2023 DECLUTTERING CAMPAIGN Mrs SD

bit_by_bit

Fantastic news on making your first target @grandmanerd. That is a huge amount of decluttering.

Happy birthday @QueenJess Getting started is always the hardest. Little jobs always help make a difference.

Beautiful blankets @-taff

Sorry to hear DD is still struggling @Dfw38  As someone who was heavily bullied all her school life I can say two things. One was that I used to rememeber that the problem was actually theirs, not mine. I was just the person they took it out on and as such decided that it  was not worth my time to bother with them. I also developed a resilience which has stood me in good stead over the years. She  is very lucky to have such a caring family. Mine didn't know or didn't care. I certainly never discussed it with them. Finally I developed a mantra over the years. Nothing lasts forever and so neither will this. Big super squeezy hugs. 

Forgot to mention a bag of books I left with vulpix on Wednesday for the bookswap we went to.

Out today: a bag of stationary items. Mostly clear plastic wallets , folders and notebooks of varous sizes. My friend will use them at her school. She was thrilled.

Notbooks are one of my weaknesses, I have sorted three large boxes of used and new notebooks. Many have been dismantled and recycled. The rest are for using up over the rest of my lifetime. I am saving the best ones for diaries. I use one to two a year and so they will last about 5 years. The rest are for lists and jottings.

The better small ones have been put by for christmas boxes and two have been put by to give to nieces in the next few weeks. 

Finally getting there with sorting but low energy levels have been slowing me down. Had GS3 today. I was so tired when I got in that I had to have a lie down.

Hugs to all whether you need them or not. 

Dfw38

@QueenJess just shows dd is listening and taking it all in 😂.
Thank you @bit_by_bit, I really appreciate your hugs and support and advice too. I too was bullied for all my school life except for 1 year in primary when I moved school (unfortunately the bullies also went to the same secondary school and continued their campaign there). My mum used to go to the school all the time and they did nothing, and she wouldn't take it further. My grandad had to step in when I was in year 5 (so I had already experienced 6 years of bullying) (my nan wouldn't tolerate it anymore) and went to our civic centre and told them I wouldn't be returning to that school and they had to put me in a new one. Bullying was so bad and I was at the hospital so many times they thought my parents were hurting me. Once I had a broken wrist, a separate occasion I had paint and glue poured in my hair and had to have the whole lot cut off into a pixie crop (I was about 7 or 8, you can imagine the teasing I got for that too) they terrorised me every day of my life and absolutely destroyed my confidence, took years to get it restored and still have wobbly moments now. So I find it 'triggering' (gah I hate that word) that dd is being bullied although it is in a different form. Dd knows she is adored and I would do anything for all of the dc (even buy lime green sheets!) She told me this evening that she doesn't want to go back to school after half term and I don't blame her. The other children's parents think their kids poop doesn't smell so I think if I try to talk about it with them I will be dismissed. I am going to talk to dds teacher again (although dd doesn't want me to). We offered to have a playdate here over half term but one of the mums has read the message but not responded from over a week ago. Gah! School politics 🙄😖 

TC77

@gettingthrifty glad your GP was good, and hope you're improving.
@Dfw38, so sorry to hear about what you went through when young which sounds absolutely horrendous and terrible the school did nothing. I had a year of bullying at the start of secondary and changed schools and do hope schools are better. With DD1 things weren't good at school and she didn't want me to talk to school which I didn't at that time and regret it, it's so difficult to know what is right. Does your DD have an interest /activity out of school involving different children, brownies, guides, sport etc which could provide a reprieve and source of other friends?  As bit-by-bit said if you /DD can see it as others having problems, including the mum who didn't reply - that's about her and not you or DD. Hope half term goes well.

Have decided to have a tupperware with random bits to sort another time rather than taking up a whole drawer - not procrastination just being realistic. Took back boots to a shoe shop whose HQ were lovely and let me return after the normal return period, and another item returned. Shop meant to take ink cartridges doesn't and returned some ood medication.  Also some 'beyond resuscitation' fruit out. A little paper declutter and emails 253.

Off to watch 'sort out other people's life'! 

Keiths_Mum

Evening All

Shredded 140 pieces of paperwork.

