Money Moral Dilemma: Should I share the cash I get selling the hand-me-downs my friend gave me?

Babsiebaby882

My husband and I combined 2 houses when we married. I gave my sister a like new fridge. 2yrs later she was downsizing and advertised said fridge for sale. She tried to give me the money she made but I’d said no. It was her fridge, her 💰and she got to keep it. No dilemma here, you don’t get to claim a gift back or the profit from its sale!!

jjay13

What kind of friends are you that you can't talk to her about this?

"Those clothes you gave us are still in good condition. What do you say I put them on ebay (or whatever) and we'll share the profits/treat ourselves/treat the kids?"

Pollycat

jjay13 said:

What kind of friends are you that you can't talk to her about this?

"Those clothes you gave us are still in good condition. What do you say I put them on ebay (or whatever) and we'll share the profits/treat ourselves/treat the kids?"

+1 to this.

Almost (if not) all theses MMDs could be solved by simply talking to friends.
I'm really not sure what the originators of these MMDs get out of it because there's always opposing opinions.

Willdun

Really is quite simple, conduct oneself in a honourable and transparent manner. Your friend was kind enough to gift you these clothes so why not pass them on so spreading the love ,or offer to share proceeds with your friend. If they got a few quid probably not interested in money, but you've  done the right thing. And Ignore those people who say once a gift has been given you can do what you want, the kindness and sincerity is diminished if we conduct in this way. 

Slishave

I'd donate them myself.

However, if you NEED the money keep most of it and buy a bunch of flowers/chocolates/bottle with the rest to say thanks.

youngatheart7

The fact that you are asking others opinion tells me that you would feel guilty keeping all the proceeds 🤷‍♀️If it were me I would tell her of my intention to sell the items and that I intend to pass cash to her. She may very well tell you to keep it all but, if she is happy with you sharing the proceeds,  then do so. Good friends are very important. Xx

jedav

The manner in which the last sentence of your question is phrased suggests that your worry is what she might think.  Simple, ask her, we can't tell you!  Alternatively, what would you like her to do if you had given the clothes to her?  The general tenet of a gift is that it is freely given for someone to do with as they wish.  Unfortunately some people don't feel that, and it causes problems.

LP53

If you need the money and your friend doesn’t just keep it. She may think you didn’t like them and there’s a chance she won’t offer next time if she thinks your selling them on. It’s a hassle anyway selling online and posting so don’t feel bad. 

darmzx

As far as I’m concerned you are free to do with them what you please as your friend gave them to you so you now own them. Should you give her any of the profits from the sale? No. Good luck!

hannerrbabes

They're your clothes. Sell them and make a few quid for yourself. We could all do with a few extra quid!