Money Moral Dilemma: Should I share the cash I get selling the hand-me-downs my friend gave me?

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My friend gave me a big bag of clothes her daughter had outgrown. My daughter wore and loved them all, and has now outgrown them herself. My friend said she didn't want them back, so I'm planning on selling them. But should I give her half of the profits? She's not short of cash and doesn't use second-hand selling sites, so wouldn't see I was selling them.  

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RichShadwell

You will have the hassle of advertising the clothes, posting them etc, so keep all money to yourself 

elizabethhull

I have swapped clothes with friends. gven & received, but I can't, in all honesty, be bothered with selling. Personally, I would be perfectly happy if the recipient made the effort to sell & got something for them.

Groom

Surely you've answered your own question? Your friend gave you the clothes, your daughter wore them, your friend didn't want them back so they are yours to do want you want with. If you feel guilty about it, why not do someone else a good turn by just passing the clothes onto them? 

dninja

They were given to you for free so why not pass them on for free? Just think how much you appreciated getting them and how much the next person would.

Ed264

My view is that you should do the decent thing and offer your friend half of the profits, but I suspect she would refuse to accept them.

G78

Take them to a charity shop/ refugee /homeless centre . 

XRAT

If you were to offer half to your friend, you will probably find they decline to accept as they were unwanted/a gift to you, and because you deserve it for taking the trouble to sell them.
A friend of ours often recycles our things by selling them. We just can't be bothered, but are grateful they are being reused rather than put in landfill. She is more than welcome to the money, for making the effort.

Bonnypitlad

IF you make any profit after deducting postage and packaging costs, offer half to your friend, she probably won’t accept it but will appreciate the gesture 
Why not find someone with a young daughter and offer the clothes gratis

keithyno.1

No, don't give your friend half the profits from any sale. She GAVE you the clothes so they're now your property to do what you wish with them.

There's no dilemma here at all from what I can see.

ClaraSais

Personally I would donate sone to a charity like HomeStart or Barnardos.