Simplifying Life

welsh_worrier

Spent Mothers day Trying to be positive for my Sons and Daughter but missed my mam so much (she passed away just over 2 years ago).Really wish she could have known my Grandson.He is 4 but she was already lost to us when he was born.She would have loved him so much.She is one hell of an act to follow.I just wish she is looking down on me and approves of my grandmothering.

ceridwen

welsh worrier

I personally am quite quite sure your mother is indeed keeping quite a grandmotherly eye out. That is the way I personally think - and I myself am positive she will often be visiting hergreat-grandchild. I am sorry to hear that she is no longer there in person for you - will be thinking of you. to me personally - I am absolutely positive that people do live on - they have just moved on into "the next room in the house". It is up to each individual person what they think in that respect. To me - its absolute certainty. I do appreciate that other people, however, may well think differently.

mary43 - sorry your card didnt get through. Well - you cant help the vagaries of the Post Office (the rest of us are well acquainted with just how unreliable they are). Its not your fault it didnt get through in time. I'm sorry generally that your mother isnt well. Best wishes to you.

Never mind mary that you and I dont exactly have happy news of our own at the moment. It'll happen again for us some time soon. Meanwhile - its nice to share in the happy news other people have (Aril's yesterday for instance) and to see the plans that other people have for the future (awaiting progress at some point in the future for JoJoB).

When I got onto the Internet last year I never anticipated making a group of virtual friends. I just thought I'd get a load more information about things (which I have) - but the group of virtual friends has been an unexpected bonus.

So - to all my virtual friends :j Hi:A

love

ceridwen

Charis

I've had a really worthwhile weekend, just pottering about and making a home. I was impressed by the links on this thread that encourage slow living and being in the moment. I actually cleaned the cooker, which I hadn't done for a very long time and although I can't say I actually enjoyed it I felt really pleased with myself when I could see through the glass door and watch my Yorkshire puds rising.

Each of my four children spoke to me (three via the phone) and wished me a Happy Mother's day. My youngest said he was going to buy me something but because I was decluttering (he's noticed!) he gave me home made (and hand decorated) vouchers for various things. I am a little worried that I only have one which says 'turn that music down!' and the 'do your homework' one was only valid for yesterday but I think it's his idea of a joke. I had one for a 'trip to the skip' (dump) and I cashed that one in yesterday, having been 'gifted' with an old tv and microwave of my daughter's that were defunct. She had removed them from storage but had nowhere to put them.

It's a beautiful sunny day here and the daffs are waving in the breeze. Hope everyone else is enjoying this moment. :j

Hugs to anyone who didn't hear from one or more of their offspring yesterday.

do_it_today!

Hi All :hello:
lovely morning today - this thread is making me abit emotional now with the depth of what's been shared my MIL died in January and I was ok but in the church when a neighbour gave a dedication something she said really struck home that I would never see my MIL again really got to me... life is precious even the boring bits I do try to appreciate the wonderful people in my life and let them know how much they mean to me. We took mother out for dinner yesterday and it was lovely all of us being together again (same time same place is getting harder and harder these days!) life eh :j :j :j

mary43

ceridwen - thank you for your kind thoughts. Your right, of course, and there are some things we have no control of........rang post office this morning and there's no problem at Milton Keynes post office so MIL must have got a bit confused about that. Oh well, that was yesterday, today is another day and although I feel a bit washed out (silly me for getting so upset and losing control) I wrote a letter to my youngest son, plus the weekly letter to Mum I always do, enclosing photos of baby grandson that his dad sent.Just looking at his little face makes me smile..............he's going to be such a handful judging by his expression................lol

welsh worrier - I agree with ceridwen.................people do live on and I always look on it in that same way........they're simply in another room.My Dad is with me always...........along with many others that went before,just keeping a watchful eye and no doubt giving the odd disapproving shake of the head as well as a caring smile.

do it today - I must look into this 80-20 thing.I tend to put the same things on day after day in rotation and then look in the mirror and wonder why I look so pasty faced and drab ...............lol Wardrobe is full of things that are much nicer and more cheerful to wear.............time I started plouhging through them otherwise there's no point in them being there and I may as well ditch the wardrobe and have a couple of hangers on the wall ! And what you wear can make a lot of difference to how you feel..............and if there ever was a time for me to do it well, it's now !

Benthosboy

ceridwen wrote: »

And - for myself - I'd be pleased to hear of any further happy news anyone else has.

In that case, I'll get my coat........:D

Martyn (a man who if it wasn't for bad luck would have no luck at all!!)

Charis

Interesting article about the new 'environmentally friendly' (not) bags being sold by supermarkets:

http://www.smh.com.au/news/environment/how-green-is-your-bag/2005/04/24/1114281452076.html

and Rhonda Jean's solution:

http://down---to---earth.blogspot.com/2008/03/shopping-tote-swap.html

mary43

Charis - thanks for the links. Just goes to show something with 'green' in the name doesn't necessarily mean 'green' if you know what I mean.

Loved the blog.............took a while to understand the 'swapping' idea..........thought folk were going to literally swap shopping bags with each other..................... duhhhhh !!!
Not having a sewing machine I don't think anything I tried to concoct would hold my shopping so I'll stick to me 'recycled' bags from the charity shop - NOT plastic in any way shape of form..............only recycled because someone used them before me................helps the world keep on turning:j

ceridwen

Benthosboy wrote: »

In that case, I'll get my coat........:D

Martyn (a man who if it wasn't for bad luck would have no luck at all!!)

Your turn will come Martyn...hope the Teach Yourself Cookery lessons are going well.:D

champys

ceridwen wrote: »

There ought to be some book out there called "When its time to say goodbye" - maybe there is and I dont know about it.

Ceridwen - the last thing I want to do is bring sad feelings back, but I was just catching up with the thread after having been away and read this. I have a book called 'I don't know what to say' (subtitle: how to help and support someone who is dying) which I found quite helpful when my father was in his last months. He had a brain tumor so he knew that he was going and that it would take a long, long time. This was 10 years ago so I don't know whether the book is still available from somewhere. But I would gladly send it to you if it could be of any help.