Money Moral Dilemma: Should I pay less after friends gave me a worse room at our New Year's getaway?

Shebear

Your friends have treated you rather badly. If you say nothing won't you resent what they did by shifting the goalposts at the last minute? I would need to say something to get it off my chest and yes, it would seem reasonable for you to get some money back. Presumably the new arrivals also paid something?

dobbiesloan

If you paid for a double room and the couple got it, it means they got it for nothing. So demand that they pay you the full price for room. 

gloriouslyhappy

JackTheBiscuit said:

I’d bottle it up. Remain in the circle of ‘friends’ and remain calm ……..for a couple of years.At each new event where you may be in the homes of each of the other couples, take fresh prawns with you and when the time is right, sneak out of sight and put them in the turn ups of the curtains, or lift the carpet from the gripper rods and tuck a few of those juicy beauties away there. In a few weeks time the stench will surpass that of their own deceit and disrespect and they will be driven around the bend. Divorce and grief will reign down on those sorry excuses for friends and you will blossom once again. If you find yourself waiting for too long for the invites to occur, I’d invite the culprits to you gaff and have them occupy the second hand sofa that you picked up from Oxfam and which you laced with fleas in the 24 hours beforehand. God I wish I could be there. God bless you. 

🤣🤣🤣 nice one!

MalMonroe

"Some friends and I booked to stay in a nice house over New Year's, with me the only single person going. At the last minute, another couple joined us, and it was decided that they'd get my double room overlooking a lake as they're a couple, and I'd sleep on the sofa bed in the TV room as I'm single. I didn't want to kick off about it and spoil the stay, and I did have a good time, but since then no one has mentioned compensating me for not getting the room I paid for. Should I say something"

To answer your last question first - YES!!! Tell them you're not paying for having to sleep on a sofa in a communal area and you want your money back. Kick off now as you should have done then.

The part I've highlighted - unbelievable. As a single person myself I would NOT have given up my room, especially one with a great view and more especially as this couple turned up at the last minute. You say 'it was decided' - by WHO?? You? And just because they're a couple? So what. I'd have just said 'oh sorry, no, that's my room and I still want it but I hear the sofa bed in the TV room is very comfy'.

I'm glad you had a good time because I wouldn't have, if I'd been forced to give up a lovely room just because I was single. 

As others have said, these 'friends' you can do without. I'd advise you to try to find some better ones.

Stebbs

I think you should have said something at the time as its unlikely anything would be sorted afterwards.  However I'm not sure how you paid for the house? Presumably you divided the costs per room and surely this couple will have had to pay for the room with the lake view, so what happened to the extra money of you both paid for that room?  All sounds a bit odd. 
We do such things with friends and would a) discuss it amongst all, b) divide the costs by all those going but add on more if some have a much better room and, in your case reduce the costs significantly if you are on a bed settee. If they didn't discuss it with you first then, definitely,  find some better friends!

newkitchenfund

Yes, you should definitely raise it with whoever booked the getaway and 'decided' that the extra couple should join. The couple should pay for your room in full as it was only because you were inconvenienced that they were lucky enough to be able to come along at all. If your friends don't agree, maybe it's time to find some new ones - perhaps single people like yourself who don't treat you like a less deserving person as these couples seem to have done.
If it had been planned like this in advance, it would not be reasonable for the person allocated a sofa bed in a communal room to pay the same as others... would it?

honestcove

If you really had a good time, how important was the room?
If important then make a fuss at the time. Otherwise move on - everyone else has - if not you’ll just look petty and ineffective.

Marinellajosefa

The new couple have taken your room- they should pay you for it! You should just contribute to the shopping, fun stuff etc as you haven’t got a room at all! 

BUT: from the viewpoint if a holiday home landlady: i bet you were booking the house with a max. number of guests stipulated and one more is strictly not allowed. It is more ware&tare on the house, usage of hot water etc and the end-cleaning! You&your friends have broken the rules of the renting contract! 

Chris_Atkinson

The cost should have been per person and that way singles and couples are not an issue.  If a couple choose to share a room fine but absolutely last minute arrivals should have been on the sofa bed.  Don’t know whether you were consulted or just felt pressurised to accept this decision but either way unacceptable.  It’s up to you whether you want to be subjected to this type of behaviour by friends but I know it would ruin the experience for me. Had it happen once, never again!  I don’t like this type of discrimination. 

Ed264

I wouldn't allow my friends to treat me like this. My friends are all considerate people and I know that, had I been single and was relegated to a sofa-bed in the TV room, they wouldn't have hesitated to refund me all the money I'd paid upfront.