I have thrown my son out, HELP please!

suzysue_2

Hello OP,
It sounds like you were quite a spirited young girl and you didn't take kindly to being told what to do.
I think your son is simply a chip of the old block, think back to your youth and how much you thought you were in control and oh so right all the time (we all do as teens!) I hope you find a way of sorting your problems out.

maytaurus

I don't see how throwing him out can possibly help him
I could never do this
and b4 anyone asks
yes I have 3 children (now adults)
yes there have been major issues
but we have worked through them together and are very close

bulchy

Havent been able to read all of the replies, just wanted to say, without going into too much detail, my family put up with another family members drug addiction for a lot of years, we finally had enough of it, and decided tough love was the only way to go, I must admit it was hard at first, but this person is now the lovliest person you could meet, and has a child and lovely partner now, something which we believe would never have happened if we had continued to accept the behaviour. Yes it was hard for them, but I believe it was the best thing we could have done.
Good luck Caterina, I hope things work out as well for your family as they did for mine.
Sue xx

[Deleted User]

Hi Caterina,

Firstly big massive hug for you! It must be a very tough situation for you and the rest of your family and i can't even begin to imagine how you are feeling.

I do think you have done the right thing by asking him to leave - at 18 he is an adult now and if he hasn't given you the respect that you and your family deserve in your own home and won't kick the habit or sort himself out then he deserves to be asked to leave.

Of course you love him because he is your baby boy etc but at this point and time he is not a nice person and you can't have him running down your health and money! It is 'tough love' but I'm positive that it will make him a much better person with RESPECT! you have to go down to come back up!
Keep in touch with him and support him emotionally etc but please don't back down! (thinking about an episode of brat camp where one daughter was begging her mum to let her come back home, promising she'll change etc etc but one week later it was all back to how it started, the mum wished she'd kept her out in the desert for longer!) Its important to let him know that you all still love him but its equally important to let him know that things have to change for good. I think you are doing a great thing standing up to your baby boy and he will turn round one day and apologize for all the hurt caused you all etc.

(sorry if i'm going on and not making sense - I'm tired lol

Also please don't quote me just to say that my views are wrong etc etc this post was just to support the OPs decision and to add my 2ps worth lol!!)

BB37

Hi Caterina,

I dont have kids so cant imagine what you have been going through. I stumbled upon your thread when doing a search for something else. My heart goes out to you!

Your last post was some time ago, perhaps you could post an update so we know if your life has improved as family and how your son is now getting on.

Big hug!

:grouphug: