Weekly Flylady Thread 2nd October 2023

roundtuit

asb - I identify very much with what you are saying. In fact when Fayolle said she could name one or two flyladies who feel the same way I thought 'she means me'. Did you Fayolle ? I don't mind. I'm just curious. 
Cause if you weren't thinking of me that means there are two more people feeling the same way. 😥

We do live in a very odd world. The epidemic of loneliness is affecting all ages I think. Everything is very insular. I do have a few close friends but it struck me recently that when I needed support I turned to you guys - didn't even consider picking up the phone or texting someone IRL. I'm a loner by nature but there are times when I feel very alone. I thought it was an age thing with DS moving out and old age beckoning. But maybe not.

My PM is always open. I'm very good at listening. A bit of a nerd 🤓  and a tad eccentric.....but harmless. 

Group hug required.
Rxx

Oh. Flying. Ermmm. I'm going to DUPA while I make myself cheese on toast. 

Rxx

flamingo747

ASB, generally I find when I am feeling this way it's because my basic needs of sleep, water, exercise, creativity, and self-care aren't being met, or, as it is at the moment for me, the other people in my home are feeling down, grumpy, or short tempered.  I seem to absorb it like a sponge.

I do think it's becoming really hard to make friends. Everyone seems so very burnt out nowadays. I do wonder if some of it is the constant bombardment of negative news, and that feeling of always having to keep up with information, be it current events, or social media (I am trying to limit the latter massively as it only makes me very angry about certain issues, depressed about my life compared to my friends, or is mind-numbing drivel that I am addicted to scrolling)

I think finding group activities is best, but I do just feel like people generally are retreating further into things like binge watching TV to decompress because everything seems so overwhelming. We just all trying to stay afloat  and that means we can't always let others get in our rowboat (or on our door, if you're partial to a Titanic reference)

Flying: 2nd load of wash just finished, about to hang. Half of Hated Hallway Job done.

Jazee

Hello all.  Just been reading back.

Still no sun here after a misty start but it is dry and warm, so after walking Poppet I spent nearly three hours doing a much needed tidy up in the gardens.  There is still more to do but the green bin is full.

 I've just had a shower and a bite to eat.  Next is a quick hoover through.  The cot is set up for DGD2 tonight but I need to select some toys for downstairs.

Interesting discussion here about finding joy in the mundane everyday life.  I find doing something just for myself (even painting nails), having a dance to something on the radio, getting out in the fresh air everyday with Poppet, and making sure I meet up with other people as often as there is an event or an invite even if I don't really feel like it at the time.  I always feel better afterwards.  'Events' needn't be expensive either, joining a walking group or going to a charity coffee morning for instance.

pigpen

ASB.. I have a friend who lives in Scotland I last saw in 2012, and one who lives about 5 minutes drive away but she has been unwell and not wanted visitors. We used to meet up every week for dinner but haven't had time or money or her health for that in  long time. I have OH who is incapable of having a conversation, my moher who has her own dramas and I spend much of my life fighting other peoples fires. I get very peopled and it takes me days of exhaustion to recover.. like the wedding last Saturday I think it was Thursday before I felt vaguely human. I refuse to slip under the veil.. I make sure I do the things I want to do, usually that requires losing sleep.. but it is necessary. I am currently (in another tab) christmas shopping, because I LOVE it. Buying little gifts for other people makes me happy, being useful to people who matter (family, adopted and blood) makes me happy. I hate sitting doing nothing. i think almost everyone has had a really really hard year this year. health, money, housing, socially, relationships, jobs... every aspect of life has been really difficult.. I feelt like my bones have all been sucked out and I am living on auto just trying to keep afloat, I will not give the black dog house room... Meem brought one (black dog, Pug, named Ludo) round the other day and Nutkin attacked him so black dogs just cannot survive here. My magic answer.. have something to look forward to.. not too far off! Do something just for you every week.. even if it is buying a book or getting a library book.. Window/screen shop a lot. Wear clothes which make you happy! Play the Glad game.. Pollyanna syndrome lol.. Look for something joyous in everything, find the positive in every situation and look for the lessons lifes difficulties are teaching you... and moan, a lot... get it out, rid your heart of the weight.. it is ok to say ' I have had a really carp day!! but I going to enjoy this dessert, snack, tv show, book, craft' .... it really helps.. not every day.. some days I throw things and growl and stomp my feet like a toddler.. and I am not joking!! Adulting is hard and we are here if you need an ear, or a day out.. we are just at the end of the trainline!! Round.. you too, you know where I am!

