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Advice MIL died without leaving a will

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  • @KITTYKAT8_2 thank you 
  • KITTYKAT8_2 said:
    Get the coins and stamps valued, ask her to provide proof for other stuff, she will have none, this must be very stressful for you, it’s delaying tatics, get solicitor to ask for proof of estate as it should be in a separate account.
    There should be a balance of at least twice what is owed to DH given no partial distribution has taken place..


  • Malthusian
    Malthusian Posts: 11,055 Forumite
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    My eBay only shows last 2 years. 
    Try "Request your eBay data" (you may need to use the desktop site). I haven't tried it but I suspect this will provide your full transaction history. 
    I can't see the point of getting the coins and stamps valued. If they were given in life it's irrelevant what the value is, it doesn't change the share of the inheritance. Why give her an inch?
    The estate is apparently under the IHT threshold and gifts within the £3,000 annual allowance don't need to be included on the IHT forms.
  • Thank you I will look at that on eBay and yes you are right. She is just making distraction and delay tactics. @Malthusian
  • So if you basically cleared the bungalow as she is suggesting, and all the remaining furniture is hers anyway, what the hell does she have in storage? 
    Debt free Feb 2021 🎉
  • She is implying that we ransacked the bungalow before her. And my OH was getting stuff from her loft before she moved to the bungalow. He was helping her empty the loft and doing tip runs. The furniture she had in storage was a bedroom set that belonged to my late brother which I gifted to MIL as she had a divan bed and was too big to transport to bungalow in a van. SIL took this bedroom set and other furniture and put it in storage for her kids as they were getting ready to move out and set up in their own homes. So I was happy that my nieces could benefit from my bedroom set. This was a bed, wardrobe and bedside cabinet in pine wood. If she hadn't wanted it I would have put it up for Freecycle or similar. She wanted all the other furniture, so suspect that her girls have maybe decided against the furniture and bought their own new stuff.
  • Sea_Shell
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    I can't remember if this has been raised up thread, but are you sure that the SIL actually still HAS the estate funds?

    This sounds like a lot of bluster and diversion to delay having to actually transfer any funds.    Has she backed herself into a financial corner, and her only option is to fight, in the hope you give up?
    How's it going, AKA, Nutwatch? - 12 month spends to date = 2.60% of current retirement "pot" (as at end May 2025)
  • That looks like a really comprehensive and reasonable reply. The only thing missing (IMO) is a deadline for receipt of the £100,000 and payment instructions.

    Best of luck

    Regards

    Tet
  • Sea_Shell said:
    I can't remember if this has been raised up thread, but are you sure that the SIL actually still HAS the estate funds?

    This sounds like a lot of bluster and diversion to delay having to actually transfer any funds.    Has she backed herself into a financial corner, and her only option is to fight, in the hope you give up?
    Agreed. She could also be earning several thousand each year in interest. That wouldn't be easy to give up.
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