Legally marry and not inform anyone - official or family

spankee

Can you legally get married in the UK and not tell anyone?

By anyone - I mean ANYONE, family, friends, employers, the state, 'official' people. 

I know you're wondering why. The main reason being that we don't want anyone to know as it would cause a lot of family problems, arguments etc (we're not cousins by the way!) But I wondered if you can, legally get wed and then not have to tell anyone. 

Might sound a bit weird as its supposed to be a joyous thing, and it would be just between us 2, but if it was public, the plop would hit the fan. 

MattMattMattUK

spankee said:

Can you legally get married in the UK and not tell anyone?

By anyone - I mean ANYONE, family, friends, employers, the state, 'official' people. 

I know you're wondering why. The main reason being that we don't want anyone to know as it would cause a lot of family problems, arguments etc (we're not cousins by the way!) But I wondered if you can, legally get wed and then not have to tell anyone. 

Might sound a bit weird as its supposed to be a joyous thing, and it would be just between us 2, but if it was public, the plop would hit the fan. 

To be legally married in the UK you are required to either register a foreign marriage, or get married in a place legally specified for marriage, including completing the relevant documentation with the registrar, failure to do either means that the two individuals are not married. 

spankee

Can you legally get married in the UK and not tell anyone?

By anyone - I mean ANYONE, family, friends, employers, the state, 'official' people. 

I know you're wondering why. The main reason being that we don't want anyone to know as it would cause a lot of family problems, arguments etc (we're not cousins by the way!) But I wondered if you can, legally get wed and then not have to tell anyone. 

Might sound a bit weird as its supposed to be a joyous thing, and it would be just between us 2, but if it was public, the plop would hit the fan.

Brie

No reason you have to tell friends or family but there are advantages to letting other certain individuals know.  Like your employer who will be more likely to deal with your spouse should you die.   Maybe also ensure that you have wills/letters of intent filed with a solicitor - again for the extreme circumstances - so that whomever is left behind doesn't get into a legal dispute by family members who don't think that someone is "next of kin".

Brie

Oh - and I believe you must declare such things for certain benefits being paid correctly as you might end up being considered to have behaved fraudulently.

Brie

Think you should get this deleted and stick to just one thread.....

sheramber

Your marriage must be registered with the sate  which done by the Registrar / celebrant that marries you .

details here  https://www.gov.uk/marriages-civil-partnerships/give-notice

sheramber

Your marriage must be registered with the state which is done by whoever marries you.

details here   https://www.gov.uk/marriages-civil-partnerships/give-notice

tightauldgit

Your marriage must be registered to be legal and also witnessed by someone. So no. 

bryanb

Your marriage must be advertised for 3 weeks in advance.

serpico100

spankee said:

I know you're wondering why. The main reason being that we don't want anyone to know as it would cause a lot of family problems, arguments etc 

So are you going to live the rest of your life trying to keep your marriage secret from your friends and family?