Weekly Flylady Thread 2nd October 2023

Fayolle

roundtuit said:

You see if that had been my 'friend' I'd have texted her back asking if she liked hospital food?* And that would be 'another one bites the dust'. Ooops.

Rxx

*ETA. I'm not violent honest! Xx

Hmm, I seem to think you’ve made that assertion before! 🤣
ASB - don’t you dare only come back when you are feeling brighter. After all, that’s what we’re here for. This flying business is just a front! Or is that just me…
My best friend (or more correctly - ex best friend) of many years unfriended me last year. And I can pinpoint it to when a podcast that I know we both listen to talked about unfriending people who no longer fitted in your life. Ouch.
Struggles to think of flying to add to the post 🤔. Ah yes, lettuce picked and washed 😇

flamingo747

ASB please don't wandering off. I think maybe quite a few of us needed an opportunity to open up a bit, myself included. Send the book to friend for Xmas with a note "It seemed more suitable for you than me, especially by New Year!". What an asshat. 

Curtains now on the libe, two wash loads to go away, roast cooking, and the Hated Hall Job is done! Also helped Mr Flamingo fix the car headlight (admittedly just by carrying screwdrivers, chatting, and congratulating!)

pigpen

Asparklierblonde said:

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I am sorry to drag the thread down ...

You didn't at all. We are here to support one another and we hear you! It is hard to find time for yourself but it is extremely important especially when you are fighting the world alone.. and some who are merrily married are fighting the world alone..

I have just had a meltdown and literally screamed that I cannot live like this.. over the state of the front room.. I am now on the verge of collapse and need to do dinner and pack ups but my spoons are all gone.. I may have a deficit..

Pixie unloaded the DW ..
We filled a binbag of rubbish and I have a doombox I MUST sort through but .. there are no spoons..
I have a sofa covered in backpacks but again.. no spoons

I have to vacuum the kitchen.. no spoons.

I have my scratyy corner to clear.. no spoons but I can do that during the week with the incentie of the rest of the room being vaguely decent.
Dead flowers (aged 5 weeks) binned.

I might just go for a nap and leave OH to do dinner..

flamingo747

@pigpen that sounds like a very good idea. Anything that is not basically on fire at this point needs to be left until tomorrow

roundtuit

I've ordered birthday presents for P (1st November) and 2 x 2024 calendars ( 1 for me and 1 for Pops). Asked for them to be delivered  to the village PO. Not done that before but seems safer than back doorstep, or, even worse, front doorstep!

I already have a birthday present for my great niece, O,  (6 on 7th Nov) and I'll put money in my youngest godson's, D, card (25th November) so just need to buy some FR chocolates for my niece, S, (also 7th November). I have cards for P and D. Need cards for O and S.

Then that's November birthdays sorted.

Rxx

pigpen

Asparklierblonde said:

She arranged for a book on how to lose weight to be sent to me direct from Amazon, with an accompanying text message saying she thought I’d find it more useful. I had no words.

I have some words for her... cheeky so-&-so (not quite the word I'd use but it would have 4 letters be very rude and rhyme with front!) .. wrap it for her for christmas.. with a note in saying you bought her a copy as it was so useful.. especially that time you ran out of firewood and it was raining!!

Cheeky cow... that is not a friend.. a friend would have known what you would love and bought it without a second thought, they would see something which made them think of you because you are in their heart..

packups, uniforms and dinner done

girls all washed

DW and WM's all on

Sides wiped.

Bed time for girls and I might not be far behind, other than I will because I get my third wind around 10pm and then I am just awake!

YORKSHIRELASS

@Asparklierblonde where to start?  I don't have one proper friend in RL.  Not one.  I have acquaintances, people I know, but no one close.  Sometimes I am OK with that, sometimes it makes me really sad.  I fact, I would be cautious about meeting any of my Flylady friends in person in case it spoilt the magic and you didn't like me very much!!!  You are all so important to me. 

At work I am the boss, tough, professional, in charge.  I can never be myself.  All this sounds a bit sad but I am really happy in my own company, I love nature (walking, cycling and running) and I make a big effort to do things that I love doing and to take pleasure in those things.

Obviously I am lucky to have a good marriage and two fantastic grown up kids, but I think that for a lot of us true happiness is hard to achieve nowadays.  You are definitely not alone, and we all need to stick together xx

I have done everything on my flying list.  Is it really Monday tomorrow? 

Narc0lepsy

YORKSHIRELASS said:

@Asparklierblonde where to start?   I fact, I would be cautious about meeting any of my Flylady friends in person in case it spoilt the magic and you didn't like me very much!!!  You are all so important to me. 

That certainly resonates; I've met several flyladies IRL and although one or two are still here, several have disappeared..........therefore I must be horrid.

Random thoughts for happiness which may well only work for me:
- having my food intolerances (12 in my case) identified made a huge difference and I couldn't have predicted which they would be.  It used to be that eating any wheat-containing thing made me want to find a dark cupboard and hide in it until the world had just gone away.   Less bad now after giving it up for many years, I can now indulge occasionally. 
- exercise, especially to music, lifts me not only at the time I'm doing it, but in general, and it lasts. Clearly ASB you lead a very outdoor, active life anyway although that isn't necessarily the same.
- Although I like random spontaneity, planning is generally quite important to me so I don't feel I'm losing control and overwhelmed.
- I know faith is important to myself and others on here, it isn't instant happiness but sort of a safety net that I know however bad things are, I won't drop below a certain level. It's just 'there'. 
Having said a few of those, there are still times I'm pretty low. I'm not bipolar but I am quite an emotional see-saw, always have been - strangers and casual acquaintances think I'm very lively but those close to me know better at times.  We are all individually human and there's not always a way of predicting how we will respond or cope. Certainly I have a sort of compulsion to watch the news each day but what humans do to each other and the planet puts me in despair.

And, for the record, I agree with others that a friend who gave me that book for a present, especially after asking what you'd like ASB would definitely get it back for birthday - maybe not Christmas as I love Christmas and wouldn't want to spoil it for anyone.
Enough philosophy for this time of night and you're probably all on a new thread by now. 

Narc0lepsy

Still here.   Today:
- went to church
- did some gardening
- did some drum practice
- did a thorough clean/hoover of my dressing table area (still doing the bedroom deep clean)

pigpen

Narco... no... you are wonderful.. I am probably the horridest one here.. I have no qualms about upsetting RL people.. I'm not even sorry lol.. I am happy to help those who need it but I cannot abide people who do not help themselves, make despicable life choices or generally go out of their way to make others unhappy. I have only met 1 utterly foul cretin on this site and she is now very much blocked.. nasty bullying type. I would be the first to tell you if any of you were anything but wonderful.. maybe we are all a but awkward and eccentric IRL. Maybe that is why we get along so well and have such affection for one another.. we are a bunch of weirdos!! pmsl