Money Moral Dilemma: Should I pay less after friends gave me a worse room at our New Year's getaway?

RoyBrock7898

Tahlullah.H said:

As this is a done deal and money has already exchanged hands, I cannot see how you will successfully get anyone to compensate you for this.  This should have been raised once the couple were invited, not after the event.

I think this is definitive.  Suppose there were say 3 couples plus you and you had decided to split the bill 4 ways.  When the extra couple arrived how did they pay?  Was the bill then split 5 ways?  Did you get any rebate?
As Tahlullah says, too late as you would be looking for a proportion from each other couple.

ireallycantyodel

What I don't understand is, if it was a last minute thing and if the costs for the accommodation (as usually is the case) was split by number of people, when and how much did the couple pay? And was that money divided and reimbursed to ALL parties? I think you are not the only one who should be asking for money back.

RoyBrock7898

gothvixen said:

Too many people think that being part of a couple or having a child/children makes them a more worthwhile person. You should have been compensated and I absolutely wouldn't let it go. Treating you as undeserving of the room for which you paid is completely unacceptable. I wouldn't be able to maintain any sort of relationhip with anyone who was happy to treat me so shabbily. Once you show you can very eaily be disrespected people will continue to do so.

Too many people think that being part of a couple or having a child/children makes them a more worthwhile person.  TRUE
You should have been compensated . TRUE
 I absolutely wouldn't let it go. Treating you as undeserving of the room for which you paid is completely unacceptable. TRUE
 I wouldn't be able to maintain any sort of relationship with anyone who was happy to treat me so shabbily.  TRUE
Once you show you can very easily be disrespected people will continue to do so  BUT THIS WOULD NOT ARISE

So it boils down to self-respect and whether you want to remain friends.    

bikaga

Unless the sofa bed only fit one person, yes, definitely. I'm assuming that the new couple joining also paid something towards the accommodation, which had already been paid for, so maybe that could be split sensibly among those who paid initially, while giving you a bit more than the others.

LP53

As others have said you should’ve stayed in your room with the lake and told the other couple there’s only the sofa left since they booked on after everyone else. If this was going to be a problem they could then have offered to pay for the room and you pay half as a single person.
please let this be a lesson more valuable than the money you’re wanting back and remember you deserve to be valued and treated fairly. Next time Nip it in the bud straight away!
However if you feel it will niggle you and you want to ask for half back then do it. Say you’re loved spending time with everyone but you’re  disappointed you were shoved in the sofa bed and paid the same as everyone else. 

Whatever you decide over this - please speak up at the time if you go anywhere else.

Kimrie61

The couple that took your room should pay your price and you should stay for free - it’s the least your friends can do after you were pushed into the tv room and had to sleep on a sofa! A poor deal

flow16

Definitely you should get a refund. If the couple booked last minute, your 'friend' should have told them yes, you can come, but there is only the sofa bed. I think its pretty rude that you were kicked out your room to accommodate others at the last minute and not consulted about it.
You need to say something incase it happens again.

JackTheBiscuit

I’d bottle it up. Remain in the circle of ‘friends’ and remain calm ……..for a couple of years.At each new event where you may be in the homes of each of the other couples, take fresh prawns with you and when the time is right, sneak out of sight and put them in the turn ups of the curtains, or lift the carpet from the gripper rods and tuck a few of those juicy beauties away there. In a few weeks time the stench will surpass that of their own deceit and disrespect and they will be driven around the bend. Divorce and grief will reign down on those sorry excuses for friends and you will blossom once again. If you find yourself waiting for too long for the invites to occur, I’d invite the culprits to you gaff and have them occupy the second hand sofa that you picked up from Oxfam and which you laced with fleas in the 24 hours beforehand. God I wish I could be there. God bless you. 

Groom

So presumably this couple paid for the room - so it was paid for twice, or was the cost of the house split between the number of people who went? If so, as there were two extra, the price should have gone down anyway. Did the money include food as well? 

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These people are not your friends, friends don't treat each other like that.  Their friends are the ones they gave their thought to.  These people treated you disgustingly, the other couple should have reimbursed you for the room they took, and been pleased to do it.  You should not have paid anything, after all, you'd booked a double room and ended without a room at all, and sleeping on a sofa in a sitting room!  How any of them could think it was reasonable to ask you to do that, let alone without paying for it, is beyond me.  I suggest you take it as an expensive lesson and cut your losses, it would be worth it to be rid of 'friends' like that.