Money Moral Dilemma: Should I pay less after friends gave me a worse room at our New Year's getaway?

neilmorgan

Was the sofa bed a double?
If so, then the additional couple should have had that as latecomers.
If not, then it is logical that you had it.
It's not clear if you agreed to the change or were forced into it.
If there was an ADDITIONAL 2 people then everyone should get some money back as there were more people sharing the cost. You downgraded so you should pay less than the others unless you had sole use of the room.

REJP

JackTheBiscuit said:

I’d bottle it up. Remain in the circle of ‘friends’ and remain calm ……..for a couple of years.At each new event where you may be in the homes of each of the other couples, take fresh prawns with you and when the time is right, sneak out of sight and put them in the turn ups of the curtains, or lift the carpet from the gripper rods and tuck a few of those juicy beauties away there. In a few weeks time the stench will surpass that of their own deceit and disrespect and they will be driven around the bend. Divorce and grief will reign down on those sorry excuses for friends and you will blossom once again. If you find yourself waiting for too long for the invites to occur, I’d invite the culprits to you gaff and have them occupy the second hand sofa that you picked up from Oxfam and which you laced with fleas in the 24 hours beforehand. God I wish I could be there. God bless you. 

Not helpful comments.   This site is intended to help people resolve problems, not indulge in retaliation as suggested by your post.  What you are suggesting is wrong.

JayD

Sadly, you have left it too late to make any request for compensation. The time to ask for some recompense was when the additional couple turned up and took your room, leaving you to sleep on a sofa bed, (which was clearly not a pleasant downgrade).

However, I am unhappy that no one else had thought of compensating you in some way - maybe paying your share of a meal, a bottle of something, or even ensuring that you paid less - but at least you say that you did enjoy your stay.

JaneHenery

Yeah, that's really not fair. For a start, the assumption that you should give up your room is definitely not on. You paid for it, its your room, no matter if the King shows up. I have to say though that perhaps a polite 'Nope, sorry not doing that' might have been called for and then you wouldn't be in this situation. I get that its difficult to do, but you really have to nip disrespectful behaviour in the bud. All that said, yes, I'd say that since they felt you could make the sacrifice, the rest of them can chip in for that sacrifice and give you some compensation. 

Pollycat

MSE_Kelvin said:

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Some friends and I booked to stay in a nice house over New Year's, with me the only single person going. At the last minute, another couple joined us, and it was decided that they'd get my double room overlooking a lake as they're a couple, and I'd sleep on the sofa bed in the TV room as I'm single. I didn't want to kick off about it and spoil the stay, and I did have a good time, but since then no one has mentioned compensating me for not getting the room I paid for. Should I say something

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As usual with a MMD, there's far too little information (although probably provided in the original submission).
Did the author of the dilemma really pay for his/her double room overlooking the lake? Was that the arrangement? How was the total price split? Surely if another 2 people stayed, the price per person would have been reduced.
What conversations were held when this other couple were invited? Was the author of the dilemma consulted about having to sleep on the sofa bed? If so, did she/he agree to it? Either verbally or passively by not objecting?

Of course nobody would have mentioned compensating the author of the dilemma if he/she just accepted the revised arrangements.
As always, these MMDs would be sorted out if people spoke up at the time of an issue or discussed it with the people involved.

Megs_6789

I think that if you’re expecting money back you’re causing drama after a good weekend with your friends. You can’t charge each individual person based on the quality of their room. You’re paying for use of the facilities in the house, not just the place you sleep. Besides, I bet the person who organised it didn’t charge any extra for their time spent doing so, it’s a lot of work and stress being the organiser. It would seem ungrateful for you to ask for money back. 

primrose_penguin

I wish you had given a bit more information. I presume this was a house you rented, so the cost of it was shared between all of you individually. The extra couple who joined you should have given you back the money you paid for your room and you should have paid a lesser amount for the TV room, although as latecomers they should have had the sofa bed in the TV room. I feel your friends have treated you poorly. This should have been sorted when the money was re-divided between you all and I am surprised they have been so meanspirited. I think I would have to make a comment that you were surprised you were not compensated for the room you had paid for. You do not mention whether you offered the couple your room or whether it was just assumed you would give it up, if it was the latter I would think twice about going away with them again.  

crmism

My advice is that you should drop your so-called "friends" who evidently think they can treat you like dirt. Should they want to know why, you can decline to answer and leave them to stew in their own juice.

GoldenLibra

JackTheBiscuit said:

I’d bottle it up. Remain in the circle of ‘friends’ and remain calm ……..for a couple of years.At each new event where you may be in the homes of each of the other couples, take fresh prawns with you and when the time is right, sneak out of sight and put them in the turn ups of the curtains, or lift the carpet from the gripper rods and tuck a few of those juicy beauties away there. In a few weeks time the stench will surpass that of their own deceit and disrespect and they will be driven around the bend. Divorce and grief will reign down on those sorry excuses for friends and you will blossom once again. If you find yourself waiting for too long for the invites to occur, I’d invite the culprits to you gaff and have them occupy the second hand sofa that you picked up from Oxfam and which you laced with fleas in the 24 hours beforehand. God I wish I could be there. God bless you. 

Love it - that certainly takes the biscuit! 

GoldenLibra

sleepymans said:

Make an issue of this and you will probably lose friends…..you were badly treated. Whether you think that’s more important than the friendships then make it an issue. 

However with friends like that who needs enemies - time to review one's circle of friends