Lodger wants another months notice

Landladyinwaiting2082

YoungBlueEyes said:

Forgive me for not quoting, my phone isn’t letting me. 

OP you said in your second post that you told him you have a habit of letting people walk all over you but you think it’s fallen on deaf ears.  

You only served the notice yesterday, so in just one day you’ve mentally given him another couple of weeks and put him up in a hotel? 

It didn’t fall on deaf ears. 

I served his his months notice on the 16th of August 2023.  I have emailed a solicitor as I am thinking that I may need to serve him another letter and hopefully they'll get back to me soon.  As we are still currently in the notice period of the first notice period I still feel like there is a little bit of wiggle room.  I think he could tell that I was miffed off, for lack of a better word lol 

The atmosphere was a little bit hostile last night and he's spent the night out of the house (heaven's knows where) after I basically told him that I am thinking about booking a hotel for him for the last two weeks of October.  So he knows that I'm not completely happy with the arrangement.  He then said 'if' he can find somewhere on the 6th of October etc then he will get it sorted.  

So things aren't exactly concrete at the moment. 

Landladyinwaiting2082

YoungBlueEyes said:

Forgive me for not quoting, my phone isn’t letting me. 

OP you said in your second post that you told him you have a habit of letting people walk all over you but you think it’s fallen on deaf ears.  

You only served the notice yesterday, so in just one day you’ve mentally given him another couple of weeks and put him up in a hotel? 

It didn’t fall on deaf ears. 

Just to clarify I served him his notice early.  He received the letter on the 16th of August but I drafted the letter as if the notice was from the 1st of September if that makes sense as I wanted to give him as much verbal notice as possible.

The letter was just to safe guard me should anything go wrong. 

BeerSavesMoney

I agree that one month notice is more than enough. The lodger is just dragging their feet.

Landladyinwaiting2082

YoungBlueEyes said:

Forgive me for not quoting, my phone isn’t letting me. 

OP you said in your second post that you told him you have a habit of letting people walk all over you but you think it’s fallen on deaf ears.  

You only served the notice yesterday, so in just one day you’ve mentally given him another couple of weeks and put him up in a hotel? 

It didn’t fall on deaf ears. 

I was really hoping that he would honour my wishes and find alternative accommodation.  There are other excuses that he gave me but I would rather not share as they seemed silly reasons but may be identifiable to the person in particular and I wouldn't want them to see this post lol 

I was just hoping that they would leave like asked.  If I was asked to leave someone's home I would do so respectfully because it's their home no matter the cost but maybe that's just a me thing.  

I did feel a bit bad for them because the more they talked and gave me their reasons/excuses the more it angered me.  They quite clearly saw other properties but just decided not to take them which rather upset me when I asked them to leave... I'm not sure how to feel 

Landladyinwaiting2082

I understand that paying for the hotel seems incredulous but I think I'd rather just have them out of the house at this point.  Then maybe they will get the picture. Because right now if feels like they'll never leave lol 

YoungBlueEyes

Apologies, I misunderstood your post  So he’s had the letter long enough but has excuses why he can’t go yet. 

One thing I would do is hold fire on the solicitor. There are some experts on here who would possibly post an idea of a letter you could type out yourself for free. His time isn’t up yet so I’d keep the legal stuff on a back burner. They may not be required. 

propertyrental

first mistake (history now) was a 3month contract. Next time make it 'periodic' (rolling) from the start. week by week or month be month

That way you can get rid fast if they are a nightmare.

Contract should specify notice period. Max 1 month, but maybe 1 week. It's your HOME.

If no notice is specified/agreed it must be 'reasonable'. Rule of thumb is if rent is paid weekly, 1 weeks notice. Rent monthly? 1 month notice.

But other factors may  be relevant eg if the lodger acts unreasonably the notice period can be shorter or even next day.

In this case you gave a month notice. At the end of the month, wait for lodger to leave house, change locks, then discuss a safe way for belongings to be transferred.

Pay hotel bills? Hahahahah! Are you the lodger's mum/dad?

sheramber

A month may be reasonable if he had somewhere to go that he could not take over until then but not am open ended month.

How does he know he will find something in that second month?   He won't and then he will want another month and another month and another............

No way should be paying for a hotel. 

EssexHebridean

Most hotels these days will also want card details that they can charge back any damage that occurs during the person's stay, and indeed they may well use these for charging any increased stay too. what happens when the lodger realises that actually, living in a hotel is a bit like being a lodger, but without the need to clean your own toilet or indeed pay any rent, and thinks they'll just let the hotel know they'll be staying a bit longer....on a "Yes, just charge the same card" basis?  Really - don't go there, you have no need whether legally or morally to do anything like this! 

Landladyinwaiting2082

YoungBlueEyes said:

Apologies, I misunderstood your post  So he’s had the letter long enough but has excuses why he can’t go yet. 

One thing I would do is hold fire on the solicitor. There are some experts on here who would possibly post an idea of a letter you could type out yourself for free. His time isn’t up yet so I’d keep the legal stuff on a back burner. They may not be required. 

Yeah I'm just a bit confused at the moment because I think he thinks that I agreed to the extra month but then I had a separate conversation about only staying in the house for an extra two weeks.  I reckon that's why he's gone out for the night.  I reckon he's just as confused as I am lol I'm trying not to be heartless but also I really do feel like he's not even tried, granted he saw a few places but he's totally disregarded the fact that I want him to > leave < which was the point of the notice

It wasn't an easy decision for me in the first place so this curve ball hasn't been welcome and I don't fully feel like a month is a lot of time myself but then some of the things he said about looking at other rooms has me maybe thinking otherwise 

It's hard to tell with this guy