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Common-law Spouse of 8 Years Would Not Update His Will: What are the Consequences?
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Lord_Frugal12 said:It has been over a month since I asked you for advice. Here is an update.
After reading a lot of good advice here, I managed to take out our cousin for a walk. And near the end of that one hour walk, she confessed to not being happy with her fiancé. Then, two weeks later, she realised that she is a victim of domestic abuse. She really did not know about control and coercion being a criminal offence.
So, now, we are in the process of secretly arranging an escape for our cousin. The fiancé is a lot worse than we originally thought.
Anyway, now we are struggling to find out what type of evidence the Crown Prosecution Service require to convict this man. I phoned several domestic abuse organisations such as Refuge with Independent Domestic Violent Advocacy Service, Women's Aid, Safer Places and others. So far, these are all passing me off to other places because "we don't deal with the legal stuff." I feel angry because control and coercion has become a crime since 2021. So, there must be a resources that states what type of evidence is required by the CPS to convict an abuser.
Anyone know?
Conviction may come later.
But at this stage it should not be a priority.1 -
The other small note is that you may want to advise her that it's important her behaviour doesn't change when she's around her partner.If you've have not made a mistake, you've made nothing2
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Looking into any possible conviction is better considered once your cousin is out of the situation and away from his influence.
To get any prosecution she would need be prepared to give evidence. Is she willing and able to do this?
She can report him to DWP for any fraud but it doesn't sound as if it would be safe to do so while she is still living there or still has contact with him.1
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