Simplifying Life

JoJoB

moanymoany wrote: »

Hey ~JoJoB, where darn sarf will you be?

You've got me thinking - break through the pain barrier moany - do you need planning permission for a yurt. If someone bought a wood, could they put in a yurt without planning permission? Interesting thought!

I think you might be safe enough putting up one in your back garden, as it is seen as a temporary structure - people have certainly done this to create and extra bedroom or teenage space etc. It varies from council to council though I would imagine, abut if you can get away with a shed in your garden why not a yurt or tipi?

Where planning permission gets dicey is where people buy up a bit of woodland and decide to live in a yurt or similar structure there. This changes the use of land from amenity or forest etc to residential so conflict can occur with local authorities. People who are living in a low-impact way on their own land have fought local authority decisions though, but you need to have some stamina for the fight!

I plan to head Llandeilo way btw.

mary43

Collected repeat prescription this morning................promptly burst into tears at the doctor simply because she asked me how I was ? At least she took some time to talk/listen...........all about my Mum's illness, loss of my dad, first OH and son plus all the other problems that seem to mount up and has referred me for counselling...............felt better after that though that wasn't what I went for in the first place.
I feel like a piece of fruit cake everyones had a slice of and I'm the bit in the middle crumbling away. Didn't help much when one of the lads we used to look after called with all his problems and a phone call to his mum had him in tears..........she was so negative to him. I couldn't find the right answers let along a solution for this lad which has now left my head spinning
So, my mind is all of a clutter again...............got my hyacinths potted up in their glass vases so thats something at least and OH has gone to somerfields to get me a storage box to use for pressies thought he reckons I'll want to keep it for myself...................lol

Sorry for sounding a bit 'grumpy'...............not one of my better days but I will cheer up.............honest..........and sorry for being off topic

Bobbykins

mary, don't beat youself up hun!

It sound to me like you really needed to let off some of the steam that's been building up and, hopefully, being able to get it all out at the doctor's will have been a real help.

Sometimes we can give so much of ourselves away that we feel there's nothing left for "me", and perhaps the fact that you've decided you need to simplify is a sign of that. Anyway, having made the decision to go for simplification, you're probably on the right track now. Hang on in there huneybun.

Don't apologize for being off topic......'swat were are here for, to support each other, innit?

hugs

Bobby

Greenshieldstamp_2

Dear Mary43
Dont' worry about being grumpy. I just wanted to post you a message and say I am thinking of you and wishing you well.
If we cannot support each other on bad days as well as good, then it is a sad world.
By the way I had forgotten about growing hyacinths. I used to love watching them grow when I was little. Do you use one of those vases with a bulb shape bit at the top and the roots in water?
Take care of yourself and best wishes

mary43

Thankyou so much bobbykins and greenshield for your kindness.

I felt a bit guilty after I'd posted...........everyone is very positive and today I'm not feeling like that. Didn;t want to put the damper on things.

The hyacinths are in those bulb shaped glasses............one of the other lads we cared got got me them as belated Christmas pressie.........woolworths sale..........lol Expect thats why one of the bulbs is already sprouting. Hope I don't kill it off shutting it away.................or shall I put that one in daylight and leave the other in the cupboard ? Never grown them like this before.
Years ago we used to grow them in a pot, shove them under the bed and then bring them out when the tips came through. Mum always had them in her garden and they looked and smelt lovely............one of those things I keep meaning to do and don't, you know how it is.
Got the box of herbs to sort out next..............might let OH do that..........its packets of seeds..............not too hot with them, they'll be growing all over the place............................lol

Feel much better now..............thankyou:j

rosieben

Mary, I ditto what bobbykins and greenshield have said, we're here to help and support each other, and thats even more true when someone is having a bad day - we all have them!

You have a lot on your plate at the mo, dont forget to take care of yourself

mary43

Thanks rosieben..............I do feel better now and it really does help to know folk understand.
OH is very good but not very good at coping with upsets and tears.
Still, he came home from town with storage box from supermarket -pressie for me he said..........must think I want one due to all the baskets for christmas hampers etc. but it's royal blue ! Thinks it'll brighten up comp room (it doesn't look right at all really but to please him I'll have it in here for now............well he is washing the kitchen walls down bless.............:j

needmoney

Mar43 sounds like you maybe trying to do too much, look after yourself for a change and maybe let the others look after you a bit.
Glad you feel a bit better.

mary43

You're right needmoney...............I know I take on too much, trouble is then is leaves me little energy for much else but its hard to refuse people, particularly youngsters when you know they have no one else who will be supportive. And thankfully they do return the help given...........one lad really drained me last year with mental health problems but when he lived with us we let him make our wild life area at the bottom of the garden. From then on it became 'his pond area' and he does pop up and sort it out when it needs it and do other bits and pieces. He's even run the hoover round for me. Another girl, very stable and married now, is always there for me if I need her so I do get a bit of 'pay back' which is never expected but always appreciated.
Doesn;t help with Mum being ill and knowing I'll be going down to see her at the end of January which I'm not looking forward to as she's been quite poorly. Still, such is life .........and some things we can't change.
OH now taking a break from kitchen walls...................best make him a cuppa.....................:j

ceridwen

moanymoany wrote: »

Hey ~JoJoB, where darn sarf will you be?

You've got me thinking - break through the pain barrier moany - do you need planning permission for a yurt. If someone bought a wood, could they put in a yurt without planning permission? Interesting thought!

Attagirl - Moanie. One is never too old to go in for a "learning experience"(first the chickens setting up home with you - then the world!). Wasnt there some guy on the tv the other day of 102 and hes emigrating to New Zealand if my memory serves me aright? Me - I have a motto of "Life begins at 60" (which by pure coincidence of course is retirement age - lol).

Note to us: tissues - mustnt forget the tissues.