We had the police around again last night after one of the Ukraine men next door (other side to last time) threw a wobbler in the street and made a lot of noise.. I didn't even have the energy to be involved. I said to the officer they were just arguing, one left in a car and the other guy needed a bit of time to calm down, it wasn't worth getting involved.. no one was hurt, just voicing their frustrations. I think given the state of affairs in their country they are lalowed the occasional meltdown.

DW on

WM on

OH minced grass and is hanging up laundry

I can't change the bed sheets, it is full of cats!

Girls all need a scrub

uniforms need finding

Packed lunch sandwiches are done but I need to finish those off.

Feargal charging and I need to finish vacuuming the kitchen and sort the front room STILL!!!

Fayolle

roundtuit said:

asb - I identify very much with what you are saying. In fact when Fayolle said she could name one or two flyladies who feel the same way I thought 'she means me'. Did you Fayolle ? I don't mind. I'm just curious. 
Cause if you weren't thinking of me that means there are two more people feeling the same way. 😥

We do live in a very odd world. The epidemic of loneliness is affecting all ages I think. Everything is very insular. I do have a few close friends but it struck me recently that when I needed support I turned to you guys - didn't even consider picking up the phone or texting someone IRL. I'm a loner by nature but there are times when I feel very alone. I thought it was an age thing with DS moving out and old age beckoning. But maybe not.

You know me and you, Round…2 peas in a pod, in so many ways. You know me too well 😘
ASB, everything that Round and Flamingo resonates so true to me. My inbox is always open if that helps. I am sometimes rubbish at responding quickly, but I will get there. If we lived nearer, Round and I would scoop you up and take you out for coffee and a big gooey cake. Oh and a hug, of course xx

Darn it - flying mention - ummmm have put a zillion tins of sardines away in the kitchen. They have multiplied in all corners of the house, so now I find that I am well prepared to face a tinned sardine shortage. Should such a thing happen before I get to eating them. Sardines and tinned pears, which are launching a matching bid to the sardines. Yum yum.

Asparklierblonde

Thank you so much girls.

Two points to pick up on - Jazee I don’t tend to get invites, which makes me a little sad at times. The last invite I had was from a flylady ☺️. I invite people round for cuppas etc but tend to get ‘sorry I’m too busy at the moment, will arrange something soon’, which i take literally and attempt to arrange a few weeks later and get the same or no response. Watering dead plants springs to mind so I’ve just stopped. 

Piggers - you are right, I have totally forgotten to think about myself in life. My focus is the children, dogs, farm animals, paid stuff, keeping house, managing money - there is no energy or inclination left to think about myself. 

I am sorry to drag the thread down and I genuinely didn’t mean this to start as a pity party. I am fortunate in many ways. This has been building for a while and my disappointment of a birthday just tipped me. The notable hurt was a friend who had specifically  asked me what I would like as a gift - I insisted nothing, but she was adamant so I said an M&S voucher would be a wonderful treat. She arranged for a book on how to lose weight to be sent to me direct from Amazon, with an accompanying text message saying she thought I’d find it more useful. I had no words.

Right weeping in the kitchen won’t do, I have children to cook Sunday dinner for. I’ll only be back when I’m brighter I promise. Take care all xx

roundtuit

asb - you haven't dragged the thread down. You have been honest about how you are feeling and allowed others to say 'Me too'. This thread is the perfect place to take off the mask and be yourself: where you can be sad, happy, angry, confused, etc etc without fear of judgement. 

You see if that had been my 'friend' I'd have texted her back asking if she liked hospital food?* And that would be 'another one bites the dust'. Ooops.

All the pots were DUPA while the cheese on toast was being prepared. That's a job well done. 

And the sun has finally made it through woot woot.

Rxx

*ETA. I'm not violent honest! Xx

Crazycatlady2

I don't post but just wanted to say I'm sorry people are feeling so down, I'm also struggling tbh but some things I can't improve so just have to get on with it and find joy in what we can and try to think positively where possible I guess 

Jazee

ASB - she is not a friend!  Start planning your revenge!

Hooverin* done & popped out for short walk with Poppet.

roundtuit

I've brought in the washing and FU. Taken yesterday's washing from the airer and FU.
Put the airer away. And put the empty WU liquid bottle in the recycling bin. 

Rxx