering and minor DIY) to make that possible. Quite a big shift I think?

KK

ladybird1106

I think now we’ve made the decision, I feel a lot happier. OH added painting one of the walls in the bathroom and sugar soaping the rest. 

Went out last night with a friend had a lovely meal ( was planned before I decided I need to budget better) . Was lovely to catch up and have a giggle. 

Got to our holiday destination via seeing some friends on the way. I’ve not seen them since they moved. Was lovely to see them and enjoyed a tour round their garden. The heavens opened once we got to the cottage so enforced relaxation happened. Usually OH wants to go to the beach or go for a walk, so it was nice to just sit and relax and have a little snooze. 😴. 

Well time for tea now. 

Love 🐞

beanielou

Happy holidays

Cherryfudge

First anniversaries can be especially tough but you seem to have a good strategy to move forward.

Enjoy your time away!

ladybird1106

We’ve made further lists for the plot (30 jobs) and our bedroom( 15jobs). Some jobs are relatively easy and others will require more time, person power and money. We’ve allocated about £200 per room, but doubt we will need that other than the kitchen which we’ve allocated about £2000. This will include a new oven (free standing, so we can take it with us when we move). Not done a lot other than a walk and a chippie tea yesterday, as we are all exhausted. Lots of sleeping and reading done. We were supposed to go out for a meal tonight but opted for jacket spuds instead. 

I did resist buying 2 ceramic slugs yesterday, they were incredibly tactile. I thought they were fab but OH was not a fan, so left them in the shop. 

Love 🐞

ladybird1106

So glad to be home, I don’t think my back could have took another night. Had a 😴 once we got home and felt so much better. No money spent today. Quick trip to the plot to water. Harvested 8 cucumbers 🥒 🥴. 2 went to my plot neighbour, 2 went into gardeners soup, 2 went into a huge salad and 2 will go to a friend tomorrow. Pity I’d picked the same amount before we went away so I still have 8. Plot neighbour gave me a couple of peppers and some parsley. I really need to meal plan this week as we need to use stuff out the freezer and stuff from the plot. Used up almost a kilo of courgette for a pasta dish for tea. Need to process more apples tomorrow. 

Love 🐞

beanielou

Two of my favourite things. Courgettes & cucumbers. 

ladybird1106

If only you were closer beanielou, I picked 12 courgettes tonight.
 Busy day, trip to dune tree to buy a new mattress topper (£80) as my back and joints are so sore in the morning. I slept on the one OH has on his side on the bed and I slept😴right through and felt so much better . Went to the PO to send more forms regarding dad’s house, sent recorded and tracked delivery. Miffed as apparently they’ve cocked up again🤬 and have had to print a revised form, so will be yet again at the PO tomorrow.
met up with friend for a walk and a cuppa. She broached the taboo subject of finances and we’ve agreed to just meet at each others houses to save money. Super pleased 😊they brought this up. 

Went onto dads to mow the lawn, got the mower out and then realised I’d forgot the extension cable.🤦‍♀️. 

Started to declutter the bathroom, out of date medicine thrown, old towels put aside for selling at a car boot as dog towels etc. Got rid of a plant that makes me itch when I touch it. 3 plants need potting on. 

Trip to plot harvest lots of apples🍎 courgettes,tomatoes🍅sweetcorn🌽 and borlotti 🫘.Courgettes have been either shredded or diced then frozen. Tomatoes have been roasted and then frozen. Sweetcorn cut in half and frozen. Apples on trays drying before we wrap them in newspaper. Borlotti beans on a trays drying before to dry. 
Time for bed
love 🐞