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Advice MIL died without leaving a will
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Oh I agree, I worry the money is gone!! ☹️
However, making an offer to negate their argument, could bring it to a head quicker, one way or another.How's it going, AKA, Nutwatch? - 12 month spends to date = 2.60% of current retirement "pot" (as at end May 2025)1 -
paul2louise said:thriftytwosome said:"My brother’s household finances are very strong- he doesn’t need the money."This comment in the reply is a bit worrying, it looks as though she is trying to justify something.thriftytwosome said:"My brother’s household finances are very strong- he doesn’t need the money."This comment in the reply is a bit worrying, it looks as though she is trying to justify something.
honestly the letter is a load of tosh - contents are £500 at the most . correspondence with Frankie Howard? a few £££ maybe. candlesticks? definitely less than she paid for them2 -
Did SIL actually declare any gifts given in the last 7 years when doing the paperwork for the estate. If not then OP has a counter claim they can make if they have proof of the gift. In fact there is more likely to be proof of a money gift than of any letter from a celebrity or any candlesticks!0
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poppystar said:Did SIL actually declare any gifts given in the last 7 years when doing the paperwork for the estate. If not then OP has a counter claim they can make if they have proof of the gift. In fact there is more likely to be proof of a money gift than of any letter from a celebrity or any candlesticks!1
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paul2louise said:poppystar said:Did SIL actually declare any gifts given in the last 7 years when doing the paperwork for the estate. If not then OP has a counter claim they can make if they have proof of the gift. In fact there is more likely to be proof of a money gift than of any letter from a celebrity or any candlesticks!5
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All else aside, she should be settling that funeral bill out of the estate asap. Have you sent a copy of the invoice, and specifically requested reimbursement?
If she won't even stump up the £4k to reimburse this, then that's another red flag.How's it going, AKA, Nutwatch? - 12 month spends to date = 2.60% of current retirement "pot" (as at end May 2025)1 -
Oh and another thing she seems to have forgotten is that my husband paid over 4k for the funeral which she can't remember about.
OMG - It gets worse. This plays right into the "full and fair accounting" that she appears to be so insistent upon. She doesn't get a choice re reimbursement, this is an outright estate debt. This one goes straight back to your solicitor with a "thank you for the reminder, here's the invoice"
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tetrarch said:Oh and another thing she seems to have forgotten is that my husband paid over 4k for the funeral which she can't remember about.
OMG - It gets worse. This plays right into the "full and fair accounting" that she appears to be so insistent upon. She doesn't get a choice re reimbursement, this is an outright estate debt. This one goes straight back to your solicitor with a "thank you for the reminder, here's the invoice"
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OH has told solicitor about funeral costs and I am pretty sure that funeral costs are listed on the estate costs. He has emailed solicitor to request proof of funds in the estate. He has a draft reply which he is going to send later with his comments on her email0
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I just love the Frankie Howard bit!!!OP, it's pants that you and Mr OP are having to cope with this but once it's all over (and it will be eventually) you can dine out on the sorry tale forevermore....1
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