Lodger wants another months notice

propertyrental

Landladyinwaiting2082 said:

Grumpy_chap said:

Landladyinwaiting2082 said:

I don't mind giving him an extra two weeks 

Don't.
Just don't.

You gave six week's notice (mid August to end September).  That is more than generous.
If you give an extra two weeks, you will end up giving an extra two years, or eternity, or whatever.

Be firm and simply say they need to be gone by the end of this month and that's that, no further discussion.

I'm thinking about sending him a text to confirm it because I think he's under the impression that I agreed to the extra month.  Which no offence, at the time when he told me I was in shock so I can't even remember if I got a coherent word out lol But I reckon he felt like he won the jackpot when in reality I was in a moment of complete disbelief and shock, I don't feel like I could have actually consented to anything in that moment.   Legally I don't see it being an issue (sending a text) given the fact that he's already been served his notice and past the 1st of October he's a trespasser.

Hopefully that should cover it.

I hate repeating myself but this is getting (well, has long-since become) silly:

propertyrental said:

this really is very simple

* in writing, re-confirm the 1 months notice expiry date
* repeat that after that his 'licence to occupy' (Never use the word 'tenancy'!) will ed, and he must vacate
* do not even mention again the hotel.
* buy replacement locks (get the right type/size - they are cheap and easy to replace
* do not get into dialogues where he can pull at your heartstrings.

theoretica

You gave him 6 weeks notice which is legal.  He asked if he could have longer - people ask for things all the time and it isn't a problem if they ask politely and accept the answer.  You just need to be clear and unambiguous in your answer. 

FreeBear

Landladyinwaiting2082 said:

FreeBear said:

Landladyinwaiting2082 said: Something about having issues with their car insurance.

Repeat after me - "Not my problem".

I wish I could have half the bravery you do FreeBear and I used to think I had it but after this experience I think I'll be having to take a break from offering my room to any lodgers for a while lol 

Not always easy the first time, but it does get easier.

Had a few months off work due to an injury a couple of years back. During the "Return to Work" interview, I was asked "How was your work covered whilst you were off".. The manager appeared to be quite shocked when i said "Not my problem", and even more so when i insisted he recorded it verbatim.

Chrysalis

Landladyinwaiting2082 said:

Chrysalis said:

A month really isnt much time to find somewhere else to live, if you hadnt given any indication at all prior to the notice you wanted them to leave I can understand them asking for more time.

How much time is enough? How long is a piece of string.

It is clear you desperately want them gone and the hotel offer is nice.

Its a do you want to be nice or does your own needs come first? thats a decision for you to make, but I checked and 28 days is the legal requirement which you have met.

Yeah thank you, I've carried out my legal duties.  The only thing is, he said he did view a few properties and they were too expensive.  Which I understand, times are difficult but I've asked him to leave and this isn't the first he's tried to weasel his way around me.  I do think he's chanced his luck a few times with paying rent a few days late here and there and I even told him that I have a habit of letting people walk over me but I think it's fallen on deafs ears.  I don't think he cares lol 

I understand one month isn't enough but some of the excuses he gave me doesn't really add up.  I think he's upset which is understandable but I really don't like that he's not even tried to accept a room when someone has asked them to leave their home, if it was a standard tenancy renting with a bunch of nobodys I don't think I would feel as hurt lol.  It sounds like he's tried but he's not bothered.  I'm feeling a bit hurt myself to be honest and I really needed the support lol Thanks for your reply 

Yeah just get on with it, I think the hotel offer is a nice one, and you just both have to move on.

Ironically I had a similar experience the other way round.

A lady took me in as a lodger, and I think because she wasnt sure on it, the agreement was only for a month.  Everyone wants their own space, privacy etc.  I kept myself to my room largely, I would show myself occasionally out of politeness, but she ended up liking the arrangement and begged me to stay, but I wanted my own space, the freedom to make a mess etc. be up at all hours that sort of thing, whilst I had to tip toe at night to stop waking her, making sure I stayed tidy all the time etc. so did move on.  However looking back on it I would consider it superior to when I lived in a bedsit.

saajan_12

Remember you gave ~1.5 months notice, well above your obligation. If he doesn't have anything in progress now, and is still at stage 1 with viewings / finding somewhere, then there's no reason to think this next month will be any different. An extra 2 weeks is just kicking the can down the road.. at that point it'll be "its too cold, market is dead in December, need more time". 

Leave it for a few days and send a reminder message saying the licence will be ending in 1 week on 30th Sept. Here are the instructions to leave keys etc, and if he needs any help with references etc then just ask. After the licence ends, get the locks changed asap. Worst case if he doesn't leave the property, have them changed but not locked, and then lock the door behind him when he does leave. If he still has property inside, then send a message arranging for a time for him to collect them within x days.