2 bags to the clothes bank

5 books to the little free bookshop

Still contemplating the tiny sherry glasses, I think I should get all my glasses out together and have a cull.

Dfw38

@TC77 thank you, i'm alright. If anything it has made me the person I am and I don't mind that - I also chopped my hair off in a pixie crop years later so I wasn't too traumatised by the haircut! I saw one of the bullies about 10 years ago across the street. When she saw me, she started legging it down the road. Not that I would have done anything but it did make me laugh 😂, sorry you were also bullied. It is incredible how common it is. 
Dd is a beaver (which she loves) I am trying to encourage other activities but no luck so far - took me 2 years to convince her to do anything at all because of her separation anxiety. She does do an aftershool computer club once a week where she mixes with others and enjoys that.  I am of the mind set of b#gger them but obviously with dd being little she feels differently. She keeps asking why and I have told her that they have the problem not her and maybe they are having difficulties that we aren't aware of. As for the no communication from the other mum- means I keep the fancy shortbread for us 🤣 in all seriousness though thank you for your thoughts. We will get through it, just got to encourage dd to integrate with others I think. 

short_bird

QueenJess said:

short_bird said:
676-720: 45 GB data deleted in a large digital tidy up.

😲😲😲😲😲😲   

I cleared off all my flash drives as well as deleting stuff from the 2 TB external hard drive - I don't do cloud storage and generate some large files so keep them tidy and do some pruning when needed. 

DundeeDoll

Mrs_Salad_Dodger said:

Nice to hear that you have inspired   Dr M to declutter 😊 he is obviously trying to impress you 😉

that made me grin @Mrs_Salad_Dodger

Haven't done today's 23 minutes, will do 2 tomorrow, cos tonight I played my first ceilidh since before the pandemic. And i haven't played my accordion since lockdown 1, so I was a bit nervous. Our leader mentioned last week a potential new member, a young gentleman whose accordion was up in his parent's house and could I lend him one of mine (I have 4, been meaning to declutter...) it was a fab ceilidh, friend's church hosting a vicar and his wife from Nablus (Dundee is twinned with Nablus) so I also tried some Palestinian dancing. Super evening, the young man thanked me for the loan and made to give me back the accordion. I gifted it to him It does need a service and a new case but he seemed very happy and will check the diary for our next gig. I suspect even in its less than perfect condition mine is better than his from what he was saying. It's always so lovely when a declutter finds a good home for someone else. 

weenancyinAmerica

Managed to get roommate to declutter for 23 minutes for two whole days this week.

Unfortunately or fortunately, we actually have too much food in the house now as three different places provided us with food this week. Having to find places to pass it along too. Will have to sort the food in the pantry soon too. 

I managed to clean out another box of my clothes - only two more to go. I use the boxes on shelves instead of a chest with drawers. So the 4 boxes hold my entire wardrobe. The boxes I still have to do include dressier clothes and summer clothes.

Mainly keeping up these last few days - getting normal trash out, cleaning up kitchen, and finishing homework for all four classes. 2 of the classes end this week - and I have a week off for those before the next two classes start. It is the Book Sale week so I will be spending the extra time working at the library. It is supposed to be a good day weather-wise for the book sale so it will be outside. Am mentally ready to go even if not physically. Only three more appointments with physical therapist. Will see how I get along without it. I can do some of the exercises at home. 

My school was large enough for us to start a new group of people who had been bullied. We ate together at lunch time and ignored everyone else. 

Liverpool_Anne

Hi all, just popping in to say the funeral was as good as could be expected. There was standing room only in the chapel which I always think is a lift for the immediate family. It was a celebration of his life with a few funny stories and some lovely readings. I have done no decluttering today so will have to get back on it tomorrow.
Take care everyone

Fizz2015

Morning All, will catch upon everyone's news and decluttering journey over the weekend. I definately need some time in the tlc carriage - worse 2 weeks in work ever, stress has almost broken me, then my MIL broke her wrist falling down my steps, DD been ill with stomach bug and my nan has now lost her swallow reflex. I will be seeing her today (I understand she will look very different to what I remember, but I need to see her for me. If only for 5 minutes. DD is drawing her a picture.)

The house looks a right mess, OH will give it a good go over weekend. Its DSD's 16th so he had to stay home while I came to my mums with DD.

Hugs to those who need them today